THE BENEFITS OF MUTUAL MASTURBATION
Do you know mutual masturbation can benefit you, your partner, your relationship, and your sex life? Here are the benefits; add variety and communication, learn what you like, lead to more sex, and improve intimacy.
Mutual masturbation is when partners are in the same space while pleasuring themselves. It only includes pressuring yourself, not your partner, and it's done next to your partner while they pleasure themselves too. It's a bonding that rarely happens in a relationship. Couple wonder if masturbation is okay within marriage. Some are open to it, and some are completely against it. Masturbation is supplemental, not instrumental, so it should be allowed in the marriage. Imagine your partner just had a baby and cannot have sex for a while. Masturbation can be a supplemental here. If your partner is very sick and cannot be sexually active, masturbation can be supplemental. To integrate masturbation into your sex life, consider the following benefits;
Add Variety
Döring (2020) explained that mutual masturbation builds a variety into your sexual repertoire as it is easy for things to become predictable and boring in a heterosexual couple's bedroom. They can become more focused on penetration rather than clitoral focused. Mutual masturbation can be nice, and the variety of things to choose from for sexual activities. No matter what situation you are in, introducing something new In bed is always good. Vinter (2020) explained that mutual masturbation had added advantage of being low-key and easy to do. Having a variety of potential sex acts gives you more flexibility depending on what is going on in your life. The energy and time you have for sex as you can take turns watching each other. You can do it while doing porn together. You can also try to share fantasies. Mutual masturbation has a low key failure rate. And it involves what you have around the house. Couples can enjoy it as foreplay or main act and add sex toys in the mix for heightened pleasure. Unlike most forms of sex, there are fewer restrictions.
Communication
According to Velten & Margraf (2017), sex communication is the foundation for pleasure and a fulfilling sex life. You and your partner may want to approach this differently, but that does not limit the pleasure you can bring each other. All you do is ask your partner if they are interested in the great way to start. Sometimes it's easier said than done. Talking about sexual desire is the hardest part for a lot of couples. Choose a way to bring it up that fits the context of your relationship over a desert, or send your partner an article like this. It can open a door for you whether you want to talk dirty, what you're thinking about and what you want them to do, or what exactly you're feeling. Communication is the best part of a sexual relationship, not due to consent and boundaries, but to ensure you enjoy it.
Learn What Your Partner Likes
Stephenson & Meston (2015) stated that it is the best part; you understand what your partner enjoys, how they like it, and what feels good. Having them illustrate and demonstrate themselves from intensity to pace of the touch is a great way to learn more about what they like. Some people learn from seeing than instructions and the full view at the other technique., copying them and bringing your partner to pleasure. A picture of you touching yourself is worth a million words. It's also sexy, especially if you incorporate dirty talk, touching, toys, or whatever you desire. Don't use it to replace the sexual activity with your partner, don't use it to replace emotional intimacy, and don't fantasize about anyone other than your partner during it. Don't hide it, and don't overdo it. It can be helpful by building safety, creating a shared experience, adding variety, and teaching you how to touch your partner.
Lead To More Sex
It makes you realize that you want to do more with your partner, which is great. Who doesn't like realizing that they have a second wind in them? It's easier to think that you're too tired to have sex, especially when you're in a long-term relationship with someone you adore but have slept with them a thousand times. Just the word sex can sound tiring. You don’t have to have sex if you don't feel like it. Low-impact masturbation can help you realize that you're not quite tired as you thought.
Broden's Ideas Of What Sex Is
Mutual masturbation isn't just a substitute for another kind of sex as it is fun and sexy. Anything that feels sexy, intimate, and pleasurable counts as sex. Including masturbation with a partner and treating mutual masturbation as a complete sexual encounter instead of something else can open doors to accepting what satisfies and excites you might be different from what the world has told you.
Improving Intimacy
Watching your partner touch themselves in front of you is sexier. Doing together can make your relationship more intimate because watching the other do what is a solo act takes what is personal and make it a shared experience. Not only will you connect on a closer level sexually, but your relationship level will likely deepen when you first use the toilet in front of the other with a lot less toilet roll involved.
Guaranteed To Get Off
Nobody is more efficient at making yourself orgasm than yourself with the aid of your favorite sex toy. Reduce the pressure of relying on your partner to give you a big dick and your complicated knowledge of your nether regions. Mutual masturbation is the perfect way to ensure your both get to cum. Also, a quick route to experiencing orgasm.
Your Private Show
It felt good both in the moment and in future sexual encounters. Humans are inclined to be aroused by hearing and seeing other people have sex, hence porn. Watching your partner having sex with themselves is tapping into that. Going to porn that a thousand people have watched, your partner's image masturbating is for you and you alone. An image that can stay in your mind for the time you're trying to fall asleep.
It's Worth It If You Have Trouble Finishing with Your Partner.
Every couple is different. Some people cannot orgasm with their partners. Experimenting in the bedroom and trying new things can help you find what turns you on. Mutual masturbation allows one partner to focus on what pleases them and how they respond to different types of touching. It's easy to be distracted by your pleasure performance during intercourse. During mutual masturbation, you can switch focus.
Conclusion
Masturbation, whether solo or mutual, is great for everyone. Mutual masturbation is an intimate activity connecting you and your partner in a new way. It can benefit anyone open and ready to experience.
References
Döring, N. (2020). How is the COVID-19 pandemic affecting our sexualities? An overview of the current media narratives and research hypotheses. Archives of sexual behavior, 49(8), 2765-2778.
Stephenson, K. R., & Meston, C. M. (2015). The conditional importance of sex: exploring the association between sexual well-being and life satisfaction. Journal of sex & marital therapy, 41(1), 25-38.
Velten, J., & Margraf, J. (2017). Satisfaction guaranteed? How individual, partner, and relationship factors impact sexual satisfaction within partnerships. PloS one, 12(2), e0172855.
Vinter, L. P. (2020). Working with autistic individuals in prison-based interventions to address sexual offending. Nottingham Trent University (United Kingdom).