Peaches and Screams Guide - How to Have Good Phone Sex
Phone sex—the very idea of it is steamy and illicitly passionate. Don’t be fooled, this is a type of foreplay that is just as appealing to women as it is to men! Why do we love phone sex? Perhaps it’s the idea of misusing the phone (a very respectable piece of equipment) or the lure of unfiltered sexual thought without the awkwardness of imperfect bumping bodies. Whatever the reason, we think it’s time to embrace the idea of good phone sex!
Whatever the attraction is, phone sex can be very appealing to singles and married individuals alike. Some couples will have phone sex when they are separated by distance and some people may engage in phone sex before meeting in person. The goal of good phone sex is to build up to high sexual excitement through talk and foreplay, and then to finish with mutual masturbation and orgasm.
It’s fairly easy to guess how you can bring out orgasm—either with your hands or with a vibrating/sucking toy from our catalogue for instance. However, creating titillating talks may still be intimidating to you, especially if you have never tried it before.
Let’s get down to business. Here are some tips to keep in mind.
1. Use your imagination but put it on slow-mo.
One of the biggest mistakes in phone sex is rushing to climax too soon, whether in orgasm or in “sexy talk”. Start slowly, perhaps by setting up a fantasy scenario or by asking details about what the other person is wearing. It’s important to create a strong image (or images) in your partner’s mind before proceeding to the next level. Make sure you describe things “slowly”: take your partner on an erotic journey one-step at a time.
2. Use your imagination but cater it to your partner’s desires.
It’s great to use your imagination during phone sex and come up with all sorts of kinky descriptions and ideas. However, try to focus on what you think your partner wants to hear (i.e. guys probably don’t want to hear too many descriptions of guy parts!). Some part of being a good phone sex date is knowing the psychology of your partner and the type of fantasy or description he/she enjoys. It’s all about communication people!
3. Use a sex toy while telling and talking.
Your descriptions may just get a little more realistic if you use a sex toy. If you don’t have your partner there, you may want to use a vibrator to take their physical place. Just remember though, it isn’t for everyone and definitely isn’t a partner replacement exercise! Simultaneously masturbating heightens your moods and gives you “motivation” for producing juicier details. In fact, you might even try using a sex toy (with automatic and hands-free vibration) before making the call. Being in a lusty mood “charges” the conversation and makes the ideas flow.
4. Speak naturally and at a comfortable pace.
Do not feel the need to yell obscenities just to be sexy. Both partners should speak at their own pace. If you work your way up to orgasmic frenzy, you might be okay with dirty talk. However, if you like lighter descriptions, then that’s okay too. Your partner will be happier knowing that your aural orgasm is sincere and not porno-style fake. Sometimes the hottest sentences can seem innocent, (Such as “I wish you were here next to me…”) but are loaded with sexual energy.
If one partner is more confident or experienced than the other, he or she can take the lead. If both partners enjoy talking, they can take turns with descriptions and with reaction. As you both reach orgasm, the words and gasps will come naturally. You will very quickly realize what phone sex is all about—uncensored sexual communication! And remember as always, practice makes perfect!