EROTIC ENCRYPTION: SAFE SEXY SELFIE SHARING

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Barbara Santini
Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Advisor

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Veronika Matutyte
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Katie Lasson
Sex and Relationship Adviser

When you are away from your partner, the only thing you can do is to communicate and share your photos to feel their presence. You might opt to send him some sexy or nude photos. A safe way of sharing a sexy selfie includes hiding some features.

According to Tiidenberg (2018), selfies involve taking pictures of yourself. When you have your phone and know you have some compromising pictures, you should make sure they are protected from access by the people around you. You can have a folder in which you will hide the content from your friends and family. When you decide to make the step and send a photo to someone, you should be cautious to avoid them from circulating. The only way to make sure they are safe is to send the picture to someone you know and trust. According to Klettke, Hallford & Mellor (2014), sending such photos is a personal choice, so there should be no pressure out n you by any person to send your nudes. It is also a good choice to avoid having the ‘privacy STIs’. This article outlines some of the ways you can share your sexy selfie safely.

Safe Ways of Sharing a Sexy Selfie

Make Sure You Trust the Recipient

For you to decide to share a nude pic and video calls, you need to have the recipient's trust. It should be a person you know well who cannot compromise your privacy. Before you send any pic, you want to take your time to figure out if they can share it with anyone. Some people might keep the photos longer, but it would be nice if you ask them to delete them and be sure that they can be trusted to do so. This is a guide to handle sexy selfies. Another thing to consider is how long you have known the person. You might be excited to share your nudes when you have just met and are trying to fix things and hook out. This is not a bad idea, but how sure are you that your privacy will not be compromised?

If you are comfortable sharing your sexy selfies, then it is okay. However, if the person is pressurizing you to do what you don't want to do, it must be looked into what their intentions are. Such an emphasis from the person you consider your partner can be a red flag, so be very cautious. Lippman & Campbell (2014) explains that you should not send nudes out of coercion. Coercion is not consent. Always respect your subconscious mind, and listen to your inner self.

Consider the society and the people around you. Imagine what would happen to your profession if your nude photo got out. Although you might get some communities to share their photos with strangers, it never should be you because you have a reputation to keep. If you are so sure the sharing of the photos might affect your family, work, or friends, then it is good not to share even with your partner. It would help if you had some rules for yourself, where rule number one should always be able to say no. If you are not into the idea, make sure you are okay not breaking the rule of saying no. Ask the people to delete the photos, but if you get them to do what you had asked of them. Then if they are not respecting your consent, they are not people you can trust with your sensitive images.

Hide Features

Nowadays, you can hide the features of the photo you take before you send them out to the recipient. Even if you trust your partner, it is good to use the features. This is a way of avoiding the inconveniences that may arise. You can do so by cropping the pictures. Your partner's phone could be hacked and your images might be compromised. The trustworthy can break intentionally to avoid such incidences and minimize the harm limit the identifiable features and information from your picture as much as possible. Cut off the face and other body parts your friends or family could trace back to you. Blur the background of the picture to make the feature of your room not visible. If you have a tattoo, hide it since it can be traced by using the location of the tattoo to identify you. Most phones have the tools you can use to draw pictures. They can be a better option if you can make a drawing on them. 

Confirm the identifying data of your phone. Disable the app if it automatically adds the location to the photo. Strip the photos of the embedded information before sharing them with anyone else. It is a way of safe texting. 

Lock Your Phone and Set Up a Remote Tool 

Hackers trying to steal the compromising content from your phone can be in your home. They can be guests who tend to take hold of everything. They might want to get your phone and go through the gallery where they can find things not meant for their eyes. It can be a nosy family manner or a curious kid. Rogers (2013) explains that you should ensure your phone is secured with a pin and other security protection features that your phone might have, such as the face unlock and the fingerprint. A family member could memorize your pin, but you can top up the fingerprint feature to keep them away from accessing some personal files.

Use a Secure App to Send Your Sexy Photos 

When you send content through the temporary or permanent servers, they are stored literally where they can be leaked easily and other people can access them. When the nude picture has left your phone, you no longer have control of who can see them. The best way is to avoid other apps but rather use the best messaging applications, for example, the telegram or signal, because they encrypt the messages. This means even when a person snoops into the message, they cannot trace where it comes from, nor will they get the sender. These apps allow the creation of a self-destructing message which will delete itself after a certain amount of time.

Conclusion 

Despite having these features and guides to protect your nudes and some other sexy selfies from being leaked, there is still a way they might be compromised. For example, even after using the telegram or the signal app, which has the self-destructed message capability, someone can still get a screenshot of the message or take a picture with another device, thus making it bound to be compromised. The only better way that remains is not to share the pictures or nudes, or if you must do so once again, make sure you trust the person you are sharing with before sending the pictures.

References

Klettke, B., Hallford, D. J., & Mellor, D. J. (2014). Sexting prevalence and correlates: A systematic literature review. Clinical psychology review, 34(1), 44-53.

Lippman, J. R., & Campbell, S. W. (2014). Damned if you do, damned if you don't… if you're a girl: Relational and normative contexts of adolescent sexting in the United States. Journal of Children and Media, 8(4), 371-386.

Rogers, D. (2013). Mobile Security: A Guide for Users. Lulu. com.Tiidenberg, K. (2018). Selfies: Why We Love (And Hate) Them. Emerald Group Publishing.