HOW TO HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS: MIND MELTING PLEASURE GUIDE

If you have never achieved an orgasm, you will be doubtful if you can even achieve multiple. Some ways in which you can achieve having multiple orgasms include; breaking the cycle and masturbating.

We all think that for one to achieve an orgasm, the focus should be on the clitoris. This is false. The mind also helps in achieving multiple orgasms and experiencing pleasure. Multiple orgasms refer to having more than one orgasm during a one-time session. Rowland & Gutierrez (2017) suggested that climaxing has four stages. It starts with sexual excitement, then a plateau followed by orgasm and resolution. When it comes to orgasm, it is not always about the G-spot and the clitoris. There are so many ways to try to achieve multiple orgasms and get to be pleasured. Some of these ways are;    

Relax

To achieve multiple orgasms, you need to avoid instances that make you stressed or even distractions present around you. If you are in situations where you are stressed, tired, or distracted, the possibility of you reaching an orgasm is very minimum.   

Be Aroused

You need to be turned on first for you to have an orgasm. There are different ways for you to get turned on. You can try watching porn. Some porn movies and videos will help you masturbate. You can also read some erotic novels, books or even try to remember the first time you had sex with your partner and how you felt. Some of these ways will sexually arouse you, and you will achieve multiple orgasms. 

Try New Activities

After achieving your first orgasm, you should try and introduce a new activity that will make you achieve another orgasm. If you had a clitoral orgasm, you can shift and try to achieve an anal orgasm. You can try fingering your butt hole and seeing if you can achieve something new. If you get to have a penile orgasm, you can opt to try massaging your prostate for a prostate orgasm.

Use of Toys

You can use different sex toys to achieve multiple orgasms. The use of sex toys will always feel greater than tongues. You will be sexually aroused and end up achieving multiple orgasms. Your partner can use the toys on you during foreplay. Be sure to check their reaction when using the toys on them. Check if they are making sounds of pleasure or just looking at you. If they are not satisfied, you should switch it up and try to do something else. 

If they're withdrawing or shivering from the touch, try and do something else. They should speak out. Your partner cannot read your mind. Tell them what makes you feel great and want it to be done to you.

Masturbate

Brancato (2021) noted that masturbation reduces stress and enhances the production of feel-good chemicals, such as oxytocin and dopamine. The brain and the body will always respond to masturbation. You can try touching your clitoris sensually and gently. However, if the clit is sensitive or experiencing pain, you can try touching your other body parts like the nipples. Try using a vibrator on your nipples to stimulate them with vibrations. Remember that your partner is not the one who has to make sure you achieve an orgasm. You can do it yourself.

Make Sex Be All About You  

Try sexual activities that will make you have maximum pleasure. Talk with your partner and tell them what you love doing or what they can do for you to achieve multiple orgasms. Ask them to help you get some orgasms. They can use sex toys, perform oral sex, or try different sex positions to speed up the stimulation.

Take a Break

Orgasms are great but should not be the aim every time you have sex. Get to experience and enjoy the moment. Do not put so much pressure on yourself just to achieve multiple orgasms. At most times, the pressure you give yourself ends up blocking you from achieving an orgasm. Have fun and enjoy the moment. You might get some orgasms, yet you were not expecting it, or you didn't even have that in mind. If you don’t get to get an orgasm, it is okay. At least you got to have some fun while at it.

Have Positive Thoughts

If you have never achieved an orgasm, you must train your mind to affect it positively. When having sex, speak to yourself that you are going to have fun and you are sure you will get some orgasms. You can try edging. This will help you get an orgasm as a first-timer. After that, you can believe in yourself and think of how you can get multiple orgasms and try it out. It does not necessarily need to be with your partner. You can try pleasuring yourself and see how it goes. Just have some positive thinking while at it.

Conclusion   

It is quite okay if you don't get to achieve some orgasms. The end goal of sex should never be to achieve an orgasm. If you pressure yourself, you are likely not to achieve an orgasm. Train your mind to think beyond achieving some orgasm and try to enjoy the moment. Most times, we have achieved an orgasm without expecting it.

References

Rowland, D., & Gutierrez, B. R. (2017). Phases Of The Sexual Response Cycle.

Brancato, S. (2021). " Feeling Myself": Masturbation In Women's Coming Of Age Novels. Georgetown University.