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October 21, 20222, will be the 12^th international fisting day. Celebrate one of the thrilling sex plays with us. Learn more about international fisting day, myths, how to fist safely, and its origin.

Fisting is common in couples who love kinky sexual acts. Contrary to the misconceptions about fisting, it's a pleasurable act that can improve one's sex life. The International Fisting Day is held annually to increase awareness of what fisting entails and debunk the taboos that imply it's wrong or painful. People celebrate this day in varying ways, from engaging in open conversations on what it is and how to better your experiences to fisting sex acts. Forget the negative stereotype and feed your kinky desires if fisting is what you like to try. 

What Is Fisting?

There are different ways to engage in penetrative sex. Fisting is a sensual sex cat that entails the insertion of a whole hand in the vagina or anus, as Ritchers et al.(2008) stated. Use lubes for smoother insertions and sliding out the glory holes. It helps to enhance pleasure. You might have encountered fisting in erotic films or porn; most of the fisting streams leave out beautiful scenes. Newbies to fisting can find inserting a fist or punch in the pleasure holes intimidating. You enjoy the exciting sensation similar to other penetrative games as you get used to it. 

The Origin of International Fisting Day

International Fisting Day owes its origin to Jiz Lee and Courtney Trouble. The first fisting day was held in October 2011, as Jiz and Courtney campaigned to include a fisting scene in the Live Sex Show, as Moorman (2014) noted. The show was banned, rejected, and censored by all film distributors unless they edited out the part which featured Nina Hartley, a sex performer, and coach, fisting Jiz. Courtney and Jiz partnered up to express their frustrations on how the media downplays fisting, gearing towards enhancing awareness on the good side of fisting, creating the first international fisting day.

Debunking Fisting Myths

I used to believe that fisting is a kinky action performed only in porn. I thought fisting was scary and painful. However, after my first-hand fisting experience at an adult-only party I had attended, my perspective about this sensual act completely changed. Contrary to what most people think, fisting is a kinky erotic play that can enhance bonding in partners when done appropriately. I fisted more people than I had expected as my friends and other attendees took advantage of my tiny arms to have their first-hand insertion experiences. I did not expect to fall for fisting, and it was a thing that I thought did not apply in an average guy's sex life.

I frequently engage in fisting with my partner as she loves the idea of being tickled as the hand penetrates her ass and vagina. My partner and I have grown fond of each other as we set to explore and feed our fetishes and fantasies. Newbies should focus on what they love and care less about what people say.

Most myths about fisting are untrue; the taboo is for people who are not ready to embrace their inner sexual desires. Why do people like terming sex activities that play a huge in our sex lives taboo? Breaking the social, cultural, and religious beliefs tied to sex practices is key to free and happy sex life.

The international fisting day helps people change their views on this natural and pleasurable cat. Like Jiz and Courtney, more people are educated on the positives of fisting as the mass learns more openly about what it truly is and how to engage safely, as Petro (2015) stated. 

There are practical tips that can pave the way for you and your lover. Below are tips to employ when celebrating International Fisting Day this October. 

Consent

Getting your partners on the same side on what to expect is essential before trying fisting activities; not everyone is willing to go down with you. Talk to your lover about the pleasure of fisting, watch some videos, and learn other tricks to make it more comfortable. With their consent, you can engage in fisting. 

Set the Mood

Prepare for fisting. You can try setting the right lighting, equipping yourself with lubes and gloves, cutting the nails, and finding the right time and place. 

Take It Slow

Foreplay is the first step to fisting. Caress, lick, kiss, or gently finger the receiver's erogenous zones to get them sexually aroused, as Wassersug et al. (2017) noted. You can also warm up with different sex toys to build up the intensity of the final part. Avoid rushing things. The receiver should be relaxed and listen to how your body responds when getting fisted. Stop when you feel pain and keep communicating with your partner. 

Apply Lubes and Wear Gloves

Lubes before and during fisting are the key to smooth and pleasurable experiences. The partner inserting should be gentle with the act and apply plenty of lubes as possible. Wearing latex gloves can bring the whole experience to new heights as they are softer and smoother and cannot cause any grabbing caused by the skin. 

Insert A Finger at A Time

Don't insert the whole hand at a go to discover pleasure by bit. Build up the moment as you try a limb slowly before adding another. The goal is to derive pleasure, not see if your hands fit your partner's vagina or ass.

Get Creative with The Fisting

Try different techniques like the chef's kiss, which entails the hands shaped in a way resembling pinching salt to spice the process. With the four fingers slightly above the thumb, rock your hand in circular motions as the receiver slides up and down with them. Introduce the thumb slowly and stretch your lover’s holes with a fist or punch shape as you rub the p-spot and G-spot for added fun. 

Aftercare

Listen to how the receiver wants you to pull out the fist when removing your hand. Some might like fast removal while others prefer it slow. Using lubes, cleaning up and other good aftercare practices top up the whole experience. 

Conclusion

The next International Fisting Day will be held on October 21, 2022. Make it your tenacity to celebrate sexual liberation in the best way possible. People can share the good news about this kinky act and help clarify misunderstandings to allow others to explore their sexual desires. Happy International Fisting Day to you all.

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Moorman, J. E. (2014). Women On Top: The Work Of Female Pornographers And" Sexperimental" Filmmakers (Doctoral Dissertation, UCLA).

Petro, A. M. (2015). After The Wrath Of God: AIDS, Sexuality, And American Religion. Oxford University Press, USA.

Richters, J., De Visser, R. O., Rissel, C. E., Grulich, A. E., & Smith, A. M. (2008). Demographic And Psychosocial Features Of Participants In Bondage And Discipline, “Sadomasochism” Or Dominance And Submission (BDSM): Data From A National Survey. The Journal Of Sexual Medicine, 5(7), 1660-1668.

Wassersug, R. J., Westle, A., & Dowsett, G. W. (2017). Men's Sexual And Relational Adaptations To Erectile Dysfunction After Prostate Cancer Treatment. International Journal Of Sexual Health, 29(1), 69-79.