The Taboo of Anal Sex: Or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bum

Why are there anal sex taboos? Is anal sex bad? What are the effects of anal sex to an individual, and why is anal sex taboo? This article explains the taboo of anal sex.

Common misconceptions fuel anal sex taboos, such as homophobic tendencies and fecal fears. These misconceptions might be limiting your pleasure. Anal sex is now more common than before. Taboo is a common sexual fantasy. The idea of doing something that people consider unusual can be a big turn-on. Anal sex is not bad, but if it's not normal to you or if you were brought up with certain views, it can be taboo to you. Some of the reasons why there are anal sex taboos are:

Homophobic Tendencies

In some cultures, anal sex was considered part of human sexuality, but in many, it was stigmatized and was punished by death or mutilation. For instance, In the UK, in 1861, removed the death penalty for anal sex, but it made any male homosexual acts an offense that could land one in prison. It was decriminalized in 1967. These laws were commonplace during colonization. Pickett (2022) stated that gay marriage is becoming legalized worldwide, but still, there are homophobic stigmas and stereotypes, which means extra work has to be put in to challenge the ones who still think it's wrong.

Fecal Fears

Understandably, as people excrete through the anus, people will fear feces. It does not mean anal is bad. Just make sure you aren't due to take a dump. It is important to prepare, including making sure you've used the toilet a few hours before having anal sex. Also, you can lay down a towel or some sheets, ensure you have tissues and a shower nearby. There might be a risk of some mess, but that is not a big deal since we are all human, and no one should be ashamed of a natural bodily function. There is also fear of uncontrollable anal leakage. A small percentage of men and women reported this happening, but there was no confirmation whether that was a result of a one-time thing or a regular practice of anal sex. Condoms are essential in anal sex, especially if you have vaginal sex after. It reduces the risk of spreading feces into the vagina because it might cause bacterial vaginosis.

Is Anal Painful?

The pain might make people think anal is bad. However, there's a fine line between pain and pleasure, especially because there is a way nerve receptors work when people are in a high state of arousal. It's important to know that the anus does not lubricate naturally, so you should always use lube. Silicone and oil-based lubes work wonders. When individual plans on using sex toys for anal, ensure the toys have a flared base to avoid getting lost in your ass; if you get uncomfortable, just back off. When there's no good preparation, arousal, and a lot of lube, there could be anal tearing and damage to your anus. It's normal to get a little blood afterward, but if there's a lot of blood and pain, you should see a doctor.

Reasons to Stop Worrying and Love Your Bum

Anal sex gives you and your partner a whole other pleasure to enjoy how you want. When you have been thinking about anal sex, the following are reasons that should make you stop worrying and love your bum.

Anal Orgasms are Intense

The anus has lots of sensitive nerve endings. According to Sayin (2017), anal sex can stimulate the prostate and lead to orgasm. Prostate orgasms are intense and can send orgasmic waves from head to toe. A woman's g-spot and A-spots are located along the vaginal wall, and an individual can indirectly stimulate them during anal sex. These Spots can produce full-body orgasms, and rubbing them right may lead to squirting.

Anal Sex is a Way to Explore Your Sexual Desires

Being open to a new experience can help you become sexually adventurous. Taking charge of your pleasure is fulfilling. You have the chance to use sex toys which makes it possible for anyone to be on the giving and receiving end of pleasure. You can start with a tiny butt plug to work your way up to a penis or strap-on. If you both want to be penetrated, you can do it as long as you sanitize your toys before sharing them.

Anal Sex Can Build Intimacy if You're with a Partner

Anal sex requires good communication and plenty of time spent trying different positions to find what works for both of you. You get real personal during anal sex with your partner. Reynolds et al. (2015) suggested that individuals need to communicate openly with their partner, such that if something hurts, don't be afraid to speak up. All this talk and play tightens the bond between people. Women find anal sex emotionally positive and more intimate than regular sex.

There are Health Benefits

There are health benefits for anal sex and other types of sexual activity. Marston (2018) explained that some of these benefits include: headache relief, a stronger immune system, boosted libido, menstrual cramp relief, better sleep, and putting one in a happier mood. The benefits of getting an anal orgasm include stress relief, reduced inflammation, better skin, improved circulation, and improved circulation.

Anal Eliminates the Risk of Pregnancy

Would you love to enjoy some penetration without the risk of getting pregnant? If your greatest concern during sex is getting pregnant, you should consider having anal sex because you'd never get pregnant while practicing anal sex. Nevertheless, it's still important to practice safe sex.

Conclusion

Anal sex is good, depending on an individual's perspective. Each person has a different view and expectation on the form of pleasure they want to engage. However, anal sex is advised as it enables one to have an intense orgasm and build better intimate relationships with their partners, among other benefits. Individuals can try out anal sex to know the feeling. All you need is enough preparation, communication, and consent for anal sex to enjoy all sexual benefits.

References 

Marston, C. (2018). Pornography And Young People’s Health: Evidence From The UK 

Sixteen18 Project. Porn Studies, 5(2), 200-203.

Pickett, B. L. (2022). Historical Dictionary Of Homosexuality. Rowman & Littlefield.

Reynolds, G. L., Fisher, D. G., & Rogala, B. (2015). Why Women Engage In Anal Intercourse: Results From A Qualitative Study. Archives Of Sexual Behavior, 44(4), 983-995.

Sayin, H. Ü. (2017). Female Orgasmic Consciousness: New Horizons. Sexus Journal, 2(4), 117-145.