21 NEW THINGS COUPLES NEED TO TRY IN BED

The love you have for your partners is not enough. You get to a point where you feel like the things you do with your partner are now becoming boring. Some new things that couples need to try include; bondage, trying new positions, and talking dirty.

While things become boring, you should try and bring the fire back into the bedroom. Find different ways in which you can rekindle the love by spicing things up in the bedroom. It is a normal thing for things to become boring. There are always bills to be paid, new responsibilities start kicking in, and you forget about your sexual life. You become relaxed in the bedroom activities. It takes partners to put in the effort and try to bring back the spark that you once had. Some new things couples need to try in bed include;

Try New Positions

Get rid of the same old sex positions when engaging in sexual activities. According to Gill (2009), try switching things up and introducing new sex positions to spice things up in the bedroom. Do not get used to the same old boring missionary style. You may get to experience some sensations and stimulations that you never expected.

Bondage

Bondage sex requires one to be submissive while the other dominates in sexual activities. You can always switch up the roles. You can try and introduce the BDSM games in your bedroom and get a different feeling for once. Be careful with these games as you may go overboard, especially if you are a newbie. You should have a safe word or a non-verbal cue when you feel like the activities have become uncomfortable or too painful for you.

Share Fantasies

Your partner is afraid of talking to you about their fantasies because they are unsure how you will take it or fear you may judge them. It is okay if you try and share your fantasies with them, and you will be shocked that they also have the same fantasies as you. Try and make your relationship a safe space where you can talk about anything with your partner.

Talk Dirty

You can always try and spice things up in the bedroom when things get boring. Talk about your feelings at the moment, especially if you are horny. Introduce dirty talks that can make them turn on and ant to get dirty with them.

Be Rough

You should first consult your partner and try and get consent from them before getting rough with them. The BDSM games are the ones that require you to get rough with your partner. It does not necessarily mean that you need to be physically rough; it can also be verbal. The verbal one is the best form to start with; then you can get to the physical part later.

Swallow

You can always try and switch things up in the bedroom. You can swallow the ejaculate of your partner if you are good at giving blowjobs. It will feel like a naughty or cheeky thing to do but also intimate.

Anal Play

Anal sex is not for everyone, especially if you like to rush sexual activities. According to Reynolds et al. (2015), ensure you get enough lubrication to avoid sex being rough and uncomfortable if you plan to have anal play.

Mutual Masturbation

Masturbating with your partner will make you learn many things about them. You can masturbate with your partner if you run out of activities to do. Please each other by watching the other masturbate, as Selterman & Koleva (2015) suggested.

Massage

You can switch things up by giving your partner a massage after a busy and difficult day at work. Sex might seem like too much work at that time. Make your partner get relaxed by giving them a massage without much pressure from sex.

Dress-Up

BDSM games do not necessarily mean inflicting pain on your partner. You can introduce different games in the bedroom. Get to role play by dressing up and acting the role of the person you have imitated the dress-up from.

Switch Roles

Some couples have the same partner being dominant in any sexual activity. You can switch things up. Let the submissive one take charge and all power and be the dominant one.

Avoid The Bedroom

While you get some private time alone, avoid the bedroom and try and get creative in the other rooms. It may work for you if you like taking risks and getting to feel the adrenaline rush. Sex in the other rooms will always be exciting because of the fear of getting caught.

Add Something Tasty

Consider pouring or smearing something tasty on each other's body and get your partner to lick it off your body. You can also use edible lubricant on yourself, and your partner can use their tongue to get it off them.

Use Lube

You may discover that sex has been rough and uncomfortable for you. The best thing you can do is use lubricant on yourself or your partner to avoid getting friction and enjoy the whole experience.

Toys

According to Fahs & Swank (2013), you could introduce sex toys in the bedroom and let your partner give you different sensational feelings. You can always start small until you get used to the toys.

Get Spontaneous

You can turn the normal boring routines into fun activities. You can bend down and have sex using the doggy style while washing the dishes.

Have Sex in Public

There is always a thrill of getting caught having sex in a public space. You can get your partner to agree to the idea if you like risk.

Record Yourself

You can make a sex tape together if you trust your partner. The feeling that you are doing it for the camera will make you have more fun than the normal days.

Invite Others

Non-monogamy has become normal in modern love. You can always try and break down the boring routines and introduce someone else in your bedroom.

Start the Flame

Go back to how the both of you started being interested in each other. You could go and have fun together in the bar if you first met there. You can re-live the memories.

Lights

Couples should check on what works best for them; if you feel like their sex drive is high when their light. The other partner should compromise at times and make it work for them. The same applies to vice versa.

Conclusion

People can pretend not to love sex, but it is common knowledge that sex is what glues and hold the couples together. Once the sex activities become boring or fade away, the whole relationship begins to fumble. You may try to save it later, but it may be late. The best thing is to communicate with your partner once you feel the relationship is not going as expected. Introduce new activities that will spice up your bedroom.

References

Fahs, B., & Swank, E. (2013). Adventures With The “Plastic Man”: Sex Toys, Compulsory Heterosexuality, And The Politics Of Women’s Sexual Pleasure. Sexuality & Culture, 17(4), 666-685.

Gill, R. (2009). Mediated Intimacy And Postfeminism: A Discourse Analytic Examination Of Sex And Relationships Advice In A Women’s Magazine. Discourse & Communication, 3(4), 345-369.

Reynolds, G. L., Fisher, D. G., & Rogala, B. (2015). Why Women Engage In Anal Intercourse: Results From A Qualitative Study. Archives Of Sexual Behavior, 44(4), 983-995.

Selterman, D., & Koleva, S. (2015). The Moral Judgment Of Close Relationship Behaviors. Journal Of Social And Personal Relationships, 32(7), 922-945.