THE SECRET TO REACHING ORGASM DURING SEX
For most people, sex is satisfactory only when it reaches orgasm. Below are essential tips for reaching an orgasm, including foreplay.
Sex will not always reach its peak. Sometimes, the couple has to be content with their sex even without an orgasm. Reaching the climax is especially harder for women. Women take longer than men to be aroused and reach an orgasm. It is unlikely that a man having sex with a woman for a few minutes can be able to help her reach an orgasm. When a woman understands her body well, she knows what she needs to have an orgasm and be content with the sexual experience. The following are some tips that are effective in reaching a climax during sex;
Anticipation First
It would be better if you were prepared for sex psychologically. You could sex chat and send each other sensual pictures or videos. Levine, D. (2013) defined sexting as the process by which one share sexually suggestive pictures and messages through mobile phones or media. It would be best to prepare your minds to know what to look forward to. If a man and a woman met and, without any conversation, just started having sex, it is very unlikely that the woman will have an orgasm. For maximum pleasure, sex is a lot more than just penetrating and thrusting. It does not matter how long the man lasts. If the woman is not feeling intense pleasure, she will not have an orgasm. Therefore, build anticipation before the session.
Prepare the Stage
The venue should have a sexual mood. If you always have sex in the bedroom, try changing the venue. Move to the living room or living room. Wherever you choose, make sure it excites you sexually. You can also add some candles for a romantic feel.
Make Foreplay Longer
It is difficult for a woman to have an orgasm without foreplay. According to PALERMO et al. (2004), foreplay should occur before penetration. However, the couple needs to take time for them to enjoy sex. During role-playing, the couple can indulge their fantasies and fetishes as they get into character. They can also enjoy some massage and erotic stories from each other. Moreover, they can caress and kiss each other. The delaying of penetration enables them to be ready psychologically.
Penetrate Only When There Is Enough Lubrication
If the man pounces on the woman before she is well lubricated, it will result in painful sex. Painful sex can cause the woman to have trauma. According to Wilson et al. (2017), lubricants are used during procreative intercourse to moderate the amount of wetness in the genitals. When the woman is sufficiently lubricated, she enjoys sex more. She will be comfortable because lubrication reduces friction and irritation. Vaginal lubrication is very important for sexual arousal. It is the first sign that the woman is ready for sex. The man should not penetrate the woman until he observes that the lubrication is sufficient. If the lubrication is not enough, the couple should have more foreplay or use artificial lubrication.
Have Mutual Masturbation
Mutual masturbation is when the couple rubs each other's genitals without sexual intercourse. According to Leonard (2010), masturbation is harmless and convenient for everybody. It is a common practice among gay people, and that's why they are rumored to have the most orgasms. Sexual intercourse between lesbians is generally masturbation, oral sex, and fingering. Sometimes they use sex toys. But because they can't penetrate each other, their sexual practice can fall into the mutual masturbation category. They, therefore, enjoy orgasms even without penile intercourse. Heterosexual couples should venture into mutual masturbation to achieve orgasm too.
Try Different Positions
Some positions are ideal for orgasms, while others are not. For example, doggy-style is not ideal for a woman who wants to achieve orgasm, especially if she has never achieved an orgasm. The man can rub her clitoris to make her more sexually excited, leading to more lubrication. There are two types of orgasms, clitoral and vaginal orgasms. Some women have never achieved an orgasm, as explained by Cass (2002). The woman on top is the best style for achieving clitoral orgasm. As she rides the penis, she also rubs her clitoris on his crotch. However, if the man is on top, he can ensure that his crotch rubs the woman's clitoris during thrusting. The couple's position will ensure that the couple has the maximum pleasure possible.
Conclusion
The height of sexual pleasure is an orgasm. There are two types of orgasms in women, clitoral and vaginal orgasms. Pornography has been blamed for the lack of orgasms among women because, in pornography, men do not take time with foreplay. The sexual aspect of pornography features penetration only. For that reason, the men who watch pornography do not understand the importance of foreplay. The woman must be prepared to enjoy sex, and lack of foreplay means that she will not be able to lubricate properly, hence no climax. Orgasm is the ultimate purpose of every sexual experience, and women should expect it to happen any time they have sex.
References
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PALERMO, J. P., SEXUALITY, H., & LAVASTIDA, F. J. I. (2004). THE MORALITY OF ORAL SEX WITHIN SACRAMENTAL MARRIAGE.
Wilson, S. L., Adam, J. K., & Krishna, S. B. N. (2017). Effects of vaginal lubricants on in-vitro progressive spermatozoa motility. African Journal of Reproductive Health, 21(3), 96-101.
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