With Consent, Of Course, Here's How to Initiate Sex

If you want to initiate sex you must know how to initiate sex by flirting and body language

For a long time, it has been assumed that men want sex more than women do, so it's the man's role to initiate sex, and the woman is just there to accept or refuse to have sex with him. We are moving to times when people are more liberal towards sexual issues. Women are initiating not only sex but also relationships. Men are also less judgmental than they were towards sexually liberated women. There's no shame anymore in initiating sex for women as women have been bolder towards sex over the recent years. Women are inviting men for lunch. Some women are even proposing marriage. Below are some points to be followed by both men and women when initiating sex;

How to Initiate Sex

There are two ways of initiating sex. The first method is being straight -forward, and it involves telling your partner that you want to have sex without 'beating about the bushes. If you are not having sex for the first time, you do not need to do anything to initiate sex besides telling your partner what you want. Brown (2015) noted that you should be comfortable and open with your partner enough to tell them what you desire, and they should also respond positively to your request. The second method is the long-way method that you may have to follow for the partner with whom you have probably not had sex before;

Flirting

When you flirt, it is a sign that you want to be involved with someone. Koziarevych et al. (2014) advised that if you flirt with someone and the response is great, you need to pursue your person of interest. Initiating sex with a person that reacts positively to your hints is easier than trying to initiate sex with a person who keeps you guessing. 

Invite Them Over

You can invite them to your place so that you will be comfortable enough to see their attention. If they accept the invitation, then you prepare yourselves for the day.

Confirm Their Consent

Where you met is irrelevant at this point. The only thing that you need to ensure is that you both want to have sex. You probably booked a room or invited your partner to your place. Consent should have happened even before you met at this clandestine place. You should have sexted for a while. Gordon-Messer et al. (2013) noted that sexting kills the awkwardness. Most people have to plan before meeting. They have to talk about having sex and everything they'll do to each other when they meet. Sexting builds the anticipated.

Dress the part

On the day you meet, you need to dress like someone who wants to have sex. Dressing the part is an important tip for the ladies. Men need to look neat. If your beard is too bushy, you will need to trim it. Ladies should wear something sexy if they want to initiate sex without talking. That's not the time to wear baggy jumpers and loose bottoms. Be sexy. Whatever you wear, let it scream one thing," sexy". Or are you planning for a role play date night? Peplau et al. (1977) advised that you'll need to pile on some sexy costumes. The stage you are in will never matter in a relationship when it comes to dressing sexy. It also does not matter if your date is coming over to have sex or not. If you wonder how you can seduce them and do not know how to initiate sex, you can use your clothes as a shortcut. Your date will know what you want just by looking at your outfit.

Do Something Together

During the date, you can play games like truth and dare. You can do anything to make the tension loosen up and get comfortable with each other's company. You could also cook together. Anything you do together is bound to get rid of the awkwardness. 

Body Language

You have a sexy dress that's leaving very little to your date's imagination. Your body language should also talk. You could let your dress slide up and don't pull it down. Or you bend a bit for your mini dress to slide up more. You stand a chance of arousing your date without even touching it. Tap your date's lap or put your arm around them so that they may know that you are interested. Men can also send subtle fingers when they want to initiate sex. You can interlock fingers. 

Be the Masseuse

No one turns down a massage. The best deal about a massage is that it gets people naked quickly. And there's no easier way to get people aroused fast than a massage by a skimpily dressed person. You do not need to be a good masseuse, and the massage does not even have to be good. The goal is to get the sexy mood on. Just get some oil and rub it on your partner. Ask your partner if they'd like to have some sex. The answer is always "yes". No one ever says no to a massage with a happy ending from someone they find attractive. You are already aroused, and the consent you need has already presented itself willingly. All you have to do is say yes.

Kiss Them

After kissing, nature takes care of everything else. There's consent. There's privacy. If you get to kissing, then the only thing you can do next has sex. 

Conclusion

It's still a man's world, and most women don't want to be slut-shamed. Initiating sex is easier for men than for women because men, as expected by society, play the lead role, and women follow. In most relationships, the man is the dominant partner, and the woman takes up the submissive role. Therefore, a woman will initiate sex when she trusts her partner and is sure that she will not be rejected. A woman's main worry about initiating sex is being rejected, but if her partner is pleased with her, then the chance of being rejected is unlikely.

References 

Gordon-Messer, D., Bauermeister, J. A., Grodzinski, A., & Zimmerman, M. (2013). Sexting among young adults. Journal of adolescent health, 52(3), 301-306.

Peplau, L. A., Rubin, Z., & Hill, C. T. (1977). Sexual intimacy in dating relationships. Journal of Social Issues, 33(2), 86-109.

Brown, A. M. (2015). Sexuality in role-playing games. Routledge.Koziarevych, L. V. (2014). Pragmatic Force of flirting Fascination in the gender Discourse. Науковий вісник кафедри ЮНЕСКО Київського національного лінгвістичного університету. Філологія, педагогіка, психологія, (28), 20-28.