Masturbation Lubes Guide by Sex Expert Katie Lasson
Don't let dry hands or sex toys damage your delicate genital tissues. Buy these silicone-based, water-based, oil-based, or hybrid masturbation lubes and enjoy a frictionless hand or sex toy play for explosive orgasms.
Some people use lotion or saliva during masturbation, while others do it with dry hands or sex toys. According to Butler et al. (2009), saliva is your body's natural lubricant. Although it doesn't matter which way you prefer for masturbation, using the right lube can intensify the pleasure and limit damages. Also, some men prefer masturbating without using pornography, while others find it more erotic when they watch some kinky videos. Whichever way, the result is to get to orgasm. Therefore, whether you are alone or with your lover, remember to include the following masturbation lubes in your list of bedroom essentials.
What are Masturbation Lubes?
Masturbation is the deliberate self-stimulation for sexual pleasure and may involve fingers, hands, sex toys like vibrators. According to Leonard (2010), masturbation is harmless and convenient for everybody. Partners can also opt for masturbation as a form of non-penetrative sex, which can increase their sexual fantasies. Men also prefer dry masturbation as it feels rougher and more aggressive than well-lubricated strokes. The rougher sensation feels more desirable to those who desire that kind of friction. This may be a result of having little knowledge of lubricant or being unable to access it. Therefore, masturbation lubes are designed specifically for masturbation purposes and can be sued by men or women.
Why Use Masturbation Lubes
Martin (2021) states that dry masturbation may lead to sores and irritated penis. The skin may become red due to hand and skin friction, causing microscopic abrasion and tears. Dry masturbators may be prone to little dry patches on the skin that may sometimes itch. The penis tissue may be damaged and tiny blood vessels under the skin may burst causing plaque buildup. The scar tissue may cause the penis to curve towards the direction of the scar making it shorter than it used to be.
Types of Masturbation Lubes
Silicone Masturbation Lubes
Silicone lubes have no water content, making them last longer than you expect. Silicone feels silky when applied to your skin; a completely different feeling from the one from water-based lube. Silicone lubes are safe for the skin as they do not react with the skin. Wolf (2012) explains that silicone lube is not slippery as water-based lube. You need to be careful when using silicone lube with sex toys as it may react with the toy causing wear on the surface, creating bumps and abrasions, and bacterial infections to your body. A silicone lube works well in water bodies and will not be washed away easily.
A good example of silicone lube is the gun oil that contains aloe vera and vitamin E to minimize skin irritation when having long sessions. Those who love oral sex may find this uncomfortable since it is not safe to ingest. However, it can be used with any type of condom during penetration. Some silicone lubes also have natural ingredients for pleasurable textures and are great for slow strokes and intimacy. However, these lubes are sticky and may take time to wash away from your sheets.
Oil-Based Masturbation Lubes
These are also great lubes for masturbation and can still be used during massages. One advantage of oil-based lubes is that you can ingest them. Therefore, if you are a lover of oral sex, here is a nice deal for you. Kumar et al. (2015) defines oral sex as the act of giving or receiving oral stimulations in the genitals. Oil-based masturbation lubes are also best to use with toys and during anal penetration since they moisturize the skin, making it stretch and will keep away the odor. They come in solid form but melt easily so you should consider hanging them on your list. Avoid using TPE, latex, PVC, or rubber toys together with these lubes since the material will trap oil leading to bacterial growth.
Water-Based Lubes
According to Philpott, Knerr & Boydell (2006), water-based lubes are the safest lubes to use since they are compatible with any sex toy and condom material. They are easy to wash; hence, will not stain up your sheets. Some water-based lubes are made with mouth-friendly ingredients and you can use them when having oral sex. However, that does not guarantee you to ingest them. You need to check the label first to ensure they have safe ingredients since not all lubes are edible. The only downside is that you need to keep reapplying the lube more often since it dries up easily and may make masturbation uncomfortable.
Hybrid Masturbation Lubes
These lubes are usually water-based but contain a small amount of silicone which makes them last longer. Avoid using silicone sex toys together with these types of lube since it will react with them. Hybrid masturbation lube is much silkier than water-based lube, which makes your masturbation session more pleasurable.
Factors to Consider Before Purchasing Masturbation Lubes
Check the Cost
Always go for a pocket-friendly lube. The fact that most people say expensive products are the best is not always the case to be applied everywhere. You might get a lube that is relatively cheap and will give you that perfect feeling you need.
Consider Their Compatibility with Sex Toys and Condoms
Most lubes might not allow you to use with some sex toys. You need to check if the sex toy or condom you plan to use is compatible with the lube. Silicone-based is not suitable to use with silicone sex toys since it will react with the material.
How to Use
- Get a roll of paper towel to control lube from spilling.
- Set the mood by turning on the music or lights.
- When you are fully aroused, apply some lube to yourself for smooth stroking.
- Allow your mind to fantasize about people as it sends a tingle down your spine.
- You don’t have to rush into masturbation. All you need to do is take your time.
- Start by exploring erogenous zones
- you may consider watching some erotic videos and continuing until you climax.
Safety Measures
- Always ensure the lube you are using is compatible with the toy used.
- When using silicone lube, always consider using PVC sheets as it may stain your normal sheets.
- Always apply enough lube and add more if it starts drying up.
- Always take your time before you start up the session.
Frequently Asked Questions about Masturbation Lubes
How Can Couples Use Masturbation Lubricants?
For a Hand Job
Smear some lube into your hands and rub your partner's penis. Work your hand as if it were your wet mouth to make it sensational.
Make Anal Sex Fun
The anal canal does not self-lubricate; therefore, the lube will come in handy for the couple when the anal penetration is painless. Nothing should ever penetrate the butt-hole without lube. Lubrication is very important as explained by Angel (2022).
For Fingering
The best deal about using lube to finger your partner is that you do not have to wait until your partner lubricates naturally to penetrate her. You can finger her anytime. If you are fingering the butt-hole, using lube will make the penetration enjoyable and less painful.
Use Them with Sex Toys
The couple can involve sex toys too and have the most fun with them by smearing them with lube.
In the Shower
If the couple is in the mood for some shower sex, they may carry some lube to the shower and have fun with it. The perfect lube to use in the shower is silicone lube because water-based lube will be washed away. Moreover, oil-based lube will tear the condoms.
For Massage
If you want to give your partner some massage with a happy ending, grab some lube and have fun. Try your best to find all the erogenous spots.
During Sex
The vagina lubricates itself naturally, but you use lube to make it more lubricated for more fun. If the anal canal is being penetrated, then that means that it must be lubricated. Using lube is mandatory for anal sex.
For Oral Sex
Give your partner oral sex with lube, especially silicone-based or oil-based lube, because water-based lube will be washed away with saliva. However, oil-based lube will not be a good idea if oral play leads to sex with condoms because oil and condoms do not mix. Oil-based lube will tear the condom.
What are the Ingredients of Masturbation Lubes?
The main ingredients of masturbation lubes are water, glycerine, dimethicone, and cyclomethicone. It is worth noting that glycerine has been vilified and accused of being a 'sugar' and spreading STIs and yeast infections. Glycerine may be sugary, but it is not natural sugar. Glycerine in its natural form is harmless, but when manufacturers add impurities, you may get a huge yeast breakout.
Are There Allergy Concerns When Using Masturbation Lube
We experience allergies when our immune system is designed to fight harmful pathogens. Sometimes, our immunity thinks it protects us when it attacks harmless things like peanuts, pollen, and shellfish. The trick has always been to avoid what you are allergic to, but nothing prepares you for an allergy to lube. You will know that you have an allergy to lube when you feel itchiness, shock, hives, and a burning sensation after using lube. If you have an allergy to lube, foreplay is very important to you. According to Kreuter et al. (2011), foreplay makes one relax and enjoy sex.
Does Lube Affect pleasure?
Lube enhances pleasure. Lube does not have to be the last thing you need. You can have it for fun. The following are some ways in which lube enhances sexual pleasure;
Important for vaginal sex
The vagina produces natural lube, but sometimes the lubrication is either not enough or the vagina is too dry. Lube comes in handy to ensure the woman enjoys sex no matter how well she can lubricate or not. You can still use lube if the lubrication is sufficient. It does not harm. Lube is also pleasurable during vaginal sex because you do not have to wait until the vagina is lubricated. You can apply lube and get lubricated while you enjoy painless sex. Lube takes care of the pain a woman may feel from friction when not well-lubed.
Can Delay Ejaculation
Wiesner (2019) state that some lubes have been specially made to help men who suffer from premature ejaculation. The lube comes laced with chemical agents meant to numb the penis. The man is, therefore, able to enjoy lubrication.
Perfect for Anal Sex
When having anal sex, it is very important to use lube. The anal canal is not like the vaginal canal. While the vagina lubricates itself naturally and is stretchable, the anal canal has a rigid entrance and does not produce any lubrication. Anal sex would be very painful, and the penetration partner would suffer injuries if there were no lube. For anal sex to be enjoyed, lube must be present.
It Makes Sex Safer
Lube makes sex safer by ensuring that the partners enjoy painless sex without tears and injuries. In reducing friction and injuries, the risk of passing on STIs and HIV is minimized.
Can I Use Lotions and Creams as Masturbation Lube?
It is not advisable to use lotions and creams because some of them may have chemicals that may have harmful effects on the genital area. However, you may use lotion or creams if you are not allergic to the lotion or cream.
Do Lubricants Affect Vaginal Ph?
Everyone can use lube, but not every lube has the same effect on us. When buying lube, you should not pick any lube. It would help if you had a lube that matches your Ph. The pH can directly affect the body part it comes in contact with. The vaginal and anal pH are not the same, and if you are enjoying both types of sex, you may have to purchase two different lubes.
How Do I Clean Off Masturbation Lube?
We can wash away water-based lube without any problem. You only need water. Silicone lube is the toughest to clean, and you may have to use a chemical agent to remove the lube. Oil-based lube is easier to clean than silicone lube as all you need is some warm water.
References
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