I CHOOSE ME: THE CASE FOR SOLOGAMY

Why would a woman decide to vow and commit to herself other than marrying someone else like the rest? I wonder what goes through your mind when you see a woman get married or marry herself. Whatever it is, it's all up to you. 

On the internet, the case of sologamy always emerges as breaking news. This is because it is not that common in our society. Some people have Eros love where they are romantically fascinated with themselves. Sologamy is also referred to as self-marriage. It is a symbolic ceremony where you commit to maintaining a meaningful, deep, and loving relationship with yourself. Here is what you need to know about sologamy.

The Purpose of Sologamy 

Accepting yourself and putting your physical, emotional, and mental well-being first is the definition of self-love. That is self-infatuation, where you have an extravagant love for yourself.

Sologamy is a cathartic declaration of self-compassion and a promise to commit to you, according to Allberry (2020). The idea is like that of any other marriage where you commit to caring for one fully and taking care of them, but it is all about yourself. However, don't get it all wrong. These people aren't egocentric or approval-seeking since self-care is not selfish. Self-marriage is all about accepting your positive and negative sides and prioritizing self-care to have better relationships moving forward with yourself and others.

Legality of Sologamy 

There are no legal documents to be signed. You will not be on the wrong side of the law when you wed someone else. 

What a Sologamy Ceremony Looks Like 

Sologamy ceremonies are not common, but they are not rare either. Apart from the fact that this person is marrying herself, everything else might be quite normal. There are guests, cake, reception, and even a solo honeymoon to their desired destination.

Solo weddings are charmingly diverse. It’s whatever you’ve always wanted in a wedding. The biggest advantage is that you don't have to argue with anyone about different preferences and tastes. The beauty and marvel of committing yourself to yourself are just as memorable as being the one watching. People who marry themselves fall between a genuine wedding party and a solitary party. 

Sologamy Is Not About Narcissism 

Whenever you think of sologamy, some of your narcissism will pop into your mind. Narcissism is the excessive interest in or admiration of oneself, and one's physical appearance and public perception. According to Decety, & Moriguchi (2007), difficulty in empathy and sustaining satisfactory relationships are just some characteristics of narcissism. Sologamy is about commitment to truly love yourself, therefore, becoming more emotionally accessible to others. Developing a sense of self-worth gives you a great capacity to deal with the human connection.

Sologamy Appreciates Singleness 

We live in a world where singleness is so stigmatized and discouraged. This leads to people jumping into ill-advised relationships. Self-worth becomes something distant, so you need to learn the skill of making yourself happy and putting yourself first before anyone else. We all seek love in the thought of waiting for ‘the one.’ Think about your self-worth before you wish your life away, waiting for ‘the one’. You don’t need anyone else other than yourself. According to Treweek (2020), sologamy is a way of proving that being single is a viable lifestyle option; whether it's short term or long term, in those years that the society dictates you should be married. Therefore, don’t reject your meaningful relationship to seek self-worth and singleness. Marrying yourself just sets a standard and proves that happiness comes from within.

Sologamy is Not All Roses 

We are all humans, and we are prone to make mistakes in our lives. There will be a time when you will let yourself down, and you will be ashamed of that. Just because you are married to yourself doesn't mean you are immune to mistakes. In your vow, you are committed to facing your disappointments and accepting your failures as you adjust to reality. You will have to endure the hardships as you are your own partner.

Sologamy is a Feminist Statement

Dating back to ancient times, marriage success is connected to a woman’s willingness to subordinate herself. A woman marrying without a man undermines everything society believes about a woman needing a man. As a woman choosing sologamy, you should be bold to face the lashing that comes from society. Sologamy is dubbed feminist though it is also eligible to men.

Conclusion

Your looks and body figure don't account for your happiness. The world is changing, and sologamy is not a thing in the shadows anymore. It is fine if you choose to wed yourself in a society that dictates you need a man to be happy. Furthermore, you are not harming anyone. Remember that sologamy doesn't mean that you can't romantically interact with others. It is simply committing yourself and accepting who you are. Therefore, you can still be in a relationship in the future and even get married without being dubbed bigamous. So, it's not a bad idea if you feel the need to commit to yourself.

References

Allberry, S. (2020). Why does God care who I sleep with?. The Good Book Company.

Treweek, R. D. (2020). THE END OF SINGLENESS?.

Decety, J., & Moriguchi, Y. (2007). The empathic brain and its dysfunction in psychiatric populations: Implications for intervention across different clinical conditions. BioPsychoSocial medicine, 1(1), 1-21.