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Is your sex life stuck in a rut? Satisfaction in a sexual relationship changes over time. The more you stay in the relationship, the more it declines. Luckily, there is a solution. This blog discusses 12 irresistible tips that can take your sex life to new roofs, including creating an accommodating sexual atmosphere, trying new positions, throwing sexual accessories into the mix, and making your sexual fantasies known.

Sexual satisfaction declines as the relationship ages. From having the same partner for a long to using the same techniques during sex and hormonal changes to a stressful relationship, your sex life can take a hit. With your sex life in a rut, your partner can seek the thrills elsewhere. You might be attracted to each other, but things don’t work out in the bedroom. Bad sex is a common issue in various bedrooms. However, failing to achieve sexual satisfaction does not mean your sex life is compromised. Here are the 12 irresistible tips that can add a little spark to your sex life.

Integrate Accessories into your Sexual Routine

According to Döring (2021), sex toys are a great way to add flavor to your bedroom antics. The sex toys to keep an eye on include cock rings. These toys come in varieties, including vibrating models with clit stimulators for couple sex. Normally, cock rings restrict blood flow from the penis, allowing the wearer to thrust for a little longer. Love rings can be a great deal if you are a premature ejaculation victim or suffer from erectile dysfunction.

You can also try delay sprays which desensitize the penis, allowing you to thrust for an extra time. Most delay sprays come with lidocaine and benzocaine that revolutionize your sex life without compromising safety. It is these ingredients that reduce sensitivity on the penis, making you last longer on the bed.

Lubricants are also something to include in your stockpile of erotic delicacies. According to Wilson et al. (2017), lubricants are used during procreative intercourse to moderate the amount of wetness in the genitals. These products enhance lubrication, making sex more comfortable. Lubes are either water-based, silicone-based, or oil-based. If you are a new user, silicone-based lubes can make a great choice. They are long-lasting and even work for sensitive skin. 

Introduce New Sex Positions to Your Sexual Routine 

Using the same techniques is one of the causes of boring sex and dissatisfaction. With new positions, the penetration depth and speed change. You are more likely to reach and stimulate different hot spots. Hot sex positions for you include the 69, cowboy or girl, and standing.

Flirt With Your Partner

Most people think flirting ends once the people we are attracted to become part of our lives. According to Hall et al. (2010), flirting shows a romantic or physical attraction to another person. It keeps the butterflies alive, positively affecting your bedroom game. That is not all; acts of love, including date nights, surprise flowers, candy, and spa day, can make the difference in your bedroom. 

Explore Your Sexual Fantasies

Exploring sexual fantasies adds happiness to your sex lives. Since most people think their sexual fantasies are weird, they do not talk about them, killing the bedroom vibes. The only way to let your partner know what you want is by talking. It can be through a conversation or adult games.

Embrace Sexting

Levine (2013) defined sexting as the process where one shares sexually suggestive pictures and messages through mobile phones or media, especially if you are away. Since your commitment to sexting will also make them send you provocative texts, your sex life will constantly evolve.

Watch Adult Content with Your Partner

Watching adult content, including porn, allows you to discover new ways of reaching orgasms. Porn will always get you into the mood of having sex, reducing the interval you take before you bone each other. If watching porn is not a great idea, try erotica.

Create an Accommodating Sexual Atmosphere

An accommodating atmosphere makes you and your partner feel relaxed. With a relaxed mind, you are more likely to have a good time. An accommodating atmosphere includes dim lights, sensual music, and scented candles for ambiance.

Change Your Sexual Venue

Getting things out of your bedroom can make a difference in your sex life. If your house is big, try having sex in different rooms. While this can be challenging, especially if you have kids, you can get a hotel room to satisfy your sexual whims and desires in new surroundings.

Leave Romantics Notes for Your Partner

Although this seems a thing of the past, leaving romantic notes makes your partner feel loved and appreciated.

Create a Schedule for Your Sexual Encounters

If you are a busy couple, creating a schedule for your sexual encounters is a good deal. The schedule allows you to spare time to explore each other's bodies. If you choose weekends, you will block destructions, including appointments or meets up, to focus on intimacy fully. Before you know it, you will have the happiest sex life.

Try Anal Sex

Anal sex is not intimidating as it sounds. With the right tools at your disposal, this sexual activity can make a difference in your sex life. Anal play requires lakes of lube. Since the anus does not self-lubricate. You may also need anal sex toys, including butt plugs, anal beads, and strap-on dildos. If you fear anal penetration, why not give rimming a go?

Add Temperature Play to Your Sexual Routine

Temperature play includes running an ice cube on your partner's erogenous zones or blowing hot air onto their legs (they can also do the same onto your legs). Ensure you vary the temperature and new physical sensations that will make you melt in front of each other.

The Bottom Line

Fun sex life is the fundamental aspect of a happy and healthy romantic relationship. Better sex will keep your coming for more. The story is different when your bedroom is not fun anymore. Your partner will go to look for the thrills elsewhere. Since you don't want this to happen, you may want tips that make your sex life more fun and exciting. Give this blog a good read if you want to kill the boredom affecting your sex life and relationship.

References

Döring, N. (2021). Sex toys. Encyclopedia of sexuality and gender. Cham, Switzerland: Springer.

Hall, J. A., Carter, S., Cody, M. J., & Albright, J. M. (2010). Individual Differences In The 

Communication Of Romantic Interest: Development Of The Flirting Styles Inventory. Communication Quarterly, 58(4), 365-393.

Levine, D. (2013). Sexting: A Terrifying Health Risk… Or The New Normal For Young 

Adults?. Journal Of Adolescent Health, 52(3), 257-258.

Wilson, S. L., Adam, J. K., & Krishna, S. B. N. (2017). Effects of vaginal lubricants on in-vitro progressive spermatozoa motility. African Journal of Reproductive Health, 21(3), 96-101.