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7 TRAITS OF SEXUALLY SELF-SABOTAGING MEN

7 TRAITS OF SEXUALLY SELF-SABOTAGING MEN

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova
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7 TRAITS OF SEXUALLY SELF-SABOTAGING MEN

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova

Men are known to be hunters, but in recent times, they have started ruining their chances of laying a woman without them noticing. Some of the traits of sexually self-sabotaging men include; complaining about their insecurities, being not seductive, and playing safe in bed.

Most men blow their chances of getting laid by doing silly little mistakes that could have been avoided very early in the game. They may end up getting laid at times, but in the long run, they may be left out in the cold because of their mistakes. There is that chance that they are doing it so that they do not even recognize that they are blowing off their chances slowly. Most of the time, they sabotage themselves by only caring about themselves without thinking about their partners. This attitude would make it look selfish even if they didn't want to mean it like that. Some of the sexually self-sabotaging traits in men include;

Always Complaining About Their Insecurities   

Everyone has their insecurities. It is completely okay. We get to talk about it and try to change something about it at times. However, according to Kenniff (2010), some men try to bring themselves down by dragging their insecurities into their relationship and using them as an excuse. They keep complaining about their insecurities and not doing anything to sort them out or without even finding out ways in which you can work best with those insecurities. One should always find ways in which they can handle their insecurities, as this would always work best for them. It even feels attractive when you know someone is trying to embrace their insecurities.

Constantly complaining about your insecurities and sitting back without doing anything is always a turnoff and shows that you just love nagging. They always feel the need to be reassured that they are okay, but not everyone has that time in their hands. The fact that they keep complaining about their insecurities will make them not look appealing, however handsome they are. 

Hating On Their Partner’s Sex Drive

Couples do not always have the same sex drive. Some are mismatched. At first, it is always easy to get it off with your partner because both of you have the heat for sex. As days go by and you get used to each other, you notice that one person has a higher sex drive than the other. Many guys tend to resent their partners because of this issue, as they do not get laid as much as they would wish to. 

It pushes their partners to have that pressure of always being horny and get in the mood for sex anytime that their partners would wish to get it down. This, at times, backfires on their partners because they do not feel like they are understood in the relationship. They may even become emotionally detached. They may get to resent each other in the relationship.

They are Not Seductive

Most men do not feel the need to be romantic with their partners and seduce them. They always want to get to the deed without putting any effort into it. They do this, then wonder why you gave up on them or ghosted them mysteriously. She lost interest in having sex with you. The things you do not make them feel wanted in the bedroom. If they put so much effort into the bedroom, they would get laid. 

Sex Feels Like It Is One-Sided

Most of the time, you will get that when doing sexual activities, they only care about themselves. They do not last long when it is your time to be pleasured, even after you have pleased them in every way that they wanted. No one would like to settle where the sex is terrible, and your needs are not met. It is never fun or exciting. Everyone, especially the ladies, like being taken care of and feeling loved. This shows that you are being desired.

Play It Safe in Bed

As it is always believed, normal will always turn out to be boring in the long run. Getting used to the same-sex activity will turn into a routine and may seem like a house chore that needs to be performed. You should always bring some little excitement to the bedroom by spicing things up. Do not just assume that your partner is okay with whatever sex activity you are used to in the bedroom. It is a mistake that you need to avoid. Ask them about their fantasies, and you will then try and introduce the fantasies in the bedroom.

Pushing Her Boundaries

Pushing your partner's boundaries does not necessarily mean that it has to be physical. This happens most of the time through passive-aggressive or indirect comments towards your partner. They like taking their partner through the guilt trip so that they may get something from them. The worst thing about this technique is it most of the time works, and they end up getting their way. The emotional guilt trip will work, but they will decide to do away with this game in the long run, and you may be left in the cold. It becomes the last time they allow you to mess up with their minds.

They Do Not Put in Any Effort

Everyone wants to feel comfortable with their significant other. They may not do anything that makes the women uncomfortable, but they also do not try to make you feel comfortable. Little efforts like praising or even compliments can go a long way. According to Gao et al. (2017), compliments play a vital role in developing and maintaining interpersonal relationships. A man should always give their women that assurance that they love them. This will make them comfortable in their company.

Conclusion

In most cases, it is believed that the guys that are always desperate for sex are the ones that find it difficult to please their women. All they ever care about is being laid. This makes it easy for them to miss their chances through their silly actions and mistakes. You may be doing all the great things that a woman may want, but just silly or stupid mistakes that you will do repeatedly will completely turn them off. They may leave you as they do not have the time to give chances to someone who has repeatedly shown that they do not want to change.

References

Kenniff, S. (2010). Stop Effing Yourself: A Survivor's Guide to Life's Biggest Screw-ups. Health Communications, Inc..

Gao, Z., Gao, S., Xu, L., Zheng, X., Ma, X., Luo, L., & Kendrick, K. M. (2017). Women 

Prefer Men Who Use Metaphorical Language When Paying Compliments In A Romantic Context. Scientific Reports, 7(1), 1-11


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