10 REASONS HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX IS A BAD IDEA

Having sex with an ex is a bad idea. Some of the reasons you should avoid it include; making you confused, bringing back old memories you planned to forget, and delaying the healing process.

People always crave to have sex with people they are familiar with. No one wants to start over by surrendering their body to a new person. This is because your ex knew you well and your sexual desires. However, it is better to remember why you decided to end your relationship and start new ones. It may feel good during the first few minutes but regret it later. Try meeting new people. You might get horny during your lonely moments and invite your ex to your house. This may interrupt your healing process. Avoid drunk texts or calls. Some reasons why it is a bad idea to have sex with your ex are;

Old Memories Resurface

Your ex did something, making you end the relationship. Your ex might have been disrespectful, violent, abusive, or cheated on you. You might seem to enjoy yourself when you are in the moment, but you regret ending the relationship. The post nut clarity will bring you back to your senses. The memories you get are bad and hurting. Avoid pitying yourself and showing your ex you are sorrowful. It will make them boastful and give them the courage to come back. Let them stay in the past and avoid living in regret.

Difficult To Move On

You might try to convince yourself it is sex and nothing else. Your ex may be pulling you back to your previous relationship. It will hold you back and make it difficult to move on. Tell your ex you moved on, supposing they call you and ask for random sex. Try cutting off all communications channels with them. You can block them on social media platforms and email accounts. Move on and find someone worth your.

Lowers Your Self Esteem

Remember you are not together because your ex didn't want to be with you. You are always enough. It would be your ex's loss if your ex dumped you. Go out and meet someone who values you. Having sex with someone who rejected you lowers your self-esteem, and a person will find it easy to use you when they get a chance (Shackelford, 2001).  

Be Confusing 

Placing your feelings will be difficult. You won't know if you want your ex back or are afraid to move on. You will be in a situation you don't understand, and you may find your ex is using you for sex because they know they will get it easily when horny. Avoid confusing your emotions. Focus on moving on, although your ex may persist in tracking your moves.

Prepared To Be Disappointed

 Das & Sahoo (2011) noted that you would be annoyed when your ex doesn't show you some feelings after breaking up. Some might ask you to leave after having sex, while others might not call you the next day to check on you. You might stress because your ex did not treat you as you expected. Some exes want to hurt your feelings to stop you from moving on.

They May Feel Bad

You might be the one that rejected your ex and called the relationship off. You might not know how Your ex is after having sex. Your ex will hurt and feel terrible that you were only in the relationship for sex. However, avoid thinking about how your ex feels and continue moving on.

You May Feel Terrible

Having sex with an ex will damage you emotionally (Schneider, 2000). You hurt yourself by downgrading your ex's level and using you. Your ex only sees your worth when it is about sex. Your ex uses you as a fuck friend only. Know your worth and seize from feeling terrible.

Delay Process of Healing

Get into the habit of forgetting your past and doing things to engage you actively. Don't call your ex when you are horny or missing them. It will be hard for you to move on. Go out and socialize more with friends and family. You can hook up with guys on tinder, Facebook, or Instagram. Do activities to occupy your mind and help you forget your ex, like hiking, riding, reading novels, and watching movies.

Guilt-Trip You into Getting Back 

Having sex with your ex will make them think you are okay with each other and can be together again. It will be difficult to cut off your ex's links and move on with others. Maybe you were only interested in sex, but the guilt is eating you up. You have no courage to tell your ex you don't want them. Stop feeling guilty and move on.

There Is Great Potential Out There

According to England et al. (2008), the best way to forget your ex is to hook up with a better person. Consider learning about your new man before starting a serious relationship with them to avoid repeating mistakes. The world has many people with intentions for a relationship. You can consider not getting back with your ex and settling for the crumbs they gave you. Meet other people, and you will see the world differently. Do not settle for booty calls which are always available when someone wants sex. Value yourself, meet new people and realize you settled for less in your previous relationship. Move on from toxic a relationship.

Conclusion  

Getting back with an ex and having sex with them is never a good idea. Learn to outgrow situations that no longer favor you. Cut emotional links and avoid communicating with your ex. Avoid meeting your ex to speed up your healing process. Meet other people to get out of emotional distress. Value yourself, and do not force yourself onto someone who doesn't know your worth. It is never healthy. You will hurt until you learn your lesson. People will use you if you show them you have no boundaries. Let your ex stay in the past. There is a reason they are your ex.

References

Das, B., & Sahoo, J. S. (2011). Social Networking Sites–A Critical Analysis Of their Impact On Personal And Social Life. International Journal Of Business And Social Science, 2(14), 222-228.

England, P., Shafer, E. F., & Fogarty, A. C. (2008). Hooking Up And Forming Romantic Relationships On Today's College Campuses. The Gendered Society Reader, 3, 531-593.

 Schneider, J. P. (2000). A Qualitative Study Of Cybersex Participants: Gender Differences, Recovery Issues, And Implications For Therapists. Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal Of Treatment And Prevention, 7(4), 249-278.Shackelford, T. K. (2001). Self-Esteem In Marriage. Personality And Individual Differences, 30(3), 371-390.