SQUIRTING ORGASMS, GETTING TURNED ON, AND REAL FOREPLAY FOR WOMEN

Every woman wants to achieve an orgasm. You need to get turned on and try having some foreplay before penetrative sex for you to have an orgasm. 

Foreplay has always been believed as the warm-up one has before one gets into penetrative sex. Most people think that for a woman to get turned on and achieve an orgasm, they need to have penetrative sex. This is never the case. Women have often reached orgasm just by getting involved in foreplay activities. Most have failed to achieve getting an orgasm through penetrative sex. Instead of focusing your energy so much on the penetration sex, you can try and channel some energy toward foreplay. Some foreplay activities include striking the clitoris, deep kissing, and oral sex. Some of the ways women get turned on during foreplay include;

Touchy Tongue

Your partner can try kissing your body parts. They can start by kissing your lips, and then go to your neck and even the ears as they please. They can bite your necks too. A little hickey once in a while should not hurt. According to Moore (1990), a hickey, also known as the love bite, is used to show our affection towards someone. The kissing can arouse someone sexually, and you may get an orgasm if it is done for a longer period. Some say that it is at times more pleasurable than penetration sex.

Nipple Play 

This may involve sucking or massaging the nipples. According to Younis &Maamoun (2016), nipples are one of the erogenous zones in humans that, when given attention during sex plays, can result in explosive orgasms. Most women get turned on just by sucking their nipples as the feeling is always sensational.

Dry Humping

Your skin rubbing against your partner's skin will always feel great for you. Your partner can rub their penis on your clitoris without penetrating you. It always turns someone on, making one look forward to penetrative sex. Reynolds (2021) noted that some people could achieve an orgasm through dry humping. It can sometimes sound gross to you, but you will love the whole experience when you try it. 

Oral Sex   

Not everyone enjoys oral sex. If you have never tried it, you are missing a lot. Ask your partner to go down on you and experience the pleasure you have never felt. Your partner can start by licking your clitoris. You are likely to achieve an orgasm through oral sex. The good thing about oral sex is you can have it raw. You do not have to wear condoms or use lube on your tongue. Try it and get to experience a sensational feeling that leads to an orgasm.

Giving and Receiving    

Foreplay does not necessarily mean that you should be the one on the receiving end. You can try by being the one who is giving it out. Some people get turned on and achieve orgasm by performing some sexual activities on their partner. You can start by giving them a blow job or a hand job by striking their penis. You will get turned on by the sounds they make or their reaction as you are giving them the blow job. You will find a lot of pleasure in being on the giving end than on the receiving end. 

Fantasy    

You can always try and play fantasy games with your partner. You can go to a club and pretend you are a stranger to your partner. You can then go ahead and find a place and try to seduce each other. You are likely to get turned on, and you might end up having sex and achieving some orgasms. You can even achieve an orgasm without having sex. 

Masturbation

Foreplay also involves masturbating. Masturbation is the deliberate self-stimulation for sexual pleasure. According to Leonard (2010), masturbation is harmless and convenient for everybody. You can lie down and try to gently rub and massage the clit. You will realize that you are getting aroused. Your partner can also try and do that to you. They will get you turned on before even having penetrative sex. You can introduce sex toys and get to experience the feeling they give out. The vibrator can also come in handy. It will give you some vibrations that will sexually arouse you. At times you may end up achieving an orgasm.

Conclusion 

The great thing about achieving an orgasm is that you don't necessarily need to have a partner. It can be great if you have a partner to turn you on, but at the same time, if you do not have one, you don't have to fret. If you feel like your partner has the habit of going straight to penetrative sex, you can ask them to start with foreplay to get you turned on. You can also try to turn yourself on before getting it down with your partner. At times, you may not be in the mood to have sex, but you also want to achieve some orgasms. Why not try dry humping on your partner with your clothes on if you know you will likely have an orgasm.  

References

Moore, J. (1990). Lovebite.

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