25 DOMINANT & SUBMISSIVE BDSM PET NAMES FOR GUYS

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When pet names are applied appropriately, they can be technically endearing. These pet names can also have a deeper meaning for BDSM couples. There are different names you can choose to call your significant other that you barely use on your friends. This shows how these names can be essential in planning pleasurable BDSM plays. With the knowledge of creating dominant and submissive BDSM names, you will find the right name. This article explains why BDSM pet names are essential and how to create them effortlessly. 

What Is a Dominant and Submissive Relationship?

A dominant and submissive relationship connects two people who are mostly interested in kink and BDSM. They often choose to play together as partners. Generally, dominant and submissive are terms used to describe partners' roles when engaging in BDSM games. The man is mostly the dominant partner, while the woman is the submissive or enslaved person. However, BDSM roles are never permanent, and partners can switch roles to explore different fantasies.

BDSM Name Calling

Ah, name-calling in BDSM—a tantalising dance of power and submission! A well-chosen name is more than a word; it’s a spell that locks partners into their roles. For dominants, names like “Sir,” “Mistress,” or “Daddy” carry authority, while for submissives, “Kitten,” “Pet,” or “Slave” evoke vulnerability. The magic lies in tone—whether whispered like a secret or barked like a command, it electrifies the dynamic. Think of it as verbal choreography: each name a step deeper into desire’s waltz.

The Purpose of BDSM Names 

In some relationships, the partner fully exercises their roles without leaving or changing them. When exploring BDSM games, it is important to assign names. Here are the main purposes of BDSM names;

Puts You in the Right Headspace 

BDSM pet names reinforce the role different partners play to get into their right headspace. You can also use these pet names during other sexual activities apart from BDSM. These names can be applied outside the bedroom of the BDSM scene, but only for special pet names. 

Reinforce Your Roles 

Although most people prefer using these pet names in BDSM scenes, some often prefer them even after BDSM scenes. Have you ever had a pet name you often use with your spouse? If you already have the name, you must be conversant with the concept of reinforcement of roles. Generally, these pet names are applied to help reinforce the roles the partner has agreed to take. This acts as a reminder of what they share as BDSM partners. In some cases, the submissive partner can only be addressed using the pet names with the dominant partner. Therefore, give your BDSM partner a good pet name and help reinforce the agreed role.

Naming Ceremony

A naming ceremony is incredible since it allows you and your partner to choose the best pet names. For a woman, you can consider the name slave and make it a symbol of the relationship. Some BDSM couples also go for collaring ceremonies as a sign of commitment to their spouse and relationship. However, you can choose not to make it official.

Big ‘’D’’ and little ‘’S’’

These names are commonly found in online kinks and are mostly applied to screen and scene names. These titles also show that one partner is dominant and the other is submissive. Most online naming conventions often capitalise the noun and pronoun in dominant and lowercase the name and pronoun in submissive. For instance, you are likely to come across as Dominant and submissive to show one has authority over the other. 

Dominant Pet Names for Guys 

Are you the dominant partner in the BDSM scene? An appropriate and perfect name will give you the authority needed to be in charge and powerful. Also, you will not feel any discomfort whenever you have the power to rule over your submissive partner. If you are ready to take control of the BDSM scene, here are pet names to consider for guys;

• King
• Prince
• Mister 
• Dominus 
• Sir
• Daddy
• Dom
• Lord
• Headmaster
• Maestro
• Count 
• Commander 
• Captain
• Governor 
• Patron
• Sergeant 
• Chief 
• Boss
• Handler
• Liege

Generally, most of the names listed are specifically designed for the gents who want to be the dominants of BDSM scenes. Also, most of them are relatable; for example, Daddy is given to display fatherly nature. This includes guiding, nurturing, caring, and correcting. However, some of the BDSM dom names here, like Owner, Your Highness, Captain, and Governor, can be used by both male and female dominant.

Names for the Dom in Gay Findom

Ah, the glorious world of gay findom! Choosing a name for the dominant is like crowning a monarch of financial fetishism. Think bold and authoritative, yet laced with charm. “Master Sterling” exudes wealth and control, while “Sir Sovereign” drips with regal grandeur. Fancy something fiercer? “Lord Ledger” or “Baron Banknote” adds a touch of Dickensian drama. Remember, the name sets the stage—evoke power, poise, and pound signs, darling. It’s not just a name; it’s a verbal throne!

Female Dom Titles

Step aside, peasants—her majesty approaches! Female dom titles should command reverence and ooze sensual authority. “Lady Vengeance” whispers power with a smirk, while “Mistress Noir” paints a picture of mystery and allure. For a regal flair, try “Countess Carnal” or “Baroness Discipline”—straight out of a Brontë novel but with a whip in hand. Feeling bold? “Empress Eternal” or “Sovereign Siren” reign supreme. Each title is a crown; wear it with unapologetic dominance and a killer heel!

Submissive Pet Names for Guys

A male submissive partner is rare in BDSM scenes. The submissive role in BDSM games is often meant for ladies since they are naturally weak and soft compared to men. However, if you find a submissive guy in BDSM play, they are equally few. Here are some of the pet names given to the submissive male partners in BDSM scenes;

• Ole boy
• Baby boy
• Teddy Bear
• Piglet 
• Kitten
• Geezer
• Cricket

How to Come Up with Submissive Names 

Submissive BDSM pet names are numerous and play a significant role in demonstrating submission to dominant partners. These submissive male names are often chosen to reflect the submissive partner's role and the dynamic they share with their dominant counterpart. For instance, terms like queen, madam, and mistress are commonly used to address submissive partners, highlighting the power exchange in their relationship. With so many options available, it’s essential to consider which bdsm sub name resonates most with you and your dynamic.

When selecting a BDSM pet name, dominants often take different approaches based on their preferences and the context of their relationship. Some dominants choose specific names tailored to different scenarios or purposes, ensuring the name enhances the mood or role at the moment. Others may opt for reciprocity, selecting names that align with the name the male submissive uses for them, creating a sense of balance and mutual respect.

In some cases, dominants prefer to use the submissive's real name, especially in more intimate or less formal settings. Alternatively, they might allow the submissive to choose their preferred name, fostering collaboration and ensuring comfort within the dynamic. Ultimately, the choice of a submissive name is personal and unique to the individuals involved, reflecting their shared understanding and connection.

Final Thoughts 

There are numerous names that you can choose comfortably depending on your role in BDSM scenes. These names for BDSM also apply in a relationship that involves power exchange for pleasure gains. These names can work effectively in BDSM scenes and pet play. You can also consider spicing your partner's name and using it during BDSM scenes.