ROLE-PLAYING WITH YOUR MAN IN THE BEDROOM
Role-playing is an opportunity for a couple to move from who they usually are and delve into characters to enjoy their fantasies. it is a fun game that a couple can enjoy to spice the activity in the bedroom.
Ladousse, G. P. (1987) stated that role play is the most flexible technique to use in the bedroom. Sex with the same person at all times can be monotonous and boring. Eventually, it ends up being a routine. Sex ceases to have any romantic connotation to it and becomes something they do because the sexual urges force them into it. The following are tips on how to enjoy intimacy and spice up your sex life with your man through role-playing in the bedroom:
Introduce the Idea To Your Man
You cannot decide one day that you want to role-play. You must prepare your man. You understand your man best. You can pull your man into the idea by asking him about his fantasies. As soon as he starts talking, listen and find a way to make him receptive to your idea. People have sexual fantasies that they cannot talk about for fear of being judged. Give yourselves a session where you can be open with each other. It should start as a general discussion and suggest a fantasy to him.
Set a No- judgment Rule
If you have been a shy, conservative couple, it is almost impossible for some hints of judgment to lack. You may judge each other. Throw those judgments away since they will affect your role-play. If the both of you cannot get over judging each other for the fantasies you may have, then role-playing will be a bad idea. It can even lead to a break-up. Set a no-judgment rule. If he is judgmental but willing to try, make sure it is fun. At some point, he will be the one giving ideas. All the raunchiest people around you were all innocent virgins. Focus on the goal and do not backtrack once you decide you'd love to role-play with your man. Role-playing will be a normal part for both of you, and sometimes the most judgmental one will be the one initiating it. Allow him to choose the theme for the first role play so that he gets to enjoy what he fantasizes about.
Set the Stage
It is an act, so there has to be a stage. It would be best if you prepared a venue and probably have costumes. For role-playing to be exciting, you need to be serious about setting the stage and the costumes. You will be dramatizing your fantasies, and you need to make them as exciting as possible so that in the end, it feels like you enjoyed living your fantasy. This will make you stay loyal since there will be no need to pursue your fantasies elsewhere. For instance, if you had a fantasy about having sex with multiple men, your man can act like different men. If you role-play properly, it will be more interesting than if you were to pursue a real fantasy at the expense of losing your man. We cannot pursue all our fantasies since some of them do not make sense. Some are very dangerous while others can never happen. However, you can live all your fantasies while role-playing with your man.
You Should Not Be Shy
You should encourage each other out of shyness. Role-playing may feel silly, but it all depends on how you do it. Do not laugh since it is a very serious adventure. You are trying to pursue your fantasies within your relationship or marriage and want to spice things up from the usual routine. Go on with the mood. If he laughs, do not laugh so that he understands that you are serious about it. Do not get angry when he does not take it seriously. Just do it without feeling shy.
Conclusion
When there is boredom in the bedroom, most people think the solution to it is cheating on their partner. That is an act of selfishness. Partners should kill boredom in the bedroom by spicing things up. Once in a while, be someone that you are not to your spouse, exciting and interesting. Share ideas on how to have fun with your partner. Once you start role-playing, do not turn it into a routine, too, because if you do, you will keep on looking for ideas to spice things in the bedroom until you give up on the relationship or marriage. Do it spontaneously. Do not set a schedule. Do not fix a day when you role-play. It will soon be a routine, and sometimes you will seriously not want to do it. Change locations. Change the theme. Be a team in it. Ensure that you are both having fun. Once you start enjoying it, you can surprise each other. Your man comes home one day and finds you all dressed up like the prostitute he fantasizes about. Have fun!
References
Ladousse, G. P. (1987). Role play (Vol. 3). Oxford University Press.