HOW TO TELL IF A COWORKER LIKES YOU: 5 STEPS TO DECODING HIS BEHAVIOR
Work is one of the most common places people meet before diving into a relationship. This article teaches you to decode behaviors, including shying off, touching, and body language. You will be sure of your suspicions if you suspect your coworker has taken a liking to you.
It is best not to start a relationship rashly, even if they like you. Find out first if your guy likes you or if he is only friendly with no intentions of taking you as a sexual partner. It won't be easy to cope with the situation if you are new to that person. Herein are ways to decode if your coworker likes you.
How To Tell If a Core Worker Likes You
A guy's signs when he likes you are the same signs a coworker will show when he likes you, although there might be a slight difference. Decoding if a coworker likes you may need you to go an extra mile because you also have to take care of your job, and the workplace is likely large. The following are the hints to look for when a guy likes you:
Pay Attention to His Body Language
It is not hard to tell if a coworker likes you by looking straight into his eyes. There are only two ways people use their eyes when they are into someone. Kleink (1986) noted that a guy might make eye contact because they enjoy looking at you. However, if your coworker shifts his gaze quickly when your eyes make contact, it might be a clear sign that the guy likes you. Sometimes people forget what they are looking at and only realize it after their gazes make contact. It is by nature for the guy to avert his gaze as quickly as it meets you. They will pretend they weren’t looking at you. However, very few people can hide this fact as it is always written on his face.
Staring at someone is one of the best ways for shy people to show they have a liking for someone. Such people are not bod to the point of flirting with you or asking you out for a date. Avoid giving up a shy guy because they can make the best partners.
Hargrave (2008) suggested that you can read a person’s feelings for you by mirroring their body language. That means the guy will adopt your body movement and pose as you do. However, they do such things without realizing it until it's too late. Finding out if your coworker is into you requires close attention to his body language, and you will know if he loves you or not.
According to Goman (2011), touching is a body language that a coworker who is into you will show. Here, touching doesn’t mean a full public display of affection. That is impossible in public. However, touching your arms and shoulder or making small contact as he passes by indicates that your coworker is into you. Failure to return the feelings or seem upset when he makes these gestures will make him feel pushy and awkward to him, which may cause sexual harassment. Doing it otherwise will feel tingles down your spine, showing that you are interested.
Look Where He Spends Most of His Free Time
A coworker who is into you will find time and speak with you. For instance, he will spend most of his time in and out of the office looking for you and striking a conversation. Also, when your coworker tries to ask for some little or insignificant favors, that’s probably an excuse he is making to be close to you and speak to you. Asking favors connects a person to you and knows whether he has the intention or not. Observe if a coworker asks for your favor and, in reality, he doesn't need it; that's a sign that he is into you. He may want to speak with you, but he doesn't have the best way to strike a conversation. Collins (2014) noted that favors give your man a reason to speak to you.
The Guy Shows That He Is Thinking of You
He will start bringing you small gifts, something like candy or coffee in the morning. These gifts may be silly, but they provide a proper way to forge a connection. Also, if you need something in your office and mention it aloud, the guy will make it up for you, meaning that he has been keen on you.
A coworker may wait for you during lunch or when attending a meeting. Also, you may see him waiting for you in the lobby when coming o leaving the workplace. The guy will spend little time he gets with you. For example, the few minutes left before or after work.
It is not always nice and positive. Sometimes, when a guy has a crush on you, they become harsh. For instance, you may recall an experience when a guy was mean to you because he liked you. Grown men also do the same, although it may seem flirtatious. The guy might be otherworldly cold and aloof as if he has the authority, and if that is the case, he may give you extra work or be dissatisfied with your work. These may be because of his feelings that he probably finds hard to handle.
The Bottom Line
The hints mentioned above will help you tell if your coworker likes you or not. You may want to make life hard for him or fail to return the feelings, knowing a guy likes you. However, keep in mind that the guy might not like you if he shows all the enthusiasm. He may be friendly, and you should be careful not to be confused that he is into you. Sometimes it is good to stay silent about the matter and avoid making a fuss.
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