A GENTLEMAN'S GUIDE TO RECEIVING A BLOWJOB
Giving a blow job is not only meant for the man to feel pleasure but also for the partner. Some ways you can show that you love receiving a blowjob include; showing you enjoy it, using your hands, and leaving the gagging to your partner.
When giving blow jobs to your partner, the best thing that you should do is show that you are all enjoying the activity. The one on the receiving end should not just lie down or stay like a statue. They are at least supposed to show some life and that they are getting pleasured. When they respond to the blowjob, they are likely to have you enjoy it and may even look forward to the activity now and then. How a partner responds to the whole activity will determine whether they will get the best from you or you will get aroused or even get turned off. Some of the ways the both of you can get to have fun when you are giving or receiving a blowjob includes;
Showing Your Enjoyment
Some guys enjoy lying on their back and enjoy the feeling of the warm and wet mouth on their penis. However, this may make a person giving you the blowjob wonder whether you are enjoying it or not doing it correctly and if they need to change. It is not okay to leave them guessing when you feel like they are doing it right and you are getting pleasured, moan or even groan. If it feels great, do not hide the feeling. Showing you are great will make your partner feel great about what they are doing and give them the confidence to continue pleasuring you because they feel your presence in the whole activity.
Use Your Hands
Your hands can make a lot of talking by what you do with them. It may be to show enthusiasm or appreciation for what they are doing to you. Use the hands to touch their skin gently, strike the hair or hold it so that it cannot get into the way of them giving you a blowjob, as Khan (2011) suggested. Others love it when you are rough. You can hold their hair firmly and make them feel like you own them at that moment.
It all depends on the position that both of you are in. You can reach the ass and smack it while your partner gives you a blow job. The simple touches show they are enjoying the moment and have not checked out. It shows that they are active participants and are very much present and enjoying the whole sexual activity. Go ahead and get busy with your hands.
Talk Dirty to Your Partner
Everybody likes to feel appreciated, even if it is through the dirty talks. There is a great feeling that a person feels when their work appreciates them. However, partners are doing great and compatible when they talk dirty. Such partners talk about sexuality and how to improve their sexual life. Some talk erotically to arouse themselves. There are so many ways that one can decide to talk dirty. It all depends on what your partner prefers. Some may love it when their partner is humiliating or degrading them. They feel great when called a naughty slut or degrading name when they do a great job giving them the blowjob, as Amis (2001) revealed.
Others want to feel praised and told how great they are doing while giving a blow job. Not everyone wants to be called names when engaging in sexual activities. They want to hear you talk about how amazing they are or their head game is.
Let Your Partner Be the One to Gag on You
Not everyone is into hard and rough sex. Consider leaving all the gagging to your partner. You may want your partner to get deep into deep throating. However, avoid forcing it on them if they do not show interest. Ensure you do not force their heads down your dick, so they may get choked by the dick unless they have told you that they enjoy it.
Allow your partner to choose for themselves if they wish to do that. They will shove your dick into their mouth if they want to. Blowjob feels pleasurable, and your partner may want to do it. It will make them not get turned off and love the whole experience.
Give Your Significant other Feedback
The feedback you give your partner may come through the sounds, moans, and groans they make, as Levine (2006) suggested. The sounds can be used as a guide to know how you are feeling, and your partner will know if they are doing it right or if they need to make some changes. You are guaranteed a better blowjob as they use your sounds like the lead and devise ways to make it more satisfying and enjoyable. Guide your partner through as they are giving out the blowjob. Tell them what you want them to do for you if they are doing great and you feel like they have changed the tempo. The feedback will guide how they are supposed to go on and give you not only a blowjob but also a fantastic one.
Use Lubricant
Apply lube on your hands and penis when a woman gives a blowjob. Hess & Hough (2012) discovered that lubricants help ease motion and reduce friction, causing injuries during masturbation. A man can help a woman by massaging her back while giving blowjobs to arouse her. This helps partners attain mutual stimulations leading to more orgasms. Use an allergy-free lube to avoid itching.
Conclusion
Being given a perfect blowjob requires that both partners take responsibility for the whole activity. The sexual activity demands that both of you need to take part. The one giving the blowjob needs to feel the presence of the one receiving. They can do this by appreciating or making sounds so that the blow job giver will feel like they are arousing them. It makes them look forward to giving them the blowjob because they feel loved and appreciated and do something to give their significant other their pleasure.
References
Amis, M. (2001). A Rough Trade. İngilizce). The Guardian, 1.
Hess, M. J., & Hough, S. (2012). Impact Of Spinal Cord Injury On Sexuality: Broad-Based Clinical Practice Intervention And Practical Application. The Journal Of Spinal Cord Medicine, 35(4), 211-218.
Khan, U. (2011). Running In (To) The Family: 8 Short Stories About Sex Workers, Clients, Husbands, And Wives. Am. UJ Gender Soc. Poly & L., 19, 495.
Levin, R. J. (2006). Vocalized Sounds And Human Sex. Sexual And Relationship Therapy, 21(1), 99-107.