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Women find it difficult to reach an orgasm in most cases since the sexual climax is frustratingly elusive. Various issues affect their orgasm; hence, to increase the chances of getting an orgasm, they need to learn these new bedroom ideas for more orgasms.

Use Sex Lubricant

Many things are done to enhance better and more fulfilling sex, one of which is a lubricant. Regular lubrication makes penetration easy and enhances better sex for both of you. You can also buy a flavored lubricant and use it while having oral sex. Other options like warming and tingling lubricants increase sensation.

Include Role Playing

Don’t just imagine it, do it. Role-playing will feel silly when it is your first time, but you can try other roles besides your standard position. If you have work, home, or any other responsibility, you can assume the role of a student or submissive partner to make you feel released. On the contrary, you can include breathable props and costumes to allow fresh air during the play.  

Hand Over the Control

When handing over the control, don’t limit yourself to sub and play. Handing over the control has so many reasons. For example, you can give your partner the remote and let him control the vibrator, resulting in a thrilling feeling. He will choose the modes and intensity as you get pleasure. When staying at home, you can use the remote-control vibrators or vibrating pants when going for dinner dates or movies. Your lover will control the pants without anyone noticing.

Go to A Hotel

Sometimes, try out a new bed in a new environment. Hotels are the only accessible places to have this, and you must include that in your bucket list. Hotel sex is also the best since there are no worries about cleaning and it is more enjoyable when you arrive separately. You can book a room to set the mood as they finish their work. Wear your best lingerie while you wait for them to join you.

Feel Free to Open the Back Door

Many women are hesitant about anal sex while it is among the first things on their sexual bucket list. Your hesitation might be understandable, but trust me, anal sex may be fantastic for you. Some women have experienced explosive orgasms through anal sex, while others only want to know how pleasurable their partners will be. Keep in mind that you should handle things slowly, use a lot of lube, and communicate. You may not like anal sex on your first attempt. Therefore, you should begin with a small size and later upgrade to great options.

Mark the Sweet Spot with X  

This is the best and the last option for teaching your new lover how and where she can stimulate you. It is similar to playing sex dice, but you control more where your partner focuses. Mark with X on your body part where your man should grope, kiss, spank, or nibble. When it is edible, he may lick it after completing his task. You may use a marker pen or eyeliner to mark the spot. However, ensure that you lay on a towel to avoid messing up the bed. You can use various symbols to indicate what he is supposed to do.

Add Some Music   

Music has something powerful that affects us in some ways. You can listen to a song that makes you feel sexy. Add music to your sexual life and feel the difference in sensation. The music might have created a hot sizzle in a movie.

Breathe Together

Breathing together is the best idea when having sex. One of you breathes out as the other one breathes in. Besides, try synchronizing breathing together. You can begin before sex while gazing into his eyes, giving a feeling of vulnerability and intimacy. Focusing on breathing enhances hyperventilation during sex. This technique also helps you focus on the moment, an essential element of mindfulness. Mindfulness makes sex more fun and enjoyable. Being an element of great sex and concentrating on the present is associated with a great orgasm.

Restrict the Senses

We all have five senses, but we rarely include all of them in sex. The best way to engage all senses in sex is by restricting them. You can use a blindfold to block the sight and earplugs or headphones to block the sound. Wear plastic or mitts gloves on hands and some body parts and use ball gags to prevent him from talking. The theory explains that when one sense is reduced, the other improves. Therefore, your sexual tension and other erotic anxiety are enhanced when you cannot hear or see everything. You can also expand the sensory restriction using other bondage tools.

Massage the Prostate

The prostate is the sweet spot for men that you may stimulate via the perineum or anus for a mighty orgasm. Some men experience multiple orgasms through prostate stimulation. As such, try using your fingers, strap-on dildo, or even other sex toys and blow his mind off.

The Bottom Line

It is everyone’s need to experience orgasm. However, it is difficult for some people to experience it, and when they do, it is almost unnoticeable. Luckily, couples can use many ideas to achieve a quick and intense orgasm. All they need is to find enough time with their partners and try new things together. Some of these techniques will not only enhance orgasm but also improve relationships. Read the above bedroom ideas and improve your sexual life.