HOW TO INITIATE SEX WHEN YOU ARE TOO SHY TO ASK FOR IT

Have you ever initiated sex? Do you shy when initiating it? Herein is about initiating sex when you are too shy to ask for it including; how to use non-verbal cues, ulterior motives, and the horny scale.

Sex is mutual, and anyone in the relationship can initiate sex. However, not all people are courageous enough to make a move. Some people believe that a man should initiate sex. It is the norm when you are at a party you don't understand; you get drunk, a guy flirts,  things get hot, and you look  for a room. This happens because people have a corrupt mind that when a man initiates,a woman  follows.

It is possible for a woman to date a man and feels shy to ask for sex from them. You do not need to say it verbally since you can use non-verbal communication to get the attention you need. Shyness can make you miss having fun in the relationship making your sexual desire not be met. You may have the urge to have good moments of cuddling, groping, sweet sensational kisses getting slight fingering, backrubs to having a hard fuck, but these will not come out by word of mouth because you don't know how to express yourself. Do not be hard on yourself. You are human, and a man will understand. Get it off your chest, throwing some signals. This article will guide you if you want to initiate sex and not feel too.

How To Initiate Sex When You Are Shy To Ask For It

Use Non-Verbal Communication

Body language can do more talking than verbal communication. It is not a must to tell your man that you want to feel him in you. Use what you have to get the attention; you can use your ass to seduce your man. When seated in the living room watching a movie together, you can sit on his lap and push your buttock to his crotch, and he will have his arms around your hips. You can squeeze yourself on him to this appointment. He will understand and get handsy, and everything will move as expected without saying a word. You can use the same tactic when you are in bed where he will caress your thighs and the other body parts he would access and makes things get hotter.

Use The Ulterior Motive

Gewirtz-Meydan & Ayalon (2022) revealed that telling your partner you want to have sex may be difficult, but showing motive can make things easier. Pretense can express anterior motive, and there is no age limit on using it. A man will find a way to make you feel better. A man will cuddle and rub you to warm you leading to sexual arousal. Get closer in a way that suggests you can use your butt by grinding it on him when you get his attention. As it gets steamer, you will start making out, and your breath will be heavy. Kiss your man as you wrap your hand around him. A man will be aroused and won't take long before he becomes handsy.

You can ask for a massage instead. This will be much easier, and your man will not deny helping you. Purwandari et al. (2022) noted that a massage makes the body and the brain feel relaxed. You can never have a massage while having your clothes on. While on a massage bed, seduce your man, and he will not have much energy to restrain himself. A man will fall into the trap. You will start making out and have a nice stimulating lovemaking session where you will all come out satisfied and get your sexual desires attended to the fullest.

Use The Horny Scale

Tholander et al. (2022) stated that a horny scale is how you rate yourself sexually; how aroused you are determines the urge for sex. You will know if things will turn out the way you anticipate or not. The horny scale runs from one to five; when you are at one, it is like you are not horny in any way, and you can choose seat back and watch a movie because there is no sign that it will happen that time. When your level of being horny fall there, you are in the middle, and either of them is possible; you can fall back or continue to get stimulated and have a massive organism at the end of it all. When you are five, you are already wet and dripping, and you may not hold yourself anymore. You are ready to fall on your knees and get a man ahead like you are starving. You will know where you lie, and if you need sex, you will know what to do to get yourself aroused and stimulated to level five. You will be shy but have made it clear and straightforward.

Start Things Over  Texts

Sending sex messages is a good approach since texting feels safe. You can express yourself without any difficulties in a text. You will write whatever comes to your mind. You can prepare a man before he is home after work by sexting him some romantic words and telling him you miss him and can't wait to get in between the sheets with him. When you are with him, you can leave him a simple text telling him to meet you in the bedroom; shy girls can be bold over texts and take advantage of it. Ringrose et al. (2022) suggested that you can send your man a link to a porn video you've come across as you have mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation helps level up sex life. Your man will also know your sexual desires and explore them. You can initiate sex and drive him wild when masturbating.

Conclusion

Don't be a shy girl who finds it hard to initiate sex, do not block the cock. Do whatever you can to make the information understood. It is okay to strip as you make some of the sexy suggestions. When you keep practice using non-verbal clues, it will help you have more sex which will be satisfying. Taking the initiative when it comes to sex, you will be able to give your partner what they need and make them feel desired.

References

Gewirtz-Meydan, A., & Ayalon, L. (2022). Reasons People Refrain From Sex In Later Life. Journal Of Sex & Marital Therapy, 1-19.

Purwandari, A., Tuju, S. O., Tombokan, S., Korompis, M., & Losu, F. N. (2022). Effleurage Massage By Husband On The Level Of Pain In Maternal When The 1 Phase Is Active. Journal Of Positive School Psychology, 5527-5540.

Ringrose, J., Milne, B., Mishna, F., Regehr, K., & Slane, A. (2022, July). Young People's Experiences Of Image-Based Sexual Harassment And Abuse In England And Canada: Toward A Feminist Framing Of Technologically Facilitated Sexual Violence. Women's Studies International Forum (Vol. 93, P. 102615). Pergamon.

Tholander, M., Johansson, S., Thunell, K., & Dahlström, Ö. (2022). Traces Of Pornography: Shame, Scripted Action, And Agency In Narratives Of Young Swedish Women. Sexuality & Culture, 1-21.