THE ART OF SEXTING: TIPS, GUIDELINES, AND EXAMPLES FOR MEN

Sexting is the sending of sexual texts through electronic devices. Be polite, text casually, and respond promptly to texts before you begin sexting. This blog has tips and guidelines on the art of sexting.

While sexting is an art, it is delivered with much creativity that the recipient responds with because it is beautiful. A man and a woman communicate via tech logical devices, e.g., through texts on the phone, and there is some attraction between them, it's only a matter of time before they start sexting. They'll want to get physically involved with each other by texting. Sexting is easy since you have probably had sex already if you are dating. Below are some sexting tips, guidelines, and examples for men when intending to sext a person who is not their partner yet;

Be About Pleasantries.

The road to sex chatting always starts with greetings. Initially, you'll be all about greetings in the morning and evening. Few people will ignore your greetings unless your profile picture is bad. Whichever platform you use, make sure yours looks nice. Whether you get a response and more texting will depend wholly on your profile picture if there are profile pictures as soon as you text "hi," Besides sending pleasantries, the most you can do is ask them how they spent their day. But do not go in too hard and start interrogating them with questions like "Where do you work?". It's off-putting. Taylor & Harper (2003) advised couples to text their "good morning," "hi," and "goodnight" every day if they are away.

Text Casually

Texting means talking about everything shared by everyone else, like the weather or the economy or some politics. Try your best to be interesting.

You are like a hunter that's about to pounce. You must be smart and patient. You wish you could go straight into sexting, but you do not want to scare off your prey. Ensure to chat casually. Do not text anything serious. You may be the best debater on earth, but you won't lose anything if you let your target win all the arguments. You will emerge the winner eventually. You have to focus on the prize.

Respond Promptly

According to Grace (2011), a prompt response shows that you are interested and well-mannered. It also ensures consistency and puts you out there as a reliable person. As soon as their text comes in, you should be there to respond. Being prompt makes texting more fun. If you respond after days, the person you want will forget you. Appearing in people's lives and disappearing anytime is a way of teaching them how to live without you while responding promptly makes a partner fond of you. You are out of their sight and mind if they liked you and you disappear.

Be Consistent

You have to be available every morning for a chat if you always chat at night. You'll have to be available every night. Be consistent. Give someone a reason to be excited at certain times of the day because it's chat time. They seem like dependable people when they are consistent. Make your partner eager to get to their phone to chat with you because they miss you.

Be Polite

Apologize when they offend you. According to Chen (1993), be polite and be on your best behavior because you want to impress your new friend that you are nice. Have courtesy. Try not to offend them.

Give Them A Pet Name.

According to Crompton (2003), the first sign of endearment is a nice pet name like "hun" or"sweetheart" or "sweets," But not "darling" because it's for couples, and it may seem like you are rushing things. Avoid possessive pet names if the person you are chatting with is not your partner. You are giving them a pet name because you do not want to find yourself in the friend zone. You'll know that you are on the right track if they respond to the pet name in kind, but you are already in the friend-zone if they seem uncomfortable with that pet name.

Do Not Be Too Slow

You cannot be chatting every day, and you are not giving hints that you want something more like a sex chat and something extra. Your partner will tell you a story of how they are going out with someone on a date they've met that day if you are too slow. You need to let your target know that you are not there for just a friendship, and you'll need to send sexual hints at this point. Text something like, "your curves drive me crazy." You'll become an asexual human being in that person's mind, and they'll think you are friends if you do not send hints. You'll be good for friendship and nothing more.

Do Not Send Your Nudes Until They Ask You.

Don't ask them for nudes until they offer to send you some. While exchanging nudes is usually not a great idea, when you start exchanging nudes or talking about sex, you have leveled up and are now sexually attracted to each other. You also trust each other. You could exchange nudes that do not have your faces or identifiable birthmarks and tattoos. Sexting will be like a rolling stone down the hill. Then it means that you understand the art of sexting if you reach this level.

Conclusion

Sexting is not just about sending sexual texts and maybe meeting up for actual sex. Texting is important because sexting is like foreplay. You build the anticipation, and meeting up will be the climax. You also find out more about each other. You can lay out your fantasies. Texting is fun because even shy people can do it. The shy person doesn't worry about being judged or put off. No one worries about that when writing texts. Texting is also great for seduction. It gives you a chance to show off how good you are with words. Such people would have to write letters in the past, but you can write your short sexual text and get immediate feedback thanks to technology.

References

Crompton, L. (2003). Homosexuality And Civilization. Harvard University Press.

Chen, R. (1993). Responding To Compliments A Contrastive Study Of Politeness Strategies Between American English And Chinese Speakers. Journal Of Pragmatics, 20(1), 49-75.

Grace, F. (2011). Learning As A Path, Not A Goal: Contemplative Pedagogy–Its Principles And Practices. Teaching Theology & Religion, 14(2), 99-124.

Taylor, A. S., & Harper, R. (2003). The Gift Of The Gab?: A Design-Oriented Sociology Of Young People's Use Of Mobiles. Computer Supported Cooperative Work (CSCW), 12(3), 267-296.