HOW TO NAVIGATE SEX WITH ANXIETY

Men and women experience sexual anxiety at different times over the years. You may feel anxious about how good you can be in bed, and that's normal. There are ways to navigate sex without anxiety, including; understanding sexual anxiety, signs of sexual anxiety, tips to cope with it and own your bed.

It can be a problem if this repeats itself several times because it can influence your quality of life. Anxiety may be real when getting into a new relationship and may affect your connection. There are various ways to notice it and ways to cope. Learn more about how to navigate sex with anxiety through the discussion below.

Understanding Sexual Anxiety

Laumann et al. (1999) noted that sexual anxiety or sexual performance anxiety could originate from sexual dysfunctions, bad past sexual experiences, or stress. Partners may sometimes get worried about how they look before each other or their prowess in bed. Others may only be challenged by the concept of getting intimate with another person. Such can bring extreme nervousness that could cause sexual avoidance. Communication may be the most effective factor to consider. It helps keep hope alive, especially in long-term relationships. Despite giving more comfort, it can help determine the root cause of your anxiety. That helps narrow it down to a more satisfying sexual life.

Signs Of Sexual Anxiety

A person may or may not tell they are sexually anxious. While it may seem obvious, it can be difficult when dealing with sexual anxiety and having other issues that bridge anxiety at that period. You can start with your mood swings. Perhaps comes when your spouse initiates physical contact. Alternatively, you could be eager for sexual practice. They're among the signs that you're going through sexual anxiety.

Identifying The Triggers

It will be critical to feeling safer or in control if you have ever gone through sexual trauma. Past traumas can trigger failed plans and a stressful workday. Be keen to notice if such experiences come in between your intimate life. You can develop a physical or mental note whenever you realize a mental shift. It may have occurred in the morning or later in the day or resulted from something that isn't sex-related. Sometimes, it may stem from your partner's words or deeds. You can take notes and bring them to the table, but not in an accusatory state.

Tips To Cope With Sexual Anxiety

Own Your Body

Healthy sex life is associated with body image. Feeling insecure about how your body looks may cause worries about your partner's thoughts. You may always ask yourself if he sees you attractive or not. That means it's not favorable for pleasure. According to Schick et al. (2010),  a third of college women were unhappy with their bodies, and such self-consciousness decreased their bedroom enjoyment. Another study with young military men suggested that more than a third didn't like their genitalia image, which always caused erectile dysfunction. Sex experts advise that you should appreciate everything about yourself and be comfortable in your skin. You should look yourself in the mirror t a closer angle and write all you like about yourself. Do this for several days, and you'll begin to like who you are.

Say What You Enjoy

Understanding the things that make you happy can help you learn your needs in the bedroom with your partner. You can easily elaborate your thoughts. Suppose you trust your love interest; you won't find trouble talking bout things that have failed to work. It may encourage them to do something more to help you. Perhaps you're worried bout not achieving an orgasm or your inability to stay aroused; open communication is the key to your anxiety. According to Hogarth & Ingham (2009), partners who reach out and freely communicate experience a more fulfilling and healthy sex life. Also, women who talked more about sex easily reached orgasms more frequently.

Experts advise that people having sexual anxiety should adopt the awareness that they aren't a disappointment to their partners. They should also understand that there's more room for their needs. Therefore, find your voice and have a great time. You can learn how to bring yourself up to success. Forget about performing. It may only be about entertaining others. Instead, study your body well and know what gives it more pleasure. Opening your mouth to utter what's going on at that time brings some relief. Wake up if you want to release the unpleasant sexual encounter.

Get More Knowledge About Your Sex

Sexual performance anxiety may be a problem because many people lack quality sex education. It doesn't imply that you don't understand your bits' direction but about lack of full preparation for sexual encounter realities. Everybody has different needs and functions differently. Perhaps you lack surety about the involved techniques in giving pleasure or are confused about pregnancy myths you once heard about, or your needs and wants cause you feel abnormal. Sex experts insist you seek professional help for reassurance, attend workshops guided by sex educators, or read more books exploring this theme.

You can also get sexual education. Expect to live a sexually unfulfilling life when you're not equipped with appropriate knowledge. You may also want to self-educate by taking your body check and noting what offers pleasure. Explore how you get turned on and what you want to be done for. Masturbation may be portrayed as dangerous or shameful. According to Kaestle  & Allen (2011), masturbation is useful in knowing your body. It can also help improve your relationship with your body and your sexuality.

The Bottom Line

Simple signs of sexual anxiety in women include challenges in getting sexual interest, difficulty with getting to the crescendo, and trouble being aroused. In men, it's the obvious reasons, such as hardships in getting an erection, cumming sooner, or difficulty maintaining an erection. The sign could be from past sexual trauma or worries about sexual activities, such as achieving an orgasm or prowess in bed. However, you can still tackle them by getting proper sex education and knowing your body.

References

Hogarth, H., & Ingham, R. (2009). Masturbation Among Young Women And Associations With Sexual Health: An Exploratory Study. Journal Of Sex Research, 46(6), 558-567.

Kaestle, C. E., & Allen, K. R. (2011). The Role Of Masturbation In Healthy Sexual Development: Perceptions Of Young Adults. Archives Of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 983-994.

Laumann, E. O., Paik, A., & Rosen, R. C. (1999). Sexual Dysfunction In The United States: Prevalence And Predictors. Jama, 281(6), 537-544.

Schick, V. R., Calabrese, S. K., Rima, B. N., & Zucker, A. N. (2010). Genital Appearance Dissatisfaction: Implications For Women's Genital Image Self-Consciousness, Sexual Esteem, Sexual Satisfaction, And Sexual Risk. Psychology Of Women Quarterly, 34(3), 394-404.

Men and women experience sexual anxiety at different times over the years. You may feel anxious about how good you can be in bed, and that's normal. There are ways to navigate sex without anxiety, including; understanding sexual anxiety, signs of sexual anxiety, tips to cope with it and own your bed.

It can be a problem if this repeats itself several times because it can influence your quality of life. Anxiety may be real when getting into a new relationship and may affect your connection. There are various ways to notice it and ways to cope. Learn more about how to navigate sex with anxiety through the discussion below.

Understanding Sexual Anxiety

Laumann et al. (1999) noted that sexual anxiety or sexual performance anxiety could originate from sexual dysfunctions, bad past sexual experiences, or stress. Partners may sometimes get worried about how they look before each other or their prowess in bed. Others may only be challenged by the concept of getting intimate with another person. Such can bring extreme nervousness that could cause sexual avoidance. Communication may be the most effective factor to consider. It helps keep hope alive, especially in long-term relationships. Despite giving more comfort, it can help determine the root cause of your anxiety. That helps narrow it down to a more satisfying sexual life.

Signs Of Sexual Anxiety

A person may or may not tell they are sexually anxious. While it may seem obvious, it can be difficult when dealing with sexual anxiety and having other issues that bridge anxiety at that period. You can start with your mood swings. Perhaps comes when your spouse initiates physical contact. Alternatively, you could be eager for sexual practice. They're among the signs that you're going through sexual anxiety.

Identifying The Triggers

It will be critical to feeling safer or in control if you have ever gone through sexual trauma. Past traumas can trigger failed plans and a stressful workday. Be keen to notice if such experiences come in between your intimate life. You can develop a physical or mental note whenever you realize a mental shift. It may have occurred in the morning or later in the day or resulted from something that isn't sex-related. Sometimes, it may stem from your partner's words or deeds. You can take notes and bring them to the table, but not in an accusatory state.

Tips To Cope With Sexual Anxiety

Own Your Body

Healthy sex life is associated with body image. Feeling insecure about how your body looks may cause worries about your partner's thoughts. You may always ask yourself if he sees you attractive or not. That means it's not favorable for pleasure. According to Schick et al. (2010),  a third of college women were unhappy with their bodies, and such self-consciousness decreased their bedroom enjoyment. Another study with young military men suggested that more than a third didn't like their genitalia image, which always caused erectile dysfunction. Sex experts advise that you should appreciate everything about yourself and be comfortable in your skin. You should look yourself in the mirror t a closer angle and write all you like about yourself. Do this for several days, and you'll begin to like who you are.

Say What You Enjoy

Understanding the things that make you happy can help you learn your needs in the bedroom with your partner. You can easily elaborate your thoughts. Suppose you trust your love interest; you won't find trouble talking bout things that have failed to work. It may encourage them to do something more to help you. Perhaps you're worried bout not achieving an orgasm or your inability to stay aroused; open communication is the key to your anxiety. According to Hogarth & Ingham (2009), partners who reach out and freely communicate experience a more fulfilling and healthy sex life. Also, women who talked more about sex easily reached orgasms more frequently.

Experts advise that people having sexual anxiety should adopt the awareness that they aren't a disappointment to their partners. They should also understand that there's more room for their needs. Therefore, find your voice and have a great time. You can learn how to bring yourself up to success. Forget about performing. It may only be about entertaining others. Instead, study your body well and know what gives it more pleasure. Opening your mouth to utter what's going on at that time brings some relief. Wake up if you want to release the unpleasant sexual encounter.

Get More Knowledge About Your Sex

Sexual performance anxiety may be a problem because many people lack quality sex education. It doesn't imply that you don't understand your bits' direction but about lack of full preparation for sexual encounter realities. Everybody has different needs and functions differently. Perhaps you lack surety about the involved techniques in giving pleasure or are confused about pregnancy myths you once heard about, or your needs and wants cause you feel abnormal. Sex experts insist you seek professional help for reassurance, attend workshops guided by sex educators, or read more books exploring this theme.

You can also get sexual education. Expect to live a sexually unfulfilling life when you're not equipped with appropriate knowledge. You may also want to self-educate by taking your body check and noting what offers pleasure. Explore how you get turned on and what you want to be done for. Masturbation may be portrayed as dangerous or shameful. According to Kaestle  & Allen (2011), masturbation is useful in knowing your body. It can also help improve your relationship with your body and your sexuality.

The Bottom Line

Simple signs of sexual anxiety in women include challenges in getting sexual interest, difficulty with getting to the crescendo, and trouble being aroused. In men, it's the obvious reasons, such as hardships in getting an erection, cumming sooner, or difficulty maintaining an erection. The sign could be from past sexual trauma or worries about sexual activities, such as achieving an orgasm or prowess in bed. However, you can still tackle them by getting proper sex education and knowing your body.

References

Hogarth, H., & Ingham, R. (2009). Masturbation Among Young Women And Associations With Sexual Health: An Exploratory Study. Journal Of Sex Research, 46(6), 558-567.

Kaestle, C. E., & Allen, K. R. (2011). The Role Of Masturbation In Healthy Sexual Development: Perceptions Of Young Adults. Archives Of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 983-994.

Laumann, E. O., Paik, A., & Rosen, R. C. (1999). Sexual Dysfunction In The United States: Prevalence And Predictors. Jama, 281(6), 537-544.

Schick, V. R., Calabrese, S. K., Rima, B. N., & Zucker, A. N. (2010). Genital Appearance Dissatisfaction: Implications For Women's Genital Image Self-Consciousness, Sexual Esteem, Sexual Satisfaction, And Sexual Risk. Psychology Of Women Quarterly, 34(3), 394-404.