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p>By Ekaterina Mironova

If you are feeling like you are being torn in a million different directions, you are certainly not alone. Demands on a woman’s time and energy have increase dramatically over the last couple of decades. And as much as most of us are thrilled and grateful for the woman’s lib movement, you can’t say that there aren’t days that you wish the only decision you had to make was whether or not to make jello or pudding for desert.

With more and more women being called to the workforce, whether by choice or not, it has added a whole new element to our lives with nothing being taken away to free up that time. We are being expected to fill too many roles at once, and as a single parent as well it can just be darn right overwhelming most days to keep all the balls juggling at the same time.

But even if you have a partner, it can still be a lot to ensure that everyone’s needs are met. Unless you are in an exceptional relationship, and that’s great if you are, the basic running of the household and the rearing of the children still lays with the woman. You can get help from your partner, divvy up the duties like grocery shopping and taking out the garbage, but there are more relationships than not, where the women still takes on more than her fair share of responsibility.

Now, that may sound sexist and hopefully you don’t fit into that category, but there still are a lot of women out there that are filing the traditional female roles but also expected to bring home a lot of the bacon as well. It’s just a fact of life that one income families are the exception to the rule these days and so added stress of working can be very challenging for a lot of women.

Then among all that, find time to take care of yourself and keep your sex life alive and well you can easily see how it just gets to be too overwhelming.

So the key to all of this really comes down to good communication and taking time to take care of yourself regardless. Set up a good schedule and stick to it. Find that time to squeeze in some time at the gym or combine going for a walk while you do errands. Make lunch time at work your time to get a manicure or go for a massage.

Ensure that you have a good support system in place, like a reliable babysitter, friends and family who can help out. It’s ok to ask for what you need, in fact it’s mandatory. Make sure that your partner is pulling his fair share and he’s not then do something about. Hire the help you need and give him the bill. But whatever you do, take control of things yourself. Don’t wait for it to get to out of hand to get help and don’t wait for others to notice and help out. Ask. Ask. Ask. But most of all, take care of yourself first, then you can help to take care of others – that works, you’ll see!