BONDAGE TOYS FOR BEGINNERS AND EXPERIENCED BDSM ENTHUSIASTS

The variety of bondage toys for beginners includes a sex swing, ball gag, nipple clamp, and clitoral vibrator.

Bondage is one of the aspects of BDSM. The BDSM acronym stands for Bondage, Dominance, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. Bondage involves restricting the partner's freedom with restraint. The most common objects that are used as restraints are ropes and handcuffs. If you do not want to restrict yourself to boring kinkiness, you should think beyond ropes and handcuffs. Your first challenge will be gauging the best place to buy the toys because we may be in the 21^st century but BDSM is still discussed, Some people still consider BDSM a taboo, and the people who practice it do it secretly as explained by Steinmetz (2014). Buying from a sex toy shop is always the best option. When shopping online, you must read the descriptions and reviews keenly. The following are some of the toys that you may want to try;

A Tickler

A tickler is a perfect and gentle way to join the kink community. The tickler will allow you to explore BDSM opportunities by giving off nice sensations that can arouse you, and that's the mood you want during BDSM. You want to be teased into arousal. You willingly could be teased into cuffs.

A Whip

There can be no real bondage without a whip to punish an indisciplined submissive partner. If you want to show control over your partner, you need a whip if they do not behave and to arouse them by making them surrender. As the whip stings, the submissive partner feels excitement and pain simultaneously and learns to be submissive as they should be. If they are not, the whip always comes in handy to remind them.

Cuffs

You may use police cuffs, but they are unsafe because they can cause injuries and tissue damage. If you want to get the sensation from the BDSM experience, police cuffs will be perfect. However, if you want pleasure with no pain, you will need to purchase the bondage cuffs that have been manufactured for bondage sex.

Slapper

You must get a slapper if you want some sound effects during bondage sex. The slapper does not slap silently. It produces a slapping sound too. The lighter slappers are perfect for the whole body and not the buttocks. If you want more sensations, you may have two slappers so that you can slap the submissive as if they were a drum.

Kegel Balls

You may wonder why and how kegel balls fit in the list. You can use the Kegel balls for foreplay. Bondage sex involves a lot of gripping and holding. Why not give your vagina something to grip? That can be a great task for the submissive, giving their vagina a job to do. 

Bondage Tape

If you do not have cuffs and ropes, you may use bondage tapes. Bondage tapes are a perfect item to have. The best deal about bondage tapes is that they stick to themselves without any adhesive. Even better, the bondage tape cannot stick to the hair and the skin. Besides using them for bonding, you can use them to gag your partner. Moreover, you can use it as a blindfold too.

Sex Swing

If you want your partner to be suspended by a swing while you are having sex, a sex swing is an item you need to invest in.

Ballgag

The submissive partner wears the gag so that they are forced to follow instructions without talking. If the submissive partner has been disobedient, that's the punishment that will teach them a lesson. The ball gag is meant to humiliate them as they feel helpless. Some people derive pleasure from ball gags.

Restrain Kit

If you want to have all the necessary restrain kits without picking items at the sex toy shop one at a time, you may have the restrain kit. The restrain kit is perfect for beginners because you can start your bondage games as soon as you buy it. 

Thigh Cuffs

The wrist and leg cuff restrain may not be satisfactory enough so a thigh cuff may be necessary for more restrain. Thigh cuffs come attached to wrist cuffs so that the submissive partner cannot move the thighs and wrists. They come in gentle materials, e.g. leather with some metal parts. They are great for beginners because they are safe to use.

Massage Candle

The massage candle is not an ordinary candle. As it melts, you may use it for massage. 

Clitoral Vibrator

No one has bondage sex with a woman and fails to excite the powerful part of her body – her clitoris. A small bean can make the whole body turn into a ball of sexual energy. Make the clitoris happy with a clitoral vibrator.

Nipple Clamps

The nipples are an erogenous part that you will ignore at your own risk. Have them taken care of with clamps for more sensations. 

Lube

Without lube, you do not want to insert your fingers, toys, and penis into your partner. If your partner is lubricating well, you may do so, but if she is dry down there, help her have fun by using lube. Lubrication is very important as explained by Angel (2022). Moreover, Wilson et al. (2017) explained that lubricants are used during procreative intercourse to moderate the amount of wetness in the genitals. 

If the bondage game is meant for pleasure, we must excuse the genitalia. Everything else can be painful except the sexual organs. Lube is a must-have if you have anal sex because the anal canal does not produce any lubrication.

Blindfold

You probably want your partner to work out the senses without seeing what is going on so that the sensations they feel on their skin and genitals may surprise them. Some people get aroused when they can feel things without seeing, probably they are the same people that like having sex in the dark.

Butt Plugs

If you want to go on having bondage sex while the anal canals are busy, you may have them plugged for extra fun.

Rubber Sheet

With all the ejaculations and squirting, you do not want to mess up your beddings. Get yourself a rubber sheet to have fun without worries about staining your beddings.

Latex Fisting Mitten

If you want to fist your partner deeply, you will invest in a fisting mitten. They are fingerless so that they may have a perfect shape for fisting.

Conclusion

Kinksters have been the most misunderstood group of people. Some people think that they are dirty but Adams et al. (2020) disagreed. According to the study, the kink community is a group of intelligent people who are self-conscious as they know what they want. Feel no shame as you walk into the sex toy shop to buy a sex toy. Your BDSM game should be guided by the legal guidelines that separate domestic violence and BDSM. BDSM should be safe, sane, and consensual. During the BDSM session, there should be safe words so that a moment of pleasure does not turn into tragedy. It is also advisable that the partners be sober during BDSM so that their reasoning and judgment may not be clouded.

References

Adams, T. E., Atay, A., Birthisel, J., Carwile, A. M., Curran, M. A., Frischherz, M., ... & Swiatkowski, P. (2020). Communication in Kink: Understanding the Influence of the Fifty Shades of Grey Phenomenon. Lexington Books.

Angel, K. (2022). Tomorrow sex will be good again: Women and desire in the age of consent. Verso Books.

Steinmetz, C., & Maginn, P. J. (2014). The landscape of BDSM venues: A view from down under. In (Sub) Urban Sexscapes (pp. 117-137). Routledge.Wilson, S. L., Adam, J. K., & Krishna, S. B. N. (2017). Effects of vaginal lubricants on in-vitro progressive spermatozoa motility. African Journal of Reproductive Health, 21(3), 96-101.