FINE WINE: DOES SEX GET BETTER WITH AGE?

Sex gets better with age because older people are confident and know what to do to have great sex.

Sex among older people is like fine wine, and it does get better with age. Remember when you first had sex you were shy and anxious. It took a while for most women to understand what the hype around sex is all about, and you might have done it to please your boyfriend and nothing more. According to Farrimond (2016), sex is painful, especially when you lose your virginity. Don't you believe that it would have been less painful and more pleasurable if you used lube? That's the experience you have gathered many years later. Lubrication is very important as explained by Angel (2022). Moreover, Wilson et al. (2017) explains that lubricants are used during procreative intercourse to moderate the amount of wetness in the genitals. 

The following are the reasons that prove that sex gets better with age for the persons that are over 35 years;

You are Familiar with Most Bedroom Problems 

Since you are older, people will always assume that you have been with several partners, and even if that's not the case, you have researched or heard a lot about bedroom issues. Having been with many partners, you are familiar with most bedroom issues. You know about sexual dysfunction, yeast infection after sex, maybe some STIs, how to treat pubic lice, and any other common problem you or your partner may have. You would also know how to handle a person going through some intimate problems because you've seen, heard, and read about almost everything bedroom-related. So if you were having sex with a male partner and he orgasms too early, you would know that he couldn't control it because it is beyond him. If a younger woman had sex with a male partner who ejaculated too early, she'd dismiss him as a one-minute man and bad-mouth him.

You are Confident

Older people are not shy in the bedroom. Younger people may be suffering some self-esteem issues because they are conscious of their appearance. Older people do not care about that. The older woman's tits may be touching her belly, and his belly may be covering his dick, but nothing will stop them from having amazing sex. They will still have the same confidence when they meet younger partners. 

You Know What to Do to Have Great Sex

Some men know how to make a woman have an orgasm. Some know what to do to last longer in bed. Other men know how to give good oral sex. It may not be true that all older men are good at sex, but it is a fact that the men that are good at sex are older. They have been around. The younger men are in hot pursuit of older women because they have heard about the rumors that older women are good at sex. Therefore, they want to confirm and find out if it's true. Again, not all older men and women know what to do to have great sex.

You Know the Tricks That Turns Someone On

Human beings may not be the same, but we are anatomically the same. Unless someone is living with some abnormality, our bodies are the same, depending on our gender. So anatomically speaking, all men and women are the same. So the tricks you used to turn the other person on may work towards turning this new person on. You know the buttons to press. Older people are different from younger people because the younger people have sex to get an ejaculation, but the older people want the whole experience. Older people rarely want to get involved in casual sex. Most young people get involved in casual sex while pursuing orgasms. Döring (2020) explained that casual sex has no strings attached. Young people believe that sex is good only if it ends with an orgasm. On the other hand, old people want to have sensual sex, and the goal is not always orgasm. 

You Know What to Do to Get an Orgasm

You know what to do to not only have sensual sex but also how to get an orgasm if you want one. Most men have undergone several episodes of premature ejaculation. They know what to do to stay longer in bed. The men know how to delay the ejaculation. Compare that to when you were younger. You had many quickies, and probably that's why you encounter premature ejaculation as an older man, but you've known how to cope with it. Men do not stop having sex due to premature ejaculation. When men are older, they discover sexual positions, drugs, and condoms that can help them last longer in bed. Premature ejaculation may discourage the younger man from having sex, but the older man knows what to do. On the other hand, the younger woman may be wondering what she needs to do to enjoy orgasms, while the older woman has discovered how to get multiple orgasms.

You Know How to Separate Sex From Love

When you were younger, you thought that having sex with someone meant that you loved each other, and now you have been hurt several times until you've grown into an older person that can separate love from sex. As an older person, you do not believe that every sexual experience is an act of love. You know that sometimes people have sex because they want sex and not because they are in love. The first time you had sex, you believed that you loved the person you had sex with. You've grown to learn that sex is not love. 

You Know How to Have Safe Sex

When some younger people look back at their sexual escapades, they feel lucky for having random sex and never contracting sexually transmitted infections and HIV, and having no unwanted pregnancies. Younger people are usually reckless in their sexual behavior because they do not understand the consequences. Older people are exposed and may have some poor judgment once in a while, but they understand the consequences of risky sexual behavior.

Conclusion

Older people may not have sex as much as they did when they were younger, but they enjoy sex more because it is all quality, not quantity. Younger people do not bother much about connecting with their partners. Most of them want to connect physically, and when the sex ends, some relationships end. For older people, the sex ends, but the bond doesn't. Older people would want to cuddle after sex. There's no chance for a quickie with the older people because the woman may need lubrication if she's past menopause. The fact that she has to get lubrication every time they have sex means there's going to be foreplay, sensual sex, and cuddling, and those three are the main components that make sex great.

References

Angel, K. (2022). Tomorrow sex will be good again: Women and desire in the age of consent. Verso Books.

Döring, N. (2020). How is the COVID-19 pandemic affecting our sexualities? An overview of the current media narratives and research hypotheses. Archives of sexual behavior, 49(8), 2765-2778.

Farrimond, K. (2016). 10 Supernatural hymens and bodies from hell. Gender and Sexuality in Contemporary Popular Fantasy: Beyond boy wizards and kick-ass chicks.Wilson, S. L., Adam, J. K., & Krishna, S. B. N. (2017). Effects of vaginal lubricants on in-vitro progressive spermatozoa motility. African Journal of Reproductive Health, 21(3), 96-101.