WHEN IT COMES TO VAGINAS, DOES SIZE MATTER?

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The aspect of size is mostly an issue when it comes to men but rather an ignored topic on women's side. However, it is still an issue for some women and men alike. Some women think that size might affect their sexual life, and that is why it is important to answer whether vaginal size matters when it comes to sex.

Many factors come into play in sexual activities and pleasure. One unique factor is size; the question of size when it comes to sexual pleasure is often directed at men. The size factor can frustrate men and give them anxiety when in bed. A majority would still beg to differ although some women come out and say that the penis size doesn't really matter when it comes to sex. Over time men have thought that penetration is the only way to satisfy their partners in bed and that size has a part to play. Being a rather unpopular subject in the case of women, a few may at times worry about the size of their vagina and the role it plays in sexual pleasure, especially after giving birth.

The Vagina Changes

The vagina is elastic. It is small enough to hold in a tampon but can also expand to let out a baby. The reason is that vaginal walls are similar to that of the stomach, and they have rugae which are surface epithelial cells enabling folding. This means that, like the stomach, the vaginal walls will fold when not in use. Women are mostly worried about the first one-third of the vagina.

Length can relate to sexual satisfaction although it's unclear whether Putting two plus two into a vagina that has been stretched over time will be satisfied by a bigger penis, this is not entirely true. According to Klaassen & Ter Kuile (2009), Women feel discomfort when having sex due to the vagina being too short or tight for penetration. Also, if they have prolapsed, which means the uterus and bladder fall out of place mostly after giving birth will hinder vaginal penetration. Vaginal length doesn't matter since there is a wide range of normal.

Muscle Strength

There is only one instance that you should be worried about vaginal walls after childbirth. The vaginal opening will change after that but there is no cause for alarm since the change will only be slight. An increase in size may also be related to muscular weakness or injury in the vaginal area, as Ashton-Miller & DeLancey (2009) noted. The ability to contract the pelvic floor muscles can increase or decrease the size of the vaginal opening (hiatus). Increasing muscle strength can reduce the looseness of the vagina. Kegel exercises are rather productive in strengthening the pelvic floor muscles. Kao et al. (2015) discovered that Women who practice Kegel exercises divulge greater sexual satisfaction than women who don't do kegel exercises.

You can insert a finger into the vagina and squeeze the surrounding muscles to find the muscles for kegel exercises. You can also stop the flow of urine to find the right muscles. Practice contracting them for ten seconds and then relaxing after finding these muscles. Start small and gradually work yourself up if you cannot hold that long. You can repeat this process 10-20 times consecutively, three times a day. Keep in mind that you are exercising the pelvic floor, where the focus should be. Breath normally while doing these exercises and strive not to move your leg or stomach muscles.

Vagina Size and Penis Length

The average erect penis is almost 33 percent longer than the average vagina. The penis and vagina sizes vary individually, but they do accommodate each other. Although most women talk about the size of the penis, some report discomfort if a penis is bigger than average. It discomforts a woman if the penis or a sex toy hits the cervix. According to Braun & Kitzinger (2001), sexual pleasure is more of intimacy than the size of both the vagina and penis but they do have a part to play, though not that big.

Do Guys Care About Vaginal Size?

Whenever you think of size, the first thing to pop in mind is whether your partner is satisfied with what you have to offer. Women have the notion that "the bigger the better," so do men " the tighter, the better". These notions are not true because people have different genitals. It will feel different for a man with a different vagina, as women will with different sizes of dick, and this will not be the center of attention.

However, the topic of whether a woman is tight or loose will tend to portray as degrading and filled with moral judgment. When a woman is referred to as loose, this will come out as slut-shaming, and the man stating this will be viewed as misogynistic. There are extreme cases that will require medical attention, like after childbirth. Self-conscious anxiety is dramatically more common.

What Truly Matters

Desire, arousal, pain, orgasm, and sexual pleasure are not linked to vagina size in any way. Unless you have recently given birth, vagina size should not be an issue for you. Pay attention to lubrication, arousal, and sexual chemistry between you and your partner, as Basson (2000) showed. You can enjoy sexual pleasure without any problems whatsoever. Sexual pleasure is linked to emotions and what you and your partner feel to ensure that you make the most of any sexual; activity.

Conclusion

The size aspect doesn't matter when it comes to the vagina unless it is a medical condition. It is obvious self-conscious anxiety will kick in, but this should not deter you from finding sexual pleasure. An hour of kegel exercises every day won't hurt if you are overly anxious about your vaginal size. You need to be comfortable in your skin tone and general body features as a woman. Size doesn't have to do anything with sexual arousal and pleasure; rather, sexual pleasure is a matter of sexual chemistry between you and your partner. Be confident in your body.

References

Ashton-Miller, J. A., & Delancey, J. O. (2009). On The Biomechanics Of Vaginal Birth And Common Sequelae. Annual Review Of Biomedical Engineering, 11, 163.

Basson, R. (2000). The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model. Journal Of Sex &Marital Therapy, 26(1), 51-65.

Braun, V., & Kitzinger, C. (2001). The Perfectible Vagina: Size Matters. Culture, Health & Sexuality, 3(3), 263-277.

Kao, H. T., Hayter, M., Hinchliff, S., Tsai, C. H., & Hsu, M. T. (2015). Experience Of Pelvic Floor Muscle Exercises Among Women In Taiwan: A Qualitative Study Of Improvement In Urinary Incontinence And Sexuality. Journal Of Clinical Nursing, 24(13-14), 1985-1994.Klaassen, M., & Ter Kuile, M. M. (2009). Development And Initial Validation Of The Vaginal Penetration Cognition Questionnaire (VPCQ) In A Sample Of Women With Vaginismus And Dyspareunia. The Journal Of Sexual Medicine, 6(6), 1617-1627.