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By Elena Ognivtseva

I fucked her like a porn star!!

Well guys I got some bad news for you, if you did she probably didn’t like it.

Now let me say that I personally have nothing against porn, it can be a great way to spice up your sex life….even if you don’t have one ;) lol

Ok, back to being serious, both men and women are aroused visually so obviously porn can be a way to get the juices flowing.

Accept it for what it is though, a toy and a tool, its acting people…..Not a how to guide!!

The problem is a lot of men think this is how you make love, I’m not picking on you fellows, I got your back here but let’s call a spade a spade ……I’ll get to you in a minute ladies ;)

I won’t even talk about the kissing, if that’s how you kiss then there is no point in reading the rest of this blog.

After a few seconds of kissing he goes right for the tits, tongue all hanging out, licking her tit like it’s a lollipop…..really? Does this work?

It doesn’t, be a little softer, tease the nipple a little before taking it between your lips, learn how to properly lick the nipple… see blog post seven things she wants you to know.

He then skips over the rest of her body and goes right for the pussy, he then proceeds to lick her like he’s a dog lapping water from a bowl……ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Hold on ladies…..I’m still going to get to you ;)

That couldn’t be any farther from how you really orally please a woman, (hmmm blog post idea? Maybe? Any thoughts?)

It’s time for the deed so he bends her over or folds her legs back and sticks his huge penis pumped up cock in her….usually with a little help from his hand due to not being hard…thanks to the pump.

Now the one thing they usually do right is vary the speed so I’ll give them that one but in case you didn’t know, pleasing a woman beyond her wildest fantasies takes a lot more than varying the speed at which you make love to her, it starts with the foreplay and ends with how well you move.

Don’t just change speeds but change the depth of your strokes along with the angle, for maximum G-spot stimulation make sure the head of your penis is in constant contact with the roof of her vagina.

Now for the ladies:

I don’t have as much to complain about when it comes to you but I do have one major complaint.

I have yet to find a woman get that excited about me doing everything wrong.

Mr. stud is doing everything wrong and yet she’s moaning like it’s the best sex she’s ever had….if you do that ladies then please stop.

All you’re doing is encouraging him to continue.

You say you want a man who is attentive to your needs right? Someone who pays attention to your body language, a man who will take you to levels of pleasure you’ve never had and di it time and time again.

Let’s say you have as man who is really trying to do things the right way, he really cares about how you feel and your pleasure, he truly wants to get you off over and over again and make sure that the intensity of your orgasm is over the top.

How’s he supposed to know what really feels good to you if you’re moaning and carrying on about something you don’t like….trust me ladies we want a vocal woman, give me a woman that’s “ honestly vocal” when I am doing something right and I’ll take her places she’s never been but give me an actress that moans no matter what and I’ll spend a lot of time doing the wrong thing.

Communication is the key to great sex and we communicate our likes and dislikes by talking and by our body language.

So ladies, definitely let the moans escapes those pretty lips but only when he’s doing something right, if you’re not honest with your body language you’re rolling the dice when it comes to good sex….hoping to get lucky but leaving disappointed.

A “ mmmm baby right there” or a “hell yeah like that” never hurts either ladies

Men: first of all learn how the woman’s body works then learn how to make it work and pay close attention to her body language, that’s her way of talking to you, telling you what she wants and what she likes.

On a side note…men be honest with your body language too and ladies pay close attention to it.

If you and your lover watch porn together remember it’s a tool to be used not a how to guide.

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