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7 TRICKS TO GET YOUR BOYFRIEND TO SPANK YOU IN THE BEDROOM

7 TRICKS TO GET YOUR BOYFRIEND TO SPANK YOU IN THE BEDROOM

7 TRICKS TO GET YOUR BOYFRIEND TO SPANK YOU IN THE BEDROOM

Have you ever thought of exploring bondage spanking with your partner and do not know how to bring it up? Here are amazing tricks, including asking directly, talking dirty during sex, and setting up the rules.

Spanking is among the intense and kinky activities you can always consider if you want to take your sex life to a whole new level. Have you ever encountered spanking? How can you get your man to spank you without any challenges? You can apply better tricks and methods to make your man fulfill all your spanking needs. Getting your boyfriend to spank you is one of the most common questions. With the help of this article, you will technically learn different methods you can apply to make your boyfriend spank you. 

What About Spanking 

Understanding what spanking entails is essential, especially when you want to experience sensational pleasures. Generally, spanking is the act of either beating someone's body using your palm or wood. According to De Neef et al. (2019), spanking is a form of pain play in BDSM. It can also be introduced in your bedroom for some erotic sexual moment. Spanking is something that will increase your sex drive and moods. It is commonly done using spankers made from leather or wood. You can also give your partner an erotic spank using the palm of your hand. However, consider spanking your partner on body parts with enough flesh like the butt and thighs. This helps prevent any injuries.

Tricks to Get Your Boyfriend to Spank You in the Bedroom

If you are exhausted from the obvious sex activities, you can try out different fantasies, including spanking. You can get your boyfriend to spank you in the bedroom easily and effortlessly. All you need is to apply the following tricks;

Ask Your Man Directly 

You can always tell your man you want to explore spanking for some erotic and intense pleasures. Moreover, you can always wait until your partner is relaxed or bring the subject up during dinner. Tell your partner how you badly want them to spank you. Subsequently, you can also wear revealing outfits that focus more on your butt. 

Wear Some Personalized Panties 

You can do different things to make your partner spank you in your bedroom. This could be one of the special messages you can send your boyfriend when you are in your bedroom. Moreover, there is a wide variety of panties boldly written 'spank me.' This could be the right panty choice if you want to explore some erotic spanks. You can also consider wearing a crotch-less panty. 

Tell Your Man You Like It When They Are in Control

The use of force in the BDSM community is one of the most common hardcore plays. Being under your partner's authority makes the game pleasurable and worth trying. It is all about dominance. Tell your partner to be dominant and experience some intense and sensational pleasures. For women, being dominated is what defines an erotic and intense play. Let your partner know that you want them to dominate you for some intense and sensational spanks.

Talk Dirty During Sex

How can you even maintain silence when your partner is spanking you? Consider talking dirty to make the whole experience enjoyable. Harris, D. (1995) states that dirty talking is one of the most distinguishing features of sex. However, it is also appropriate to let your partner understand the words you are using to avoid confusion. There are numerous words your partner would love to hear from you whenever they are spanking you. Ensure your dirty talk is sexually related to making the experience pleasurable and sensational. 

Experiment Spanking with Your Man 

Are you a beginner at spanking? Then your partner might not understand what you want to gain from the spanks. Consider trying it on your partner first to make them feel the intense pleasures of your erotic spanks. However, ensure you only focus on the fleshy body parts to make it safe and comfortable. Your partner’s thighs and butt cheeks butt are the best spots to spank. When your partner uses their hands for spanking, ensure they are not wearing any ring to prevent scratches and scars on your skin. 

Let Your Boyfriend Know What to Use 

Being new in the BDSM community, your partner might not know the right tools to use during a spanking session. Besides your hands, other valuable tools can be used to offer intense spanks. Also, the spank intensity depends on what tool your partner uses. There are different bondage tools you can consider, from your hand, paddles, whips, floggers, to canes. These tools are designed perfectly with different materials, colors, sizes, lengths, and styles. This allows you to choose what suits your taste and preference. However, consider sticking on tools like the paddle and floggers if you are a beginner. 

Set Up Some Rules 

Boundaries are essential in all BDSM scenes. There are rules set before the beginning of the scene to help prevent both parties from damage and pain. These rules help you explore a safe and comfortable bondage experience. Therefore, consider setting rules that will limit your partner from crossing the boundary. Also, consider creating safe words that are easy to remember. Technically, these words can represent a start, pause and stop. You can go for colors like green, yellow and red that are easy to recall during the scene.

References

Harris, D. (1995). Dirty Talk. The Baffler, (7), 91-97.

De Neef, N., Coppens, V., Huys, W., & Morrens, M. (2019). Bondage-discipline, dominance-submission and sadomasochism (BDSM) from an integrative biopsychosocial perspective: A systematic review. Sexual Medicine, 7(2), 129-144.

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