PREMATURE EJACULATION: A WOMAN’S VIEW

Premature Ejaculation (PE), classified as sexual dysfunction in men, occurs when a man releases semen (or orgasms)) too soon during sex, and with minimal stimulation. Studies indicate that most men experience it at some point. Why is this condition an issue when the goal for sexual activity is achieving orgasms? Humans are a caring species, and the goal for sexual activity also involves taking care of your partner's needs. However, how do we correlate PE with women's sexual satisfaction? Is it a concern for women? Let's explore their thoughts on the subject.

The problem of climaxing too soon has been more amplified in men than it is in women. Contrary, a new study has revealed that a small percentage of females experience PE. However, this sexual dysfunction in women hasn’t received much attention as their male counterparts. Also, while there is no exception to early orgasms, only the male premature ejaculation has received official status as sexual dysfunction. Nevertheless, PE is a real problem affecting marriages and sexual relationships. In this post, we shall explore a woman’s view on premature ejaculation.

What Do Women Think About Premature Ejaculation?

Women's thoughts on PE vary. Some say that it isn't a big deal, with women in this category saying that sex can't be a deal-breaker in a relationship instead of honesty, love, understanding, and caring partners. Some argue that oral sex can be an alternative too as a source of sexual pleasure. However, for a small percentage of women, premature ejaculation is a real problem and can be a recurring theme in their sexual relationships.

As mentioned earlier, PE is not isolated to men. Portuguese scientists surveyed women regarding the subject and found out that at least 40% of women achieved orgasms faster than they desired. Moreover, from that number, 5% said rapid orgasms were a chronic problem. However, research shows the level of distress the problem causes in men is far more than in women, not to mention the social stigma and the subsequent hit on mental health.

Stress and Frustration

Occasionally, women complain about having problems achieving orgasms, with many struggling with relationship satisfaction. In the Portuguese study above, women aged between 18 to 45 were asked to respond to the following questions:

• How much control do you have over the timing of your orgasms?
• Does a lack of orgasms or control over your orgasms stress you up?
• How satisfied are you with your sexual relationship?
• How often do you experience premature orgasms?

Of the overall respondents, 40% said they experienced orgasms earlier than they desired, 14% said they felt a lack of control over their orgasms, with 10% reporting more frequent premature orgasms. However, only 3% said they felt stressed due to having uncontrollable orgasms that required clinical attention. Those who met the criteria of this sexual dysfunction comprised 3.5%.

That said, premature ejaculations, whether in men or women, often lead to couple discomfort. What women feel with this scenario is similar in the case of men. Finishing too fast risked denying your partner the chance to achieve sexual satisfaction. Overall, respondents expressed distress at premature ejaculation, which is a more widespread issue.

In another study on American women, over 70% expressed difficulties reaching an orgasm, with most respondents being 18 to 30-year-olds. Also, as mentioned earlier, the issue of PE has traditionally had more attention in men than in women. Meaning, more research is necessary to establish the extent of PE in females.

Premature Ejaculation: Males Vs. Females

A study on sexual behavior among couples aged 18 to 74 was conducted to reveal the perspective of premature ejaculation in women regarding their partners and vice versa. Overall, experts found out that stress and concerns about PE were higher in males than in females. Regarding sexual satisfaction, the study revealed that men's satisfaction was proportional to the number of thrusts they could sustain before ejaculating. The satisfaction for women, on the other hand, was tied to how satisfied their partners were.

How Premature Ejaculations Affects Relationships: Professional View

Experts say PE generally eliminates the 'mojo' from a man or woman's sexual performance. In extreme cases, the relationship can break. In a study, women who expressed distress with PE reported dissatisfaction and low libido as the main causes. However, others said PE was not reason enough to wreak havoc in relationships. Instead, they said men experiencing this dysfunction should focus more on their partner's other sexual needs, such as romantic, cuddling, oral sex, and kissing.

Men, on the other hand, felt shame and insecure. And because of the stigma attached to a lack of sexual performance, they rarely talk about it in the open. Some think that their having this dysfunction would make them less of a "total man." However, experts recommend communication with their sexual partners because otherwise, it causes amplify the problem even more. Overall, 20% of women claim that premature ejaculation is a deal-breaker.

Premature Ejaculation: A Way Out

Conversations about PE are never easy. It is a sensitive topic that is rarely discussed in the open. However, the ship can be salvaged or damage mitigated if addressed in time. Several interventions can help strengthen a relationship. Experts suggest the following approaches:

• Understand that PE is never anyone’s fault. The main cause of this issue is stress, among other physiological conditions.
• Talk about it openly.
• Try different approaches to sex.
• Yoga.
• Be calm.
• Seek clinical attention.

The Bottom Line

The subject of premature ejaculation has traditionally been associated with men, but new research has revealed that a certain percentage of women experience this problem. While sexual satisfaction is linked to the performance of both partners in a relationship, the issue has grown and is now listed as sexual dysfunction. The perspective among women on the issue varies. Some say premature ejaculation isn't a deal-breaker and that they appreciate a caring, loving, and understanding partner, while others remain on the fence. Either way, experts suggest calm and open communication in relationships, seeking clinical attention, and being open to new approaches to romance.