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We are sexual and physical beings. However, for some reason, penetrative sex sometimes is not an option. Whether it is still too soon to get down with your partner, or things between the sheets are just not happening as they used to, you might want to revisit some fun with your clothes on.

As a teenager maybe you remember one such an encounter. That vivid day that you were just innocently cuddling with your high school boyfriend on his mother’s couch while you were supposed to be studying. The tender innocent kissing. His lips moving down your neck as his jeans rubbed between your young thighs. The silly feeling of emotions and arousal, yet you know sex is not an option at the moment. The continued humping and caressing that made your juices ooze out, wetting your innerwear. Then in a few moments, you could not help it but moan out with the most electrifying orgasm you have ever experienced. All while your clothes were still on.

This is an experience of “outercourse”, commonly referred to as non-penetrative sex. You might consider it foreplay as you prep for intense penetrative sex. But for those wearing purity-rings and vowed to preserve their virginity, dry humping is simply heavenly. The beauty of Outercourse is that it elevates many responsibilities from sex including unwanted pregnancies and many STIs because it involves none or minimal fluid exchange. For young couples, this allows you to get out of your brain, and concentrate on the excitement and sensations of the body without overthinking the consequences.  It gives you a moment to really appreciate your body as your greatest source of pleasure.

For couples in long-term relationships, you are already used to your nudity. This can make sex boring and routine. Spice things up by getting your partner heating up with their clothes on. Dry humping allows you to remember those first days when you met and sex was a shy affair. Create some anticipation by reminding each other how it felt when sex was forbidden and your mom would kill you if she found your pants down. Imaginations of your parents walking in can be extremely arousing.

Dry humping does not only entail caressing and rubbing yourself against your partner. It can including creative extras such as the use of fingers, mouth, and toys to make things more crazing while keeping your clothes.  

Tips on How to Attain Orgasm with your Clothes On

Ditch the Bedroom

Not that it is bad, but in most cases than not, any touching in the bedroom ends up in penetrative sex. So you might want to experience outercourse in other more exciting and daring environments. A couch presents an excellent play area while you enjoy a romantic movie with your partner. Sustain the rubbing and enjoy the sensation without getting down into each other. Reach out down his jeans and rub against his manhood. For men, pay special attention to her neck, breast, inner thighs, and butt cheeks as you kiss and hump her softly. Try it in other areas of the house such as the kitchen table, pool area or terrace. If you are bold enough, you will enjoy a spicy discreet rubbing in a corner while your friends dance away the night at a cocktail party.

Boost the Skin Sensation

While dry humping when we were teenagers just happened in most cases, as a creative sexual play, it is good to plan for the party. Wear clothes that feel sensual and good against your skin while impressing him by highlighting your silky skin. Think textiles such as silk, satin, and cotton. Also, consider loose-fitting cotton pants to jeans. This will reduce the friction that may occur from excited rubbing besides allowing your skin to experiences a sensual feeling with every rub.

Practice Sensual Breathing

Create anticipation of the erotic moment by practicing sensual breathing.  Alternate between hot and cool breathes under your partner’s genitalia but without touching them.  For a hot breath, exhale with your mouth, close to their undergarment fabric so that they can experience a warming sensation as the hot air penetrates their skin. For a cooling breath, blow as if you are blowing a candle but this time slightly away from the fabric so that the air is cold before it touches the skin. Alternate between hot and cold breathes as you slid his underwear up and down to intensify the moment while still softening the experience. Make sure to alternate between yourselves so that everyone gets a share of the sensation.

Work the Body

Not going for the usual allows you to realize that you have other parts that are as orgasmic as the cookie. It also gives you the opportunity to learn your partner’s body, observing what makes him twitch with pleasure and the zones that get his body throbbing with erotic wants.  Touch your partner’s legs, thighs, belly, arms, back, and neck. For a woman, she might enjoy playing with the thighs more than the penis as there is a larger area to work with. This also means that she can prolong the caressing and enjoy your satisfaction longer. For men, playing with the breast and neck is simply beautiful. Tease and play with your partner. You might want to bring in some toys such as vibrators, massagers, and ticklers to make the moment even more intense. You might also want to use your mouth to lightly bite your partner’s skin. Kiss him upside down and put your fingers into his or her mouth.

Grind against his face as he is grinding on your breast. You will also enjoy grinding against his erect penis as it lies on his stomach. You can also stroke it with your hand to give him some extra pleasure.  And if you have never considered it, bondage provides an exceptional playground for dry humping. Tie up your partner to your desired position so that they don’t move while you tease, tickle and grind them. Blindfold him so that he can keep guessing which part you will pleasure next which makes his or her senses even more heightened.  If the moment leads to penetrative sex, don’t be taken aback. It makes one of the most sensual love-making session you will cherish for a lifetime. You are adults after all!

Dry humping serves as the best foreplay to get your whole body synched with the sexual activity, helping you have more stamina and aware senses.

Combined, all these activities set your body up into an intense arousal that can sometimes feel numbing. Moreover, dry humping will definitely get you set for a breath-taking orgasm attained purely from the sexual excitement of your whole body. Most men who engage in dry humping have reported ejaculating without having to engage in penetrative sex. It is a play that leaves your partner screaming with satisfaction without even touching his genitals. So, spice up your erotic plays with dry humping for a more intimate and happy relationship with your partner. Get your silk, cotton and satin underwear here at Peaches and Screams and make your moments not only extremely sensual but also eye-gazing. Consider including massagers, vibrators, blindfolds, bondage kits and ticklers in your collection for a sensual moment with your partner. Discreet packaging and shipping to your doorstep!