TRUE OR FALSE: WOMEN MASTURBATE MORE WHEN THEY’RE IN A SEXUALLY ACTIVE RELATIONSHIP

Masturbation can be defined as sexual self-gratification. It is stigmatized because it has hints of selfishness. Below is detailed information on why women masturbate more when in a sexually active relationship.

Society is especially unforgiving towards women who masturbate. While men can talk and joke about masturbating, women do not talk about it because it is considered shameful. Most women would rather pretend that they do not masturbate than confess and be judged. The truth is that a woman can masturbate even when she is in an active relationship for the following reasons:

To Release Sexual Tension

Just because the woman is in an active relationship does not mean that her partner will always be available to have sex with her. He might be absent when the woman’s sexual tension strikes. Sexual desires are strong and may need to be urgently relieved. The woman will have to masturbate to release the sexual tension, according to Brooks (1967). 

As a Stress Reliever

Sex helps people to relax. Brancato (2021) noted that masturbation reduces stress and enhances the production of feel-good chemicals, such as oxytocin and dopamine. If the woman is under stress, she will need some comfort, and her man may not be physically available to provide that for her. As soon as the woman gets sexual relief through masturbation, she will be able to relieve the stress.

To Ensure the Body is Sexual

The woman may want to feel sexy or sexual. She will need to reawaken her body so that her sexual sex can come out. Masturbation will help her with that in the absence of her man. Sexual intercourse makes people feel like sexual beings, and if you are not having sex, you are mad to make yourself a sexual being.

To Improve the Sex Life

A woman will masturbate while exploring her body to find out what she likes or does not like during the exploration. That's when she will know what satisfies her and what does not. She may know how to use her body parts during sex to make it more fulfilling with her man. While masturbating, she will also know whether she will need to be stimulated or not to achieve an orgasm. The more she explores her body and gratifies herself, the more she understands the areas that need to be improved in her sex life. 

To Reach an Orgasm

According to Hite (2003), some women achieve orgasms quickly during masturbation, especially a clitoral orgasm. The sensations that enable clitoral masturbation are controlled rhythms, and the only person who can direct the rhythms perfectly is the woman. She will know when to stroke the clitoris lightly or intensely. It is unlikely that a man can help a woman reach a clitoral orgasm. No wonder clitoral orgasm is achieved when the woman is in control, for example, during the woman on top position. Having a clitoral orgasm is a very personal affair for women who discovered that that was the only way they could achieve an orgasm.

To Fill a Void

People being in an active relationship does not mean that they are in a sexually fulfilling relationship. When they masturbate, they can fill the void their partner misses without venturing outside of the relationship to find gratifying sex. Masturbation can leave people happier and more sexually satisfied than having sex with their partners. Masturbation will also be useful to the couple if they do not have the same sexual level. Some people seem to want more sex than others, and if there is such discrepancy between partners, they can fill that gap with masturbation.

To Feel More Sexually Gratified

A woman masturbating is not always a sign that she lacks sexual gratification. It has been reported that the more a person has sex, the more they want it. Therefore, people in satisfying relationships seem to masturbate even more because sex is roaming more in their minds than when they were not in relationships and having active sex.

To Have Sexual Gratification Without Cheating

Women may want to relieve their sexual tension without cheating on their men. Some women's marriages have even invested in sex toys. They want to be sexually satisfied without involving a third party.

Addiction to Masturbating 

Bowman (2017) noted that some women are addicted to masturbation. No matter how sexually gratifying sex is with their partner may be, they still want to masturbate.

A Sign of Sexual Freedom

Women want to feel that they are in control of their bodies by having their sexual needs satisfied when they want without involving anyone. Since men masturbate without being judged, women also want that freedom. They feel good when they can find sexual gratification by themselves.

As Foreplay

Masturbation can be part of foreplay. When the woman masturbates, she can prepare herself for sex by ensuring that she has sex when she is ready. Some couples can allow masturbation to be part of foreplay because it turns them on when they watch their partner masturbating. Studies have shown that gay people enjoy sex the most because they practice a lot of masturbation before there is penetration, especially lesbians. 

Conclusion

Masturbation does not end just because someone is in an active relationship. Some people feel more sexually contented through masturbation than when they involve their partners. The fact that they enjoy masturbation more than they enjoy having sex with their partners may or may not be related to the sex life with their partners. Some women may be addicted to masturbation, and their partners may misunderstand that to mean that the sex between them is unsatisfactory. When a person is addicted to masturbation, it has nothing to do with their partner. Suppose a couple can approach the issues surrounding masturbation within their relationship by openly communicating about it. In that case, they may consider including it in their sex life without feeling any shame or guilt. The fact is that masturbation is not harmful. 

References

Brancato, S. (2021). " Feeling Myself": Masturbation In Women's Coming Of Age Novels. 

Georgetown University.

Brooks, P. A. (1967). Masturbation. The American Journal of Nursing, 820-823.

Hite, S. (2003). The Hite Report: A Nationwide Study of Female Sexuality. Seven Stories 

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Bowman, C. P. (2017). Persistent Pleasures: Agency, Social Power, and Embodiment in 

Women's Solitary Masturbation Experiences. City University of New York.