Love is Blind, But Don't Let It Make You Deaf to These Red Flags!

Relationships can be a source of great joy and fulfilment, but they can also pose significant challenges if you fail to spot the warning signs. Here are common relationship red flags and how to handle them according to experts.

Lack Of Communication and Clarity

Has communication become strained or non-existent in your relationship? According to Barbara Santini, Psychologist and Relationship Advisor at Peaches and Screams, failure to communicate regularly regarding thoughts, feelings and plans points towards underlying issues within the relationship itself or your partner’s personal life. She adds: “a lack of clarity about things such as expectations for commitment and future goals should raise alarm bells. Without clearly defined boundaries both partners may end up feeling insecure or taken advantage of later on down the line which could drive them apart irrevocably.”

Controlling Or Unhealthy Behaviour

Tatyana Dyachenko, a Sex Therapist at Peaches and Screams, warns against using manipulation tactics like guilt-tripping to control a partner's behaviour or suppress their emotions. She says “Any form of gaslighting should serve as an immediate warning signal that needs attention rather than being ignored altogether. This type of unhealthy behaviour often leads to further emotional damage over time if left unchecked. Similarly, possessive behaviour such as constantly needing reassurance through text messages throughout the day (even while sleeping!) raises suspicion that the partner has deep insecurity with trusting others around them due lack of self-love or confidence. This will demand respect instead of earning it lovingly.“

Poor Self-Esteem

According to Katie Lasson, sex and Relationship Advisor at Peaches and Screams, individuals with low self-esteem tend to struggle more in relationships than those who feel secure. “They often seek validation externally by expecting too much from others. This behaviour sets unrealistic expectations and leads to disappointment & resentment over time due to repeated cycles of unmet needy demands. Therefore, try to find confidence inside first before seeking external sources, otherwise, you risk facing the same problems.”

How to Handle Crucial Red Flags in Your Relationship

Here are some tips on how to handle crucial relationship red flags:

Communicate Openly and Honestly

Regarding communication, Katie Lasson says, "When faced with a situation where there are crucial relationship red flags, communication helps each person to fully understand what is going on, as well as any underlying issues that may exist. Being open about your feelings will help ensure that both parties understand each other better and can come up with a mutually beneficial solution for addressing the issue head-on together."

Take Time Apart to Reflect

Tatyana Dyachenko advises parties in a relationship to take time apart from each other. She says, “Spending time apart allows you to determine whether the relationship is something worth fighting for. While alone, ask yourself questions such as why did I enter into this partnership? How do I feel when my partner acts unreliably? Good communication skills might help mend certain aspects of your bond. But will you truly be happy staying given all the significant warning signs? It is important to have a self-reflection period for you to find clarity within yourself and make sure whatever path you take after seeing those vital relationships red flags feels like the best choice for yourself emotionally and mentally.”

Be Willing to Compromise & Make Changes

Once both parties communicate openly and honestly about the issue at hand, compromise should always be considered before taking further action towards leaving or staying in the relationship. According to Barbara Santini, this means being willing to adjust behaviours accordingly, which involves taking responsibility for faults rather than placing the blame solely onto someone else. Making changes based on advice from trusted third-party sources such as counsellors, friends family members etc., should also be considered before decision-making.