How to Deal with Sexual Anxiety Once and for All

Sexual anxiety is normal and curable. It affects both men and women and cuts through all ages. Herein is what you need to know about dealing with sexual anxiety, including; what sexual anxiety is, talking to your partner, taking it slow, and feeling free to talk about it.

Sexual anxiety is experienced regardless of how many years one has been having sex. It is difficult to enjoy sex wholesomely if you are experiencing it. Some people may have short-lived anxiety, and others daily whenever they want to engage in sexual activities. Sex therapists suggest that anxiety displays itself in various ways and differently in men and women. It can be manifested through fear, rejection, and low self-esteem. Below are ways how to get rid of sexual menus.

What is Sexual Anxiety

According to Trapnell et al. (1997), sexual anxiety is a phenomenon in men and women that relates to feelings of fear, shame, doubt, and self-consciousness when having sex. It is commonly referred to as performance anxiety. The insecurity is brought about by either a bad experience, being a fast timer, confusion, or fear of being criticized. It affects the victims because they don't enjoy sex and fail to reach orgasm. The confusion comes when they fail to know what they want during sex. They don't know whether to have sex or not and if they do, they are not sure if it's the right time. A person with performance anxiety is hard to arouse, leading to poor performance during sex. They may not have sex.

Fear of being criticized comes about when the person thinks their partner will talk about their poor performance. Most men love to satisfy their women sexually. Failure to do so leads to insecurities that their women may find other partners to satisfy them. They also fear that their partners may reject them if they do not cheat on them.

Learn to Own your Lovely Body

According to Woertman & Van den Brink (2012), body image is a key determinant in achieving a fulfilling sexual life and orgasm during sexual activities. Having an insecure feeling about your body's appearance will greatly limit you regarding sex. Stop worrying about how you think your partner thinks you are. You are so attractive that several men will be dying to have you in bed if given a chance. Studies reveal that men and women have issues regarding how their bodies appear. It may lead to anxiety, especially when it's time to get under the sheets together. Having self includes the way you view your body appearance. Learn to look at yourself In front of a mirror naked and admire yourself. Note down what you like about your body and do that daily. By doing this, you will learn to appreciate your body.

Learn About Sex

Vance (1984) stated that thinking about having good sex is challenging to some people because it can cause anxiety. Get appropriate sex education from reliable sources or talk to a sex therapist. Note that this does not that you are blank, but you are learning more about your preferred sex style, preparing you for several sexual encounters that come as a reality. It might be that you are not well acquitted to techniques that bring pleasure, or you have heard lots about pregnancy myths. Do not let worries and uncertainties limit your sexual life; if you are bothered about sex, it is right to talk to a professional on sexual matters to be reassured and given the relevant information. You can also get yourself a book regarding the topic and learn about other experiences and how they got along. Alternatively, you can self-educate yourself by exploring your body and learning what gives you pleasure. You can do this through masturbation which can improve your sexuality.

Try Being Mindful

Be present at every moment and live to it. Practicing being mindful enables you to absorb what's happening at the moment. Desist from worrying a lot and be available during the activity.

Take Everything Slow

Embrace yourself with a feeling of love if you feel overwhelmed when having sex. Major on foreplay to get enough time to get comfortable to go ahead with the real thing.

Feel Free to Talk About It

It is normal to feel anxious once in a while, but it should not raise the alarm. Feel free to open up to your partner if it persists. Doherty (2017) stated that talking to your partner may bring about reassurance about the causes of anxiety. The reassurance will make you confident and ready to have an amazing sex experience with your partner.

Express what makes you Enjoy

Talk with your partner about what you desire during sexual activities. Speak how you want to be touched. You can direct your partner's hands to the sensitive areas of your body. Let your partner express your interests. This kind of communication is important because it helps understand your partner's body resulting in pleasurable sex life. Let them know what's running through your mind. Ensure you communicate with the person if you trust them enough to have sex with them. Communication is the very best way to put across your worries if you take time to orgasm or stay aroused for a short time. It is noted that women who communicate about sex reach orgasm more often, unlike those who don't. Speaking openly with your partner also builds a good relationship. Everyone needs to find their voice to have a good time in bed. Advice is given to tense people during the sexual encounter to shout out what is happening to them. This act helps to release tension.

Conclusion

Don't get worried about anything once you take charge of the wheel. Consider the trust you have bestowed upon your partner to have them in bed. Stop caring about other things and enjoy every moment together until you begin doing things on autopilot. You have all it takes to have an amazing experience in bed with your partner. Talk about it with your mate, be present at the moment and let every minute count while having foreplay. It's easy dealing with sexual performance anxiety only if you have a positive mindset. Practice the highlighted points above and say goodbye to that awful experience when it’s time for you to enjoy sex.

References

Doherty, Emma. "Mindfulness: An Effective Therapeutic Approach For Female Clients 

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