THE PSYCHOLOGY OF SUBMISSION EQUAL BUT DIFFERENT

There are various sex plays that lovers can engage in to spice up their romantic affairs. BDSM practices are a common sex phenomenon in most modern couples. Dominance and submission are a part of the broad range of sexualities in BDSM. Partners can explore many bondage plays depending on their kink interests and preferences. The psychology behind submission is one of the top misunderstood topics. This blog covers all aspects you need to know concerning D/s. 

Submission and dominance are a part of the BDSM world that focuses on expressing power more than enhancing physical sensations. People outside the BDSM culture view dominance as the preferable role as it consists of power dynamics, while the sub is seen as a tool for kinky sex and to serve the dominant partner. However, this is not usually the scenario as it entails equal sharing of power but from different perspectives. Individuals outside the BDSM lifestyle view the dominant partner as the powerful and state the kind of play while the sub is weak and vulnerable. To clear this and other misconceptions on the psychology of submission, check out the information below.

What Is a Sub/Dominant Relationship?

This is a relationship based on the power play in all erotic sessions, even other parts of their lives. A sub, in most cases, is usually a woman who is subject to his partner's demands, the dominant during power sex play. Any partner can be a dominant, sub, or switch. A sub is expected to follow her dominant's orders in kinky sex. Partners can be dominant in some moments and sub in others or maintain one role throughout their sex life. Submission is all about the consent and willingness of both lovers. Its unique sexuality entails manifesting one's emotions, feelings, and desires through physical power play. 

Misunderstandings of The Sub/ Dominant Relationship

The BDSM lifestyle is one of the sex topics with lots of myths surrounding it. People tend to have negative thoughts and beliefs with negative projections of the BDSM world as a sex play linked to harm, violence, brutality, abuse, criminality, and craziness. 

Submission and dominance relationships depend on each partner's agreement, trust, and power roles. It entails push and pulls among two consenting individuals, each with their power spectrum. The relationship uniquely prioritizes power equality to satisfy the demands and fantasies of both partners. The common misconceptions associated with the submission/ dominance romance include; 

• Submissives have no say in the relationship, especially during sex, and they are supposed to follow their partner’s commands at all times. 
• Dominants have the upper hand in all activities and can do whatever they feel like to the sub. 
• Asking for permission or opinion from a sub implicates weakness in the dominant hence it isn't very encouraging.
• A sub partner asking for her needs or fetishes to be met against the role of subs as they are not supposed to ask but submit fully to what they are ordered to. 
• In D/S games, light play, teasing, and laughing is not allowed as it kills the power-play point.

The above highlight wrong thoughts on submission. On the contrary, dominance and sub-games support power-sharing and equality. It's a naughty sex play between romantic lovers who are willing to take their love encounters to heighten levels using the methods they both deem fit. The points below will aid you in understanding the submissions roles well;

• Before any submission and dominance play, both partners must have mutual consent agreements and know what they are about to dive into. Though a dominant is perceived to be in control, they need the sub's permission before trying any act. 
• For a sub to agree or follow the dominant's orders, rules and boundaries are already set with both partners' consent.
• Subs can ask and express their sex demands or desires during power play. There are no limitations on projecting your needs. Dominants can freely question their partner’s opinion communication is the key to great sex experiences. 

The Link in Power, Trust, And Control In Submission/Dominance Relationships

Female submissive partners are usually projected to kneel while naked to submit their bodies to their partners. They are exposed to pain and hardcore or rough sex. What’s the idea of BDSM play, if not these kinds of sexual experiences? Anytime a woman or man submits to their dominant partner, it's usually on their consent and acceptance. 

As stated above, D/S relationships entail power equality and sharing in different perspectives. The dominant can be seen as the powerful partner, but the truth is the sub is as powerful as them too. The sub usually controls the power play. Without a willing submissive, no dominant can exert their kinky nature. Ds cannot control or dominate any woman if they are not ready for it. Any individual in the D/S partnership can opt to stop anything they find unfit or even the whole relationship at any time.

The dominant is only responsible and capable of ordering the sub but cannot force them to follow what they say. A sub has all the freedom to decide whether to kneel or bend, as stated, for example. The trust supports the equality in power in each other. The sub-trusts the dominant with their body that why they fully abide by the rules and directions given. On the other hand, the dominant trusts the sub to follow their commands. Integrity, discipline, love, and trust are essential for an effective and legal sub-dominant relationship. 

Conclusion

Each order from the D is linked to the type of kinky sex the partners desire. This kind of relationship enhances bonding trust in lovers as they connect in various ways. It can be used to feed your inner fantasies and desires. Submission is, therefore, a two-way act that demands consent, willingness, integrity, and understanding. It's a simple power exchange in lovers as they share what they like to experience and their definition of love. The sub has an equal partner as the dominant, and there is no D/S relationship without a willing submissive.