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For most people in a long-distance relationship, there is no better way of having a conversation or engaging in any sexual activities other than through video chatting. It is considered safe and a way to spice their relationships while still away.

Herein are some tips you can use to help you achieve that.

Skype is a virtual way of communicating with people through messaging and video. Some people are in long-distance relationships; hence using video calls as communication or intimacy makes more sense. Once you and your partner agree with virtual sex, it's best to start slowly and experiment by repeating what you like and disregarding the rest. Please do not allow your partner to pressure you into doing what you are uncomfortable with, but try to adapt to your partner's needs as they learn to understand and be patient with you.

It's important to realize that Skype sex can be many things. It can be; mutual masturbation, phone sex with a visual twist, one person masturbating while the other watches, or interacting with sex toys.

Useful Suggestions

Camera Angles

Ensure your camera is well placed at a good angle and distance so your partner can see your sexiness.

Lighting

Good lighting sets the mood. Most people would go for full lights or dim lighting, whatever works best for you and your partner.

Music

Eriksson & Johansson (2017) explained that if you like music, select a playlist that will help you get in the mood.

Clothes

You can try wearing sexy clothes or have clothes on so that you can strip. Creating that sexy mood.

Confident

According to Wilkinson & Pickett (2009), you should not worry if you look good or not. Just know you are sexy at all times.

Tips On How To Have Amazing Skype Sex

Check Your Comfort Levels

Identify if you and your partner are comfortable with the virtual sex. Figure out what your partner likes and what makes you comfortable. You can also set rules and limits for the things you decide on doing. It creates a safe space.

Arrange A Date Night

Henry & Farvid (2017) explained that Skype sex doesn’t necessarily mean stripping up all the time. You can have dinner and get to know each other by familiarizing yourself through video calls. You set a dinner later and watch a movie as you talk. It's a simple way to connect and set aside time to have fantasy conversations and become playful with each other.

Phone Sex

For someone nervous about the first time they do it, you can opt to start by talking dirty to your partner through the Skype voice option. You can talk about your fantasy, role play, what you would wish your partner to do to you, and tell them what they do that pleases you. If you are shy, you can ask your partner what they want you to do for them.

Set The Scene

You can set the scene by tidying up the room, playing sexy music to set the tone, choosing good lighting, and how positioning your camera can either be on your desk or beside your bed. Transform your space into a boudoir of lust.

Masturbation

Once the tone is set and getting into action, you should know that masturbation can be mutual or one way. McNabney et al. (2020) stated that you could either do it simultaneously or one person does it while the other is watching. One way of masturbation is one person doing it while the other talking dirty while controlling the action or directions. Mutual masturbation is when both partners please themselves at the same time.

Sex Toys

You can make use of sex toys. It's up to you to know which toys you are both comfortable using on yourselves. It helps in creating satisfaction with the fact that your spouse is not there to do it themselves. No matter what you choose, don't forget to have fun.

Play Games

Whether it be truth or dare, pick a stick, strip poker, or playing with sex dice, your sex life is sure to stay exciting. Games can open up new levels of communication and allow you to express your most erotic fantasies with each other. It also helps to create a safe space and get you in the mood if you are initially shy with the idea.

Set The Mood

You can set the mood by dressing sexy, stripping, engaging in dirty conversations, and teasing your partner, thus making them ask for more.

Issue Spontaneous Commands

The great thing about virtual sex is it can start anywhere, at any time, so if you have a date arranged for the weekend, you can start the foreplay in advance. That way, you'll be thinking sexual thoughts about each other long before you connect online. Try texting little commands to each other throughout the week. It could be something simple like “wear your sexiest panties and show me tonight” or something naughtier like “take 5 minutes to leave work and play in the bathroom”.

Experiments

You have to know things, what your partner likes, and what you should do. Once you figure that out, play around to see what fits and keep in mind what works for next time. Maybe he prefers a strip show? Or does she like to role-play? It makes it easy because the two of you understand your preferences, likes, and dislikes.

Conclusion

These are but a few things you can try to have an amazing Skype sex. However, you must be truthful and honest while doing it. For instance, does it help in keeping the relationship alive and amazing? All in all, no matter what you do, always remember to have fun.

References

Eriksson, M., & Johansson, A. (2017). " Keep Smiling!": Time, Functionality, and Intimacy in Spotify's Featured Playlists. Cultural Analysis, 16.

Henry, M. V., & Farvid, P. (2017). 'Always hot, always live': Computer-mediated sex work in the era of camming. Women's Studies Journal, 31(2).

McNabney, S. M., Hevesi, K., & Rowland, D. L. (2020). Effects of pornography use and demographic parameters on sexual response during masturbation and partnered sex in women. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, 17(9), 3130.

Wilkinson, R. G., & Pickett, K. (2009). The spirit level: Why more equal societies almost always do better (Vol. 6). London: Allen Lane.