5 THINGS MEN GET WRONG ABOUT GETTING WOMEN OFF

Starting early, talking to her, doing foreplay right, focusing on the clitoris, and staying in the groove are things men don't understand in getting a woman off. Getting a woman to orgasm is not a walk in the park, but it doesn’t have to be complicated.

Nothing gives a man more pride and confidence than knowing he is good in bed. Being successful is essential in life, but there is something about being good in bed. A man cant claim to be good in bed when they can’t make their partner reach orgasm. A woman reaching orgasm is the measure of a man’s skills in bed. Unlike men, a woman's orgasm is a full-body experience and doesn't depend on the part of her anatomy. You might be on your way to orgasm if you know your way around a woman’s body. However, when trying to get her off, there are things that men aren't aware of and end up failing.

Starting Early

According to Graziottin (2020), you should note that arousal is the key to a woman's orgasm. It's not in the deep penetrations or how long you last in bed; all these factors are important, but it sounds like a lot of work. You want to do this right. Consider spending a little more time loosening a woman up. Men have a habit of skipping to the main event when making out with a woman. You must understand that you are setting yourself up for failure without foreplay, which is primarily for arousing women. A proper warm-up will make it easier for your woman to get off easily when the main event kicks off. Get a woman’s body in the mood mentally, emotionally, and physically. Consider sending a woman sexy text messages while at work to stimulate her mentally. Before you consider stepping into the bedroom, whisper nice words in a woman’s ears and talk dirty to keep her emotions in check, as McCall & Meston (2006) suggested. When getting physical, know the right spots to touch, graze your hand over, and lick or kiss.

Foreplay Should Be Done Right

Unless you have a quickie with your woman, avoid skipping the foreplay. Foreplay is more complicated if you do not master its concept.  Short-lived foreplay won't cut it, and you might consider how you do it. Getting down to a woman’s breasts or going down on her won't feel amazing if she is not psychologically prepared or aroused. The trick is not what you do or how much you do it, but when and how well you do it. Getting a woman aroused involves her entire body, and so does her orgasm. According to McIntyre et al. (2005), there are sensitive parts of her body, like the nipples you never want to miss. However, consider starting with slow seductive kissing as you work your way to the rest of her body parts other than the sensitive parts like the nape of her neck and her lower back.

Talk to  Her

Several men fail to pay attention to some sensitive things. You need to understand that arousal is not only based on the physical. Turning a woman on is also mental; you have to make love to a woman’s mind as much as her body, and what better way to do this than with words. The idea of talking dirty is the most obvious, but dirty talk doesn't have to be necessarily dirty. There is no need to worry if you are not skilled in talking dirty. Instead, you can share a fantasy with your partner and frame it as a dream. A fantasy shows a woman that you are thinking about them and you love making out with them. Placing a woman as the focus of your fantasy boosts her confidence, as Gill (2009) showed. The more confident and comfortable a woman becomes with you makes it easier to get her off.

It's All In The Clitoris.

Female orgasm sounds complicated; rest assured it's not. The clitoris is the core of orgasm and where your concentration should be. Stimulating a woman’s clitoris is somehow not that complicated. You can use your mouth, lips, and tongue to eat a woman's clit; you can also opt to stimulate the clitoris with your fingers or use your graze the penis around her clitoral area with no penetration involved. You can also incorporate toys for a better experience and to make your work easier. Surprisingly many women can orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone, also known as clitoral orgasm. You are at a better chance of getting a woman off with no effort needed by understanding her clitoris and how to stimulate it.

Staying In The Groove

You are hitting it right on the perfect spots, and she is breathing heavily and moaning as a woman matches your rhythm flawlessly. You can be tempted or decide to turn a woman over and switch positions. This is because of the idea that may be a woman is getting bored or you wants to try the things you often see in porn. This is a bad idea; you want sex to include a variety of positions, and this is also a plus for you. However, once you are in the groove, learn to stick there and maintain that position. A woman is on the verge of orgasm, and switching the position will only set her orgasm back, meaning she will start from the top. There is no need to worry that you will need to focus on only one or two positions for the rest of your fling. Switching things up makes things interesting, but ensure a  woman has achieved her first orgasm when you are in the groove. Several women are likely to achieve several orgasms.

Conclusion

Getting a woman off means making her orgasm. It sometimes seems hard since, unlike men, women's orgasm is more complicated. It involves a woman's entire body, and this is something you have to keep in mind when trying to get her off. Getting a woman off is quite easy if you understand her anatomy., men often get some things wrong and fail. Pleasure goes both ways, and if you can get your woman off, you can also say that you are good in bed.

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Mcintyre, B. S., Barlow, N. J., & Foster, P. M. (2001). Androgen-Mediated Development In Male Rat Offspring Exposed To Flutamide In Utero: Permanence And Correlation Of Early Postnatal Changes In Anogenital Distance And Nipple Retention With Malformations In Androgen-Dependent Tissues. Toxicological Sciences, 62(2), 236-249.