MAN DOWN: WHY ARE SOME MEN INTIMIDATED BY SEX TOYS?

Sex toys are the go-to satisfaction tool for most women because penetration sex does not always work. However, not all men are open to using sex toys. Herein is why some men are intimidated by sex toys, including feeling inadequate and that the vibrator will replace them.

You cannot place the consistent pleasure vibrators give off on the same level as human pleasure, which is because most women value the art of clitoral stimulation. Although most men are open to finding their paths for self-pleasure, some men may not be comfortable using sex toys in their bedroom adventures. There are many reasons behind this phenomenon, but the most common is that some men feel they have low sexual skills. However, this should not be because sexual pleasure depends on both partners. This article highlights the most common reasons men do not like using sex toys on their women.

Why Are Some Men Intimidated By Sex Toys?

Sex toys add to the fun that is experienced behind closed doors. Although the topic of sex toys is still taboo, most people, especially men, are not open to the idea of introducing them to their sex lives. So, why don’t men prefer using sex toys?

They May Feel Inadequate 

Thanks to the growing number of sex toy users, these 'marital aids' are gaining traction. Porn films and erotica depicts the penis as the epitome of sexual pleasure. Most have scenes where the male has a huge and extensive cock that looks fit enough to offer insane amounts of pleasure. For this reason, men may feel that women need their manhood to reach orgasm. Their egos could also be bruised because vibrators can give women intense orgasms that are better compared to what they (men) can offer. 

They Feel Like Sex Toys are a Safer Way of Cheating

Most young adults are open to women using vibrators for self-pleasure. Some have alluded to the possibility that the thought of their women orgasming from a sex toy turns them on, and they may love to watch them please themselves before or during sex. Some guys view sex toys as an escape from any thought that may allude to cheating. Sex toys are complicated, with most having a life-like resemblance to a penis. You cannot equate a sex toy to a male sex organ despite this fact. Vibrators have rotating motors that offer varying speeds and intensities, making them the go-to toys for women looking for intense clitoral stimulation. This vibrating mechanism can bring out men's deep insecurities regarding sex toys. 

They Feel that Vibrators Will Replace Them

Castleman (2011) stated that most men believe vibrators came to replace males has no basis. Most women include sex toys in their sex lives to boost sexual satisfaction, especially orgasms. Contrary to popular belief bringing up the sex toy issue to your partner is not a walk in the park. A good approach to this issue is casually asking your man about his opinion on sex toys. You can do this during dinner dates or on a night out with friends at a club. Listen to him keenly, and do not be extremely assertive about your stand on toys. If your man downplays this idea, he may have misinformed thoughts and ideas about vibrators. If you feel like his thoughts are against you finding your satisfaction path, rethink the relationship because no one has the power to shun you from trying new things.

It's Almost Feels Like They Are Competing With the Sex Toy

Even though most males are frightened by their partners getting off a toy, a sex device can result in shared pleasure. Vibrators can deliver profound sensations to the penis, leading to intense sexual stimulation and increased intimacy. Wassersug & Wibowo (2017) showed that most men who have used sex toys during their sex sessions have reported experiencing intense satisfaction levels, erectile function, and orgasms. Most couple vibrators are hands-free therefore boosting the positions you and your partner can engage in.

Why Men Should Go Easy on Sex Toys

 If your partner is open to the idea of sex toys but is scared that it may weaken your sex life, you should explain why incorporating toys in the bedroom isn't a bad idea. You can reach a compromise because his emotional needs are also important. Men against sex toys have a wayward way of thinking that makes women subject to men. It may not be due to the societal expectations that may have rubbed on them negatively. Society expects men to focus on their pleasure, a misconception that depicts an ugly upbringing and a lack of self-confidence.

According to Westermarck (1934), sex involves experimenting and communicating what feels right for you. In recent years, sex toys have been viewed as a women-only commodity. However, the sex toy industry is working day and night to reverse these thoughts by coming up with toys designed for men. Incorporating sex toys can be a good way to boost sexual pleasure alone and with a partner. Many women have proclaimed that men who are open to using sex toys have a sexy aura around them. 

The Bottom Line

Men may feel intimidated by women who value sex toys a lot. However, most sex therapists advise against harboring feelings of intimidation because the sex market is ballooning with vibrators by the day, and many women are hopping onto this bandwagon. Women are attracted by men who have a sense of confidence. It does not matter how much it may be. Confidence speaks volumes about who you are, and most of the time, this is the only trait that a woman may need from you in the bedroom. As outlined in the article above, sex toys are glorious toys that deserve all the hype they have gotten. If you feel the need to try one with your partner, introduce the idea and experiment to find the right one.

References

Castleman, M. (2011). Vibrators: Myths vs. Truth. Psychology Today, February 15.

Wassersug, R., & Wibowo, E. (2017). Non-pharmacological and Non-surgical Strategies to promote Sexual Recovery for Men with Erectile Dysfunction. Translational Andrology and Urology, 6(Suppl 5), S776.Westermarck, E. (1934). Three Essays on Sex and Marriage (p. 353). London: Macmillan.