SOMNOPHILIA – THE KINK FOR SLEEPING SEX
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🌙 Key Points on Somnophilia 🌙
- 💤 Understanding Somnophilia: A playful kink involving sexual attraction to someone who is asleep. 💤
- 🔒 Consent is Key: Always have an open conversation with your partner about boundaries and consent. 🔑
- 🛏️ Create the Right Atmosphere: Set the scene with soft lighting and cozy bedding for ultimate comfort! ✨
- 👂 Listen to Each Other: Communication during and after is crucial—check in with your partner! 📞
- ❤️ Aftercare is Essential: Show affection and care after the experience—intimacy is more than just the act! 💖
💡 Expert Tips for Exploring Somnophilia! 💡
- 🌟 Start Slow: Ease into it; gentle touches can enhance the experience without overwhelming! 🌈
- 🕯️ Set the Mood: Use calming scents like lavender to create a serene environment for sleep! 🌙
- 📚 Educate Yourselves: Read and learn about each other’s fantasies to better understand this kink! 🔍
- 👀 Observe Boundaries: Respect your partner’s limits and ensure safety comes first! 🚧
- 🧘 Practice Mindfulness: Stay present during the experience—enjoy every moment! 🌈
Somnophilia is a term used to describe a fetish for sleeping people. It is usually confused with sleepy sex, which is mutual and consensual. Sometimes somnophilia is part of BDSM. Its legality depends on the circumstances in which it happened.
Somnophilia is a sexual fetish toward an unconscious person. It may also be a kink for the sleeping partner. Somnophilia is also known as ‘the sleeping beauty syndrome’ as explained by Pettigrew & Deehan (2021). People who have somnophilia also have necrophilia, a sexual fetish toward dead people. The main motivation for wanting to have sex with an unconscious person is that the person sleeping is in a vulnerable state and is unlikely to reject and resist. The thought of having sex with a dead person is even better for a person who is suffering from somnophilia because when a person is dead, they will absolutely not reject or resist sexual advances. Somnophilia sometimes can lead to sexual violence because the person finds it hard to resist the urge to have sexual intercourse with the sleeping person, who might be resistant. The following are some points to help us understand somnophilia better;
Is Somnophilia Sleepy Sex?
Sleepy sex is when you wake up feeling horny with the urge to have sex. Sometimes you can have some lazy sex with your partner because you are sleepy. Sleepy sex is the sex that two people enjoy when they are affectionate and comfortable towards each other. Therefore, sex is part of their relationship, and they enjoy it together. The couple feels comfortable with each other when they are having sex.
On the other hand, the couple makes no effort, beyond what's natural, to enjoy sex. Somnophilia in BDSM means that the person with that kink will not pretend to be asleep. She/he will be asleep to enjoy the sex. If a person suffers from somnophilia, they will be aroused as long as the partner is asleep. The state of unconsciousness is an important factor in somnophilia.
What Does BDSM With Somnophilia Feel Like?
Sleeping is the most important aspect of somnophilia. People who like having sex when they are asleep are excited when they wake up and find their partner having sex with them. Those who want sex with a sleeping person feel aroused so long as they see their target in that unconscious state. Some people may drug their victims so that they stay asleep. Others may even kill their targets in an attempt to keep them unconscious. Somnophilia is therefore classed as dangerous. Somnophilia has been described as predatory in which the predator is aroused and will achieve an orgasm if the victim does not wake up during the act. Moreover, somnophilia has been placed in the same position as necrophilia because the predator wants an unconscious person.
Is Having Sex While Suffering From Somnophilia Illegal?
Non-consensual somnophilia is illegal. If you have sex with a person without their consent, there is no debate about it being illegal. It also does not matter if you are in a sexual relationship with the person. They may bring rape claims against you. In BDSM, for you to have sex with the 'sleeping beauty,' there must be consent. If the sleeping beauty shows pleasure and has no problem that they were involved in a sexual act without their consent, then there is no case because that is kink, and their approval of it is a sign that they gave their consent.
The legality of somnophilia is based on the fact that a sleeping person can not consent to sex. You can not consent to sex when you are sleeping because you are unconscious. So even if the person gives consent before the act, it may still be considered illegal if the victim feels violated. The fact is that the victim did not consent while awake. The fact that sometimes the victim may have to be drugged even during BDSM for the role play to be successful makes it an activity that requires a high level of trust. If the submissive partner denies that they gave consent to be involved in somnophilia sex, then the dominant partner's goose is cooked.
How Does Somnophilia Fit In Kinky Sex?
Kinky sex involves consent, partnership, mutual understanding, interest, and trust. Without these, somnophilia tendencies hint at offending behavior. Somnophilia in kinky sex is okay, but whether it is allowed will depend on the sleeping partner. When they wake up, the sleeping partner says they liked the experience. Somnophilia is welcomed in the kinky bedroom.
Conclusion
Seemingly, somnophilia is a predatory interest in the bedroom depending on the sleeping partner's opinion. Sleeping beauty is not synonymous with all types of somnophilia. When a person is attracted to sleeping people, it is referred to as somnophilia. The sleeping beauty phenomenon is if the passive partner is aroused and surprised by sexual activity. Not all somnophilia cases can be placed under one umbrella. Sompnophilia cases are different from others, depending on the scenario. But the general rule in identifying unwelcome somnophilia from welcomed somnophilia is whether or not there was consent.
References
Pettigrew, M., & Deehan, E. T. (2021). Passivity Paraphilias. Sexual Deviance: Understanding and Managing Deviant Sexual Interests and Paraphilic Disorders, 145.