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FLIRTING 101: HOW TO BE CHARMING AND NOT CREEPY

Flirting 101: How To Be Charming and Not Creepy

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Barbara Santini
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Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Advisor
Veronika Matutyte
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Katie Lasson
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🌟 Quick Summary 🌟

  • 🔹 Flirting 101 gives you the secret recipe for charm without the cringey vibe. 💘
  • 🔹 Learn how to confidently approach someone without crossing into the creepy zone. 😌
  • 🔹 Discover the art of body language – it speaks louder than words! 🗣️
  • 🔹 Top tips on humour, eye contact, and knowing when to pull back. ✨
  • 🔹 Flirting is all about balance – make them laugh, make them feel special. 😏

💋 Key Advice & Tips from Our Experts 💋

  • 🔑 Tip 1: A genuine smile and light eye contact are your best tools – nothing says charm like sincerity! 😁
  • 🔑 Tip 2: Keep the conversation light and fun, but don’t force it. Let things flow naturally. 🏄‍♀️
  • 🔑 Tip 3: Respect boundaries – if they seem disinterested, *pull back* and don’t push. 🙅‍♀️
  • 🔑 Tip 4: Be yourself – don’t try too hard, just let your natural charm shine through! ✨

When you have a crush on someone, and you want to get their attention, there are ways to make them understand what you feel about them without looking creepy. Below are ways you can flirt without looking creepy including dressing well.

Most people appreciate flirting because it makes them feel good. According to Hall et al. (2010), flirting shows a romantic or physical attraction to another person.You should know people do flirt for different reasons. There are those with genuine reasons, and others are there to play with the feeling of others. You should be able to differentiate between the two groups of people. It is sometimes hard to go to a person and let them know how you feel because reactions will be different.

You can look charming and not creepy by how you present and carry yourself around people. Most people do different things with the intention of charming someone, but things turn out otherwise, making your mission unsuccessful. This article highlights how to be charming and not creepy.

Do Not Use Traps

Why would you use a trap on a person you have a crush on? This will turn out to be scary, and instead, they will pull away from your reach. You can never get a person's attention with this technique if you are thinking of using it anywhere. Using traps will make them feel threatened, and you won’t have the chance to show your interest to them.

Avoid Touching

This is the worst thing you can do to a person you seek attention from. That is so creepy, and most people will not fall for the weird approach. How would you feel if you are busy walking or set in the bust heading home and there comes someone seated next to you and they are all over you. How are you going to take that? This is an invasion of someone's personal space and disrespecting their privacy. If you are hitting on someone and you get there, do not even think of moving your hands because it is the start of a wrong approach and is disgusting. 

Do Not Be a Player

Be polite when introducing yourself to a person, and watch how it will work wonders.   Raatma (2002) state that politeness shows that one cares about the other person. Most people will not be okay with an arrogant approach for the first time and expect that you will win. Choose your words well, and respect their space to give a good first impression so that the person would feel like you are a well-composed person with self-respect. Do not start a conversation with arrogance to avoid making it hard to approach them again.

Dress Well 

Try to look cute and dress well to be presentable and attractive. Be a person who is serious about life from the first sight. It is known how you dress says a lot about you. This goes for both genders. Make your hair since your decency matters and will give you a bonus. It is like going to an examination while you already have some marks.

Smile and Laughter

Laughter is an ice-breaker and you will be able to entice your admirer with ease. You will look charming when you have a sense of humor. Moreover Bullard (2020) state that laughter has health benefits. Making them laugh is a good move. People want to be around those who make them happy. Laughter brightens the day. Imagine they have been so busy at work and had no time to catch up with anyone. The only thing they have is exhaustion, and all they need is to get some rest. Them boom, you show up looking decent and smart. Your approach should be sensible with an additional spice of sense of humor. How would a person ignore someone like that? You will make them laugh or smile whenever they remember you.

Keep a charming smile on your face to avoid going to a person while frowning as if you had fought with them. A smile lessens the tension that might be there. When you approach someone with a smile, they will reciprocate with the same gesture making everything easy for you.

Be Simple 

The simplicity we are talking about here is how you communicate with a man. When reaching out to a woman you are hitting on, talk to her just like any other person. Do not exaggerate the talk and the tone. Be yourself because that is what people love. Most people love to be treated normally without any exaggeration. Be honest about everything you say. Do not contradict anything because your lies will be unraveled with time, and it won’t end well.

Consider the Place 

Be careful when approaching someone. You might prepare well, but the place and the time you are doing that is wrong depending on the person. For example, you cannot approach a woman or a man working in a place where they need to be nice and good to the customers and bring in your intentions. Yes, you have pure intentions but at the wrong place because this person is paid to be nice and inviting as possible.

Also, if you meet her in the bar having some drinks, it will be easy for you to approach her. You can offer her some drink and make sure they will leave you with her phone number. It would be best if you did not try to express your feeling at this time because maybe they are high, and you might make irrational decisions.

Make It a Group Event

Throw a party at your place or an outdoor party among your visitors. Make sure your crush is present. This will be positively taken compared to when you would have invited them alone. Having your buddy around makes it subtle you would have used a  charm to succeed.

Conclusion

When trying to make your intentions known to the person you are hitting on, try to make so much as not to send a wrong signal because you will be misunderstood, making you have a hard time. You know what to do with the above information. Go through it to make yourself charming and not creepy. 

References

Bullard, T. Laughter may be the best medicine, but only if we titrate it to effect by EMSUKAdmin| Jul 27, 2020. 

Communication Of Romantic Interest: Development Of The Flirting Styles Inventory. Communication Quarterly, 58(4), 365-393.

Hall, J. A., Carter, S., Cody, M. J., & Albright, J. M. (2010). Individual Differences In The Raatma, L. (2002). Politeness. Capstone.

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