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STRAIGHT TALK FOR STRAIGHT GUYS: FINGERING

Straight Talk For Straight Guys: Fingering

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova
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Straight Talk For Straight Guys: Fingering

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova

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🌟 Quick Summary 🌟

  • 🔑 Keep things relaxed, and focus on the moment.
  • 💡 Remember: communication is key for both parties!
  • 👌 Experiment gently—everyone's preferences are unique!
  • 🌿 A little patience goes a long way for comfort.

🧐 Key Advice and Tips from Our Experts🧐

  • 💬 "Start slow and be aware of your partner's comfort." - Expert advice
  • 🎯 "Focus on the sensations, not the destination!" - Sexologist tips
  • 🌸 "Make it fun, and keep a playful attitude—it's all about exploration!" - Sexual wellness guru

Have you ever thought of fingering your partner for some pleasurable sexual experience but do not know where to begin? Herein is a complete guide that takes you through everything you need to know about fingering, including the techniques and tips.

Sexual satisfaction is not always about penetrative sex. Numerous sexual activities will surely give you the experience you need even without sex toys and a penis. When it comes to giving your partner a satisfying sexual experience, willingness and enthusiasm will take you far. But the essential aspect that will help satisfy all your partner's sexual desires is your skill. Do you know how it is done? Do you understand how to play with your fingers when inside your vulva?

According to Hensel et al. (2021), fingering your partner's vulva is not supposed to feel like a penis. This should only be the case when your partner asks for it. Learning how it is done is essential since it allows out to deliver the best for your partner. Furthermore, preparation is a key element, like in penetrative or any other type of sex. Consider preparing your partner to allow them to feel every session moment. Here are the things you need to know about fingering and how you can do it perfectly.

Tried and True Fingering Techniques

Here are some of the fingering techniques to consider;

Reach for the G-spot

Bell (2013) states that G-spot orgasms are sometimes challenging to achieve, especially during penile stimulation. But have you ever discussed with your partner about fingering? According to Vieira-Baptista et al. (2021), fingers are one of the best tools to access your G-spot effortlessly. When inserting your fingers inside your partner's vagina, ensure they face upwards to help locate the spot. Stimulate the spot continuously until your partner approaches orgasms.

Two Hands are Better than One

One finger has never been the perfect way to do it. Also, it is not only about the G-spot you focus on here. You must also consider your partner's clit to give them blended orgasms. Use one hand to penetrate the vulva, the other finger to find the G-spot, and one finger to stimulate the clitoris. Rubbing the clitoris with your fingers increases sensitivity, allowing you to experience satisfying pleasures.

Gloves for Love

Like condoms during penile stimulation, gloves can be the perfect tool for fingering. Technically, condoms are designed perfectly to give you a comfortable and safe sexual experience. They protect you from STIs and other sexual infections. Consider choosing one that will give you a safe and comfortable fingering experience for gloves. However, when using gloves, consider making your nails short. Also, remove the rings to keep your gloves in a better condition.

Find Your Best Angles

Finding the perfect angle is essential since it allows you to reach the spot you are looking for without any challenges. You can kneel between your partner's legs, lean behind them or lie on your side while bending your knees (spooning). This allows you to give your partner a pleasurable and satisfying fingering experience.

Going Deeper and Wetter

Consider going deeper when finding what works perfectly for your partner after the first pleasurable fingering orgasm. Your partner can always achieve the second orgasm, depending on how you finger them. Consider giving them more pleasure while combining oral play and fingering. You can always take fingering to the next level to give your partner a satisfying experience.

Pro Fingering Tips

Here are fingering tips that will ensure you give your partner a satisfying and safe experience using your fingers;

Keep It Clean

Cleanliness is one of the basic aspects to consider when preparing for fingering sessions. Ensure you clean your hands and fingers before inserting them inside your partner's vagina. Also, consider trimming and cleaning your nails to keep them safe and comfortable. Moreover, wearing gloves requires short nails to prevent them from breaking during fingering.

Reach for the Lube

Lubricants are a must-have tool during any sexual activity, including fingering. The fingers against your partner's clit inside the vulva might be painful due to extreme friction. But you can reduce the unwanted friction between your fingers and partner's genitals by applying plenty of sex lubes. Lubrication is very important, as explained by Angel (2022). Generally, lubricants are designed to help reduce unwanted friction. According to Wilson et al. (2017), lubricants are used during procreative intercourse to moderate the amount of wetness in the genitals. You can go for water-based sex lubes or silicone-based lubricants; it depends on your preferences and tastes.

Start Slow

Sexually, the vulva tends to elongate when aroused. You need to ensure your partner is fully aroused before you insert your penis. Surprisingly, this also applies during fingering. However, this cannot be achieved when you move faster since it makes them feel uncomfortable. Consider moving slowly, especially when beginning to make it pleasurable and sensual.

Focus On the Clitoris

The clitoris is one of the most sensitive organs in the female body, with numerous nerve endings. Concentrating on the clitoris during fingering allows you to receive powerful and mind-blowing organs. Clitoris is also the organ for pleasure in the female body, making it the perfect spot for external stimulation. Use your fingers to stimulate the clit for some sensational and satisfying pleasures. You can also ask your partner what feels pleasurable for them.

Spend Time at the Vaginal Opening

Although your partner's clitoris is the perfect spot for achieving powerful orgasms, stimulating other parts around the vaginal opening is also essential. The vaginal opening is also packed with sensitive nerve endings to give you a satisfying sexual experience. You can play with the labia while slipping inside the vagina to make things pleasurable for your partner.

Communication

What works for you might not be the same thing your partner prefers. So, consider asking them first before the session begins. Communicating allows you to understand each other well and your desires. Moreover, communication also helps boost your trust and improve your romantic relationship.

Know When to Stop

Knowing when to spot fingering is essential, which can be easier if the receiving partner communicates. Generally, if your partner feels uncomfortable, unpleasant, or pushes your fingers out, then it is good if you stop. Do something that makes both parties comfortable. Also, asking them how it feels allows you to understand what they want and how they want it.

References

Angel, K. (2022). Tomorrow sex will be good again: Women and desire in the age of

Bell, L. C. (2013). Hard to get: Twenty-something women and the paradox of sexual freedom. Univ of California Press.

consent. Verso Books.

Hensel, D. J., von Hippel, C. D., Lapage, C. C., & Perkins, R. H. (2021). Women's techniques for making vaginal penetration more pleasurable: Results from a nationally representative study of adult women in the United States. PloS one16(4), e0249242.

Vieira-Baptista, P., Lima-Silva, J., Preti, M., Xavier, J., Vendeira, P., & Stockdale, C. K. (2021). G-spot: fact or fiction?: a systematic review. Sexual Medicine9(5), 100435.

Wilson, S. L., Adam, J. K., & Krishna, S. B. N. (2017). Effects of vaginal lubricants on in-vitro progressive spermatozoa motility. African Journal of Reproductive Health21(3), 96-101.


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