101 KINKY THINGS – AN EXTENSIVE LIST OF KINKS AND FETISHES
BDSM is an umbrella word that encompasses a wide range of kinky sexual activities that involve control, dominance, and submission. Like any other sex act, there is no one way to engage in BDSM play. You can role-play, power play, humiliate, and deprive your partner of certain benefits. Herein, we outline the various kink fetishes that people participate in.
BDSM has grown into something that most couples enjoy engaging in over the years. They see it as a form of release, a window of vulnerability, and a journey that builds on trust. However, most people view BDSM as a despicable sex act because, to them, it feels like the dominance and submission agenda are being forced down their throats. This article outlines the various BDSM terms, what they entail and how people practice them.
A Comprehensive List of Kink Activities And Fetishes
Below is a list of kinks and fetishes that you can incorporate into your BDSM sex life.
Abduction Play
Abduction play is when the submissive partner is forcefully seized and taken to a different location to engage in further play.
Abrasion Play
This type of play involves using hard material to cause superficial injuries on the skin. The dominant may use a brush or sandpaper to perform this action. Abrasions are preferred because they heal fast and do not cause major bleeding to skin tissue.
Age Play
Age play is when one partner takes on an older role and the other a younger role. A good example is a mother-son scenario where one has the upper hand.
Algolagnia
Most tops derive satisfaction from inflicting pain to the genitals of their submissives. They may use clit clamps or a whip to administer light lashes to the labia.
Anime
According to Brenner (2007), Anime is a type of animation whose origins in ancient Japan. Some people have fetishes based on this type of animation where they feel more aroused when their partners dress up as anime characters.
Anal Training
Training, as the word suggests, refers to the act of inserting objects into the anus in a bid to stretch the anal muscles. For this case, the top will insert butt plugs that progress in size to prepare your sphincter muscles for activities such as fisting.
Anal Torture
Anal torture is similar to algolagnia. The only difference is that the top is now inflicting pain to the anus. The dominant partner may opt to use electrical cables powered by generators.
Anal Hook
Anal hooks, and slang (ass hooks), are sex toys inserted into the anus for anal stimulation. They are designed with a curved metal bar with a metal ball on one end and a ring on the other. Anal hooks are not flexible. Therefore, you should handle them with care.
Animal Play
Animal kink is a type of play where the submissive plays the role of an animal, mostly a cat or a dog. The top then showers the 'pet' with affection by grooming and training the submissive based on what pleases them.
Breeding
Breeding involves preceding condoms during sex. The male ejaculates inside the female's vagina to impregnate them.
Breath Play
A kinky form of play where one partner, either the top or bottom, controls how and when the other breaths. Mosek et al. (2020) noted that breathplay may involve asphyxiation, leading to fatality or suffocation, or suffocation.
Bondage And Discipline
It is a BDSM practice that involves restraining, binding, or punishing someone, especially when they break the rules. The dominant may also need to bond with their subs during certain BDSM sessions (Sprott & Benoit Hadcock, 2018).
Bowel Control
This act requires the sub to ask for permission before emptying their bowel and may only do so if their partner consents. This type of intimacy fosters trust and vulnerability of the sub to the dominant in the most intimate of ways.
Bastinado
A BDSM kink activity that focuses on impact play through the souls of the feet.
Blackbooting
This act refers to replacing an anal dildo with a shoe heel.
Cock Milking
Cock milking works best in scenarios when the male is the sub. The dom performs prostate massage to the sub and then coerces him into discharging semen through the penis. This play is done when the dom wants to humiliate, arouse or frustrate the sub.
Camming
This method of kink involves engaging in sexual activities like masturbation, nude modeling, etc., through the webcam.
Cock And Ball Torture
According to Doshi (2015), cock and ball torture, also known as CBT, is the act of torturing a guy's genitals through kicking, smacking, electric shocks, and more.
Corporal Punishment
Corporal punishment is a common kink that involves pain through impact as a form of discipline.
Dollification
It is when a submissive turns into a living doll, mostly at the request of the dom or at their will. Subs will emulate living dolls by wearing dresses, heavy makeup, and stiletto heels. For dollification to please both parties, the sub should practice subservience.
Dominance And Submission
Also known as D/s, it is a term that refers to the rules that the sub-partner follows. In dominance and submission relationships, one partner has the upper hand/power over the other one.
Edging
Edging is the cruelest form of kinks that involves denying someone an orgasm. The dominant partner engages in sexual activities with their submissive, and just when they are about to climax, they deny them that chance.
Exhibitionism
A kink act involves exposing one's genitals or other people's genitals while others watch.
Figging
This act involves dipping a finger into a bowl of spices, mostly ginger or garlic, and then inserting it into the anus. The burning sensation will then seep into the anal canal resulting in intense pleasure.
The Bottom Line
BDSM has been in existence since time immemorial, but despite this fact, many people do not know what it entails and end up bashing it due to factless opinions. If the BDSM topic entices you in any way, you should first learn about what it entails so that you know what works for you. The kink activities cited in the article above are just a fraction of the BDSM kink list, but they will give you the perfect stepping stone to get your kink life rolling. As with any sex act, make sure that you and your partner approach it cautiously because things can easily go wrong, especially during activities like breath play.
References
Brenner, R. E. (2007). Understanding manga and anime. Greenwood Publishing Group.
Doshi, S. M. (2015). Review Research Paper BDSM: A Sexual Deviance Rather a Sexual Culture an Overview. J Indian Acad Forensic Med. Jan-March, 37(1), 0971-0973.
Mosek, D. P., Sperhake, J. P., Edler, C., Püschel, K., & Schröder, A. S. (2020). Cases of asphyxia in children and adolescents: a retrospective analysis of fatal accidents, suicides, and homicides from 1998 to 2017 in Hamburg, Germany. International journal of legal medicine, 134(3), 1073-1081.
Sprott, R. A., & Benoit Hadcock, B. (2018). Bisexuality, pansexuality, queer identity, and kink identity. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 33(1-2), 214-232.