HOW TO GIVE A TANTRIC MASSAGE: A GUIDE FOR MEN AND WOMEN

Who wouldn’t love an erotic massage before sexual intercourse? Herein is everything you need to know about a tantric massage, including; what to do before having the massage,  setting the mood, and how to give a tantric massage.

A tantric massage is inspired by the principles of Tantra, an old practice that originated in some parts of Asia. A tantric massage is extraordinary because it focuses on the erogenous areas like the vulva and the penis. A tantric massage is, therefore, an erotic massage. When giving or getting a tantric massage, breathing, mindfulness, and meditation are involved. It is not a sexual massage, although the tantric massage involves the genitals. The tantric massage can be the foundation of emotional and spiritual healing. The Tantric massage can bring more intimacy into a relationship.

What Is A Tantric Massage?

A tantric massage is an intimate massage aiming at spreading sexual energy throughout the body. The sexually sensitive areas of the body are awakened during the massage. It may seem foreplay, but a tantric massage doesn't prepare you for anything. The end-game is not sex. The idea is to make the whole body feel orgasmic. A tantric massage is usually not a short, quick session. The massage can take at least one and a half hours. There are two types of tantric massage - the Yoni and the Lingham massage. According to Frost & Frost (1989), the Yoni massage focuses on the woman's genitals, while the Lingham massage focuses on the male genitals.

What you should do before a tantric massage

Like any other type of massage, there are preparations a person should make before the tantric massage, and they are as follows; 

Freshening Up

The first step towards physical relaxation is freshening up. Get in the shower and lather up. Leave the bathroom feeling clean and fresh.

Set the mood

No one gets a serious intimate massage in a bright room with glaring lights. The lights should be dim. Sweetly scented candles can also come in handy. You may have work you need to do on your phone or laptop, but that will not happen until the massage ends.

Communicate with your partner

You will have to talk about how long the massage will last or what should not happen like you cannot make a phone call when you have the massage. 

Be comfortable

You do not have to be in a big room, and you also do not need special massage mats. Your bed is okay. All you have to do is to ensure there is comfort.

Have some oil

You don't have to use some expensive massage oil. Coconut oil can work fine. According to Gursche (2008), coconut oil has a slippery feel, and you can warm it before the massage.

How to give a tantric massage

Your partner probably does not know what kind of massage you have set up, and you do not want them to think that you are giving a fore-play type of massage. They may get disappointed. Imagine thinking that a massage will have a happy ending, only for it to be a tantric massage. A tantric massage doesn't focus on sex. Tell your partner the spots they'll need to focus on.

Relaxation

Relax your mind and body. You may hold hands and inhale and exhale deeply together. You could touch and stretch your partner's neck and feet to help your partner relax.

Back massage

Your partner should lie with the face facing down for a back massage as Simkin (2002) suggested. Be keen on the touch that's giving them the most pleasure. Observe how they react to that pleasure. Do not forget to use oil. The back massage should last for at least 20 minutes.

Front massage

Massage the front of your partner’s body. Your partner will turn over and face up. Ensure your partner is comfortable. Ask closed-ended questions to know how your partner feels, like "would you like me to press this part more?"

Give some Yoni Massage

A yoni massage is a tantric massage that is performed on the ladies. The "yoni" is the woman's genitalia. You massage her yoni only if she allows you to, and you'll need to ask her if she'll let you massage her genitalia. Follow the steps below:

• Your finger should find her g-spot. You'll need lube to be able to explore her insides without hurting her. The massage should be pleasurable, not painful. You can also touch her clitoris and her breasts while finding her g-spot.
• Encourage your woman to breathe deeply as you explore her genitalia with a massage. Your woman should also make some movements so that the sexual energy can spread all over her body.

Give Some Lingham Massage

Lingham is a symbol connected to the Hindu god known as Shiva. The symbol is phallic-shaped. The Lingham massage does not need a hard penis. The penis may or may not be erect for a successful Lingham massage. The massage styles you'll need to use are as follows:

The Upstroke

The penis (the lingam) points to the navels, and you make up and down strokes with it.

 The Downstroke

 The downstroke is like the upstroke, but the penis points downwards towards the perineum.

Feathering

Lightly touch the tip of the penis with your fingers or hand.

You could also include the anal canal, known as the base chakra. The man should be the one to control the masseur's finger as it goes into and out of the anus. The number one rule for all sexually active people is that nothing goes into the anus without lube.

Conclusion

The goal of a tantric massage is not an orgasm, but it's still fine if the massage receiver can get an orgasm. The tantric massage is meant to send the sensations, i.e., the sexual energy, all over the body. Tantric massage may not be foreplay, but it doesn't mean that it will not feel like foreplay. the couple may discuss how the experience was for them so that they do better during the next tantric massage session after the massage. It is not right to presume that a tantric massage should lead to sex. Your partner may not feel so. you may have to wait for at least 30 minutes so that your sexual session starts with some foreplay if you want to engage in sex after the massage.

References

Frost, G., & Frost, Y. (1989). Tantric Yoga: The Royal Path To Raising Kundalini Power. Weiser Books.

Gursche, S. (2008). Coconut Oil: Discover The Key To Vibrant Health (Vol. 37). Book Publishing Company.

Simkin, P. (2002). Supportive Care During Labor: A Guide For Busy Nurses. Journal Of Obstetric, Gynecologic, & Neonatal Nursing, 31(6), 721-732.