YOUR GUIDE TO A SEXY, SAFE, AND GUILT-FREE COLLEGE SEX EXPERIENCE

Some people get out of college with a bag of lessons about love, friendships, and life. Herein is what you need to know about a guide to a safe sex experience, including; the ultimate guide to safe sex life in college.

While some come out with bruised lives, college is exhilarating because it offers you a platform to get more in tune with yourself. Regardless of the college phase, you must equip yourself with basic tips on love and sex because some people are deflowered at this stage of their lives. "You Only Live Once" is the college slogan, but being mentally prepared for any eventuality will not hurt. Below is a guide on practicing safe sex habits while in college.

The Ultimate Guide to a Safe Sex Life in College

Gone are the days when you have to put a flawless public façade; being your most authentic self is nothing to be ashamed of. According to Caspi et al. (1989), College is where you do away with that aspect of your life if you had a timid personality back in high school. However, this does not mean you move with the masses, have a great sense of individuality, and be true to your feelings and desires. You may want to participate in a sex party; comfortably wear the crown. Embrace everything feeling good to you. However, ensure you check out where you choose to engage in sex. Bringing someone over for the night when your roommate is present may not be good if you do not have the luxury of living alone. It is disrespectful and paints a bad picture of your morality, but you can bring someone over if your roommate is not around for the night.

You should always be prepared if you are a party maniac loving casual hook-ups with strangers. Women can ditch the fancy clutch bags because you will not be able to stuff essentials with clutch bugs. You can choose a medium-sized bag where you will stuff the following;

• Condoms; either internal or external
• A phone charger
• Deodorant and perfume
• Make-up wipes
• Comfy shoes; it may be sneakers or flat sandals
• A top and a pair of jeans

Men do not need much for a sexual adventure because they do not value stuff like women and like traveling light. They may only need to carry condoms and a change of clothes. Men prefer the male condom to the female ones. Buy one with a nice smell and thinner, and doted or flapped to enhance sexual pleasures. Ensure you do not store your condom in the wallet or pocket because the heat may compromise the quality leading to tearing and wearing during sexual intercourse. Look for a mini metal tin or a pouch, especially those where people store glasses. Ensure you have a pack of condoms and lube if necessary because you might be lucky to get a good romp. It would help if you were prepared at all times. According to Batár & Sivin (2010), you can choose good-quality condoms, and if you are allergic to latex, you can go for the non-latex condom brands. The key is practicing safe sex even when the rest of the world thinks that going raw is the ultimate form of pleasure.

Most alcoholic habits stem from college but drinking in large amounts is not advisable due to many reasons;

• You may experience partial memory loss concerning the events of the previous night.
• According to Abbey et al. (2001), getting too drunk could make you a possible victim of rape or assault.
• A drunk mind cannot make sound decisions, and you may end up engaging in unprotected sex even though that is something you would not dare do in your sober mind.
• While in college, your body may not be able to handle the effects of alcohol; therefore, drinking in large amounts may harm your system. Your internal organs, like the liver, may damage if you consume excess alcohol. It may also lead to total blindness and death.

Sex in college is fun and carefree; no one thinks about the after-effects when they are in the moment. Both of you should consent before engaging in any sexual act. Refrain from initiating and engaging in sex if one person is too drunk to decide, although they may want to. You can have verbal consent because you are sure that the other person is not being forced into sex. Reading your partner's body language is also important. It equals verbal consent because if your partner is cozying up to you and being touchy,  it is a sign they want to go home with you for the night. There are instances when you may feel like the other person is pressuring you into having sex. They may start being too touchy. You shouldn't engage in any sexual act with them in such a situation because you do not know their intentions.

The older generation may tell you that your sexual expertise improves with time. You should not feel despair if you have a non-existent sexual background. People learn by trying what college sex life is about. Also, do not expect to experience fireworks on your first experience; every good thing unfolds in its time. You cannot equate college sex to sex depicted in movie scenes or even porn. Your partner may not have that 6-inch curved penis. All they may offer is a moderate-sized shaft. You may have a tummy and a plus-sized body instead of the highly coveted perky breasts and a slim waist, but the physical appearance should not hinder engaging in sex. However, if you need a 6-inch penis and a girl with a slim waist, go for it.

The Bottom Line

College is where you taste freedom for the first time. Your parents are not around to hinder you from experiencing all you desire. Izugbara (2004) noted that College is also packed with people looking to explore their sexuality, making it the perfect place for you to try out your untamed sexual thoughts and fantasies. However, this freedom may come with many consequences if you do not have the basics on how to go about it. The article above will help you navigate your sexual journey if you have joined college and want to be sexually liberated.

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