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CONSENSUAL BONDAGE: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO BDSM CONTRACTS

CONSENSUAL BONDAGE: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO BDSM CONTRACTS

CONSENSUAL BONDAGE: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO BDSM CONTRACTS

Are you thinking about introducing bondage sex in your relationship? Consider reading the following ultimate guide to BDSM contracts to keep you and your partner safe during the intimate moment.

The sex world is currently flooded with new kinky ideas. People now want to try different things they watch and read in adult books such as Fifty Shades of Grey. However, most do not know that they cannot apply what they watch directly to their sex life without some slight modifications to keep them safer. That said, incorporating bondage scenes in real-life sex requires both partners to agree to the terms and be mentally prepared for what is coming their way. That is why this article gives a detailed guide on consensual bondage, including types and how to get started with BDSM contracts.

What Is A BDSM Contract

A consensual bondage or BDSM contract is a detailed document outlining each partner's rules, powers, and expectations in a bondage relationship. It is also a document that binds the dominant and submissive partner and ensures both partners are safe and enjoy every bondage scene. A BDSM contract, therefore, establishes the boundaries, protocols, and safe words or phrases used by the submissive.

Although most people think bondage sex or relationship should only involve pain infliction, this is not the case since any action by the dominant should be agreed upon by the submissive. As such, a BDSM contract is vital in any bondage practice due to the following reasons:

  • It spells out the roles and responsibilities of each partner to avoid compromising one's safety and allow them to feel the pleasure.
  • It allows the dominant to check if the submissive is happy with every action and limit the dominants from going beyond their powers.
  • It makes the scene look real by solidifying the dominant-submissive relationship.

What Does A BDSM Contract Contain?

Based on the type of bondage practiced, a BDSM contract contains different information that guides the players during their intimate sessions. Each content can take a whole page of explanation or one paragraph to give a quick overview of what is expected from both partners. However, a standard contract should contain the following:

  • Names to call each other during the bondage play.
  • Rules, duties, and submissive rituals the sub should follow and do.
  • Sexual and non-sexual hard limits and other boundaries.
  • Crucial medical issues the dominant should know about the submissive and how they can impact the scene.
  • A punishment clause.

You can also customize your BDSM contract and include everything you think is vital. For instance, most new bondage players consider buying ready contracts and only fill in their names to match their standards. However, once you become familiar with different scenes, you can create your BDSM contract and include the following:

Duties, Responsibilities, And Expectations

The duties section outlines what the dominant and sub are expected to do and respond to risky situations. It also outlines the responsibilities of each partner around the house or when they are in public. The section is also vital as it ensures all parties are safe.

Names, Safe Words, And Hard Limits

This section helps the parties know how to call each other and words to avoid. For instance, some dominant partners are offended when subs call them or use certain words like please or my love. On the other hand, some submissive partners love it when called "my slut". Therefore, discuss which names and words to use beforehand.

Commands

The command section outlines the rules and commands the dominant partner should use and how the submissive should respond.

Third-Party Involvement

If your bondage play involves another couple, how do you plan to deal with the third party? Is your partner comfortable with you touching and playing with another person? Are there any boundaries to guide other people from interfering with your relationship?

Training Schedule

If you are both new in the bondage scenarios, you probably need a training schedule to help your submissive to a new sex life. However, you should notify your submissive beforehand to help them know about the training schedule.

Reward Chart

Like any other game, everyone deserves a reward for passing a test. A BDSM contract should also have a progress chart where a dominant partner rewards the submissive for their job well done.

Types of BDSM Contracts

Light BDSM contract

The light contract is suitable for BDSM beginners as it only outlines the safe words, names, and instructions followed by both parties. The submissive also writes other vital information, including the STI concerns, sensitive points to avoid, and appropriate tools. The common names to use include "Daddy," "Baby girl," "Master," and "Mistress." Similarly, popular safe words include Red, Green, and Yellow.

Dominant and Submissive Contract

The intermediate contract is ideal for those willing to try something new in their sex life. Once the players have passed the novice stage, they can now expand their contract to include the location, pain tolerance techniques, fantasies, intoxication, and humiliation. The contract also has an aftercare section that guides the dominant on easing pain and moving the submissive from the intense physical and emotional sensations to a relaxed mood.

The dominant and submissive contract allows other people to watch and record the scenes, partners, to give their STI status, and bondage tools such as collars and masks. However, everything should be agreed upon by both parties.

Lifestyle Contract

The more advanced BDSM contract suits long-term partners who want to practice bondage sex every day. Partners can re-negotiate the contents periodically to eliminate some rules or introduce new items with this contract. This is a good idea as it allows parties to practice different items using one contract.

Lifestyle BDSM contract is also called a "slave contract' where the submissive is denied control over what they want, and the dominant has all the powers to decide what happens. When signing a slave contract, both parties should fill in their names, dates, duration, and dominant powers. However, deciding when going for a lifestyle contract is vital since it revokes all the sub's freedom and gives the dominant most powers.

The Bottom Line

Introducing a BDSM contract in your relationship is counted as a great achievement. However, it has various limitations that all parties should know before trying it. For instance, no matter the type of contract signed, both partners should be safe and comfortable with every practice and tool used. The contract should also outline and clarify every rule to avoid confusion and mistakes. That said, learning more about BDSM contracts above can open new doors to hardcore bondage scenarios.

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