THE 9 BIGGEST TURN OFF FOR GUYS – AVOID THIS AT ALL COST

What are some of the turns off for guys? What can a woman do to turn off a guy? How bad is turning off a guy? This article explains some of the nine biggest turns for guys that should be avoided at all costs.

Just like girls, men get turned off. one would opt to go to movies or play a game other while others catch up with friends and engage in other activities. Being virile doesn’t mean they take everything from girls, Including; comparing him with others, disrespecting him, not believing in him (his dreams), and being a nagging type of a girl.

Everyone wants to be cared for, respected, appreciated, and loved. These are not made for the ladies alone. Men want to be appreciated and understood. This makes the relationship grow and enhances bonding. Like women, men have expectations from their spouses, and the feeling should be mutual. This article explains some of the 9 biggest turnoffs for guys which must be avoided.

Biggest Turnoffs for Men

Comparing him with others

Everyone is special in their own different ways. How would you feel when your spouse would always compliment your friend and ask why you are not like your friend? Ussher et al. (2017) explained that this situation annoyed a man. Despite the man's love, he loses interest in spending time with you. Guys want to be appreciated and complimented and let them know they are special in one way or another. Remember, no one is flawless, as doing this to a guy will disgust him.

Disrespect

Respect your man, and they will treat you like a queen (Lambert et al. 2018). Most relationships break up because of disrespect. When a man feels valueless in a relationship, he will walk away no matter his beauty or intelligence. Let the man take up his position. Show him love instead of making him look worthless and valueless, and during challenges, stand beside him and pick him up whenever they fall. Let him retain that position as a man in a relationship when he has nothing to offer. Disrespect turns men off.

A Nagging Type of Girl

Most people cannot put up with people who nag. They complain about everything they see and hear. A nagging type of girl will be on his man’s chest complaining he has no time for him. This is not appreciating his efforts. He will not tolerate it longer. With time you will notice him pull away. Your character pushed your man away and landed him in the hands of one who appreciates his efforts. A nagging character will push away any man.

Mistrust/ Not believing His Dreams

Falling in love means you have full trust in a person. Not believing and doubting your man makes him feel inferior. As a partner, you should boost your man’s self-esteem. Emerson (2020) explained that every man’s dream is to give their best to their loved ones. They want to be there when need be. Be the pillar to hold him up when he feels low. Men love women who hold them up and support their dreams. Questioning your man’s capability is a turnoff.

Bossy Girlfriend

Will you be okay with a bossing man? Most people agree that men should hold the top position in a relationship. A controlling girlfriend makes a man upset and feels worthless. Do not tell him what he can and can’t do. Girls want to control men because of their own insecurities; trust your man. Attempting to change a man is done by many controlling women. Remember, he is a big boy and needs no mother to watch them out. Give him space and personal time. Being a control freak will distance him from you; it is a real turnoff for men.

Denying Him Sex 

People do mistakes, and sometimes punishment, I need. In a relationship, people mess, and you’d be so mad that you would choose to withhold sex for punishment. Kyegombe et al. (2020) stated that men love sex, and getting intimate is important as it regulates the pressure that is in your relationship to cool. Talk about the issue and make him understand what he did wrong other than cross your legs for him. This is a major turnoff for a man; if you block his access, he will find one who will.

Excessive Negativity

Life needs positivity. Having a positive spouse makes the relationship grow and has desired connectivity. Negativity hinders your perception of your surrounding, thus hindering your enjoyment. Talking about bad things happening in your life is not bad but dwelling on them and constantly pouring out to your spouse is awful. Bad memories and bad experiences you’ve had should not be a song your man hears when he wakes up and goes to sleep. This will bring down his sexual desire, thus a major turnoff.

Carefree Type of Girls

You don’t have to care so much, especially about what people think of you, but why would you stay and walk in a pajama? It is your life, and other people should not poke their noses into it. Any man would not be proud walking around with a girl in loungewear. Put on nicely, and look presentable while going for groceries. Make your hair, take a cool bath don’t be malodorous. A clean woman is attractive and shows she loves and respects herself.

Dishonest

Honesty is a pillar of any relationship; stay honest with your spouse. You’d rather have that stony conversation than letting your man uncover your lies. Talk about everything bothering you and make him understand. Humans make mistakes and set their lines straight despite being in the wrong. By doing so, your man will show love, respect, and value to you. A dis-honest woman turns off a man.

Conclusion

Make that relationship work by considering the above turnoff for men. Treat your man like a king and feel loved like a queen. Remember your man has a life outside the relationship, give him a me-time. You can make your relationship work and have that special connection with your man by treating him like the man he is. You should remember that there is a difference between men and women; understand what he wants, what makes him happy, and the things that get on his nerves. By doing so, you will make your man happy. All a man needs is happiness in a relationship. Have that connection that whenever he is down, you will be the person he will confide to. 

References 

Emerson, R. W. (2020). Man the reformer (Vol. 1). Library of Alexandria. 

Kyegombe, N., Meiksin, R., Wamoyi, J., Heise, L., Stoebenau, K., & Buller, A. M. (2020). Sexual health of adolescent girls and young women in Central Uganda: exploring perceived coercive aspects of transactional sex. Sexual and reproductive health matters, 28(1), 1700770.

Lambert, J., Etsane, E., Bergh, A. M., Pattinson, R., & Van den Broek, N. (2018). ‘I thought they were going to handle me like a queen but they didn't’: A qualitative study exploring the quality of care provided to women at the time of birth. Midwifery, 62, 256-263.

Ussher, J. M., Perz, J., Rose, D., Dowsett, G. W., Chambers, S., Williams, S., ... & Latini, D. (2017). The threat of sexual disqualification: the consequences of erectile dysfunction and other sexual changes for gay and bisexual men with prostate cancer. Archives of sexual behavior, 46(7), 2043-2057.